CaliGuy Posted September 12, 2010 Posted September 12, 2010 My suggestion is to never, ever reply to her at all. All she wants is to feel good about herself, not you. If you reply, mean or happy, she'll still get the validation she wants. Silence is the best medicine for her.
Author Dante311 Posted September 12, 2010 Author Posted September 12, 2010 My suggestion is to never, ever reply to her at all. All she wants is to feel good about herself, not you. If you reply, mean or happy, she'll still get the validation she wants. Silence is the best medicine for her. This is exactly why you're an LS Guru and I am naught more than a wee student.
Author Dante311 Posted September 13, 2010 Author Posted September 13, 2010 It's been a few days... and I really want to reply, but I don't know how...
Author Dante311 Posted September 13, 2010 Author Posted September 13, 2010 Wish I could send to Nicole... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showpost.php?p=2993514&postcount=3630 I try to look within my heart for strength, but every day this resistance I build wanes and my desire to respond ... regardless of approach... intensifies...
CaliGuy Posted September 13, 2010 Posted September 13, 2010 It's been a few days... and I really want to reply, but I don't know how... No, no, no. You need to stop pining over her. See, when she dumped you she basically took control from you. The fact that you still want to reach out to her, to break contact, you are basically saying "You still own me!" If you want to take control back then you stick to NC. You have nothing to gain from reaching out to her. NOTHING! If she really wanted to be with you she wouldn't have left. The fact is, she didn't see things the same way you did so she CHOSE to walk away. Now the best thing you can do is respect her decision by making a clean break from her. Focus on yourself. Focus on healing. Get to the gym. Find new hobbies. Hang out with friends. Stop making HER the focus of your thoughts. She doesn't matter anymore... Cheers, mate.
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