alfatitine Posted September 12, 2010 Share Posted September 12, 2010 First forgive me for my English! I do my best! (Im french canadian). I have an affaire with a married man since 8 months now... Don't judge me please. Time after time feelings was coming between us... they get more than more stronger till... Everything was cool till the day where I told him that the night before I saw him I was going to a gala of my ex (with who I was 3 years). I told him that I left the gala to go home alone after one hour. But I saw on his face that he was being weird. We had a discussion about that he said that I should not go to see my ex who was not a good guy with me and I give hope to my ex... and also that I was still into my ex. Well ok! I went made and get into the room... He finished to come take me in his arms and told me that we just need to hang no sex. Fine! After 30 min in bed he starting to do a weird thing with his fingers... like a gynecologic examen (weird way to touch me inside like if he was trying to guess if I ****ed with my ex the night before)... and after he smell his fingers ... (weird) we finished to make it... I told him I love you at this moment then he got more weird and told me why did I didnt told him that before like in the evening.. for finally told me "I make you love I dont **** you"! Before he left me (still weird) he put back his ring on his finger (he never did it before).Gived me a kiss and left and told me dont look at me depressed. I was supposed to see him 3 days after but he declined it... 2 days after he sent me a text "I come back soon". The next morning "I think about you". 7 days laters I found out a picture with his wife in town with him (ok its normal they are married but he never uploaded any pictures of them so I think it was to bite me... the pictures at my ex gala are online too so I think it was to give me the money back). Im acting like if I didnt saw those pictures. But he know I saw them. Since he sounds like doesnt want to let me know nothing. Does he still have feelings for me? We gonna see each others again? When? No idea! Should I call him? Or let him play like a mad baby? Its been almost 2 weeks now! Link to post Share on other sites
BB07 Posted September 12, 2010 Share Posted September 12, 2010 Oh my gosh, this man IS married and he got all pissy with you for going to something that your ex was going to be there? He has no right to do that to you, remember he is married. AND.......then he put his fingers inside of you and smelled them to see if you had had sex! :sick: I honestly thought I was going to puke in my mouth when I read that! Do you understand that is NOT normal behavior and that is sick and twisted?? Something is WRONG with this man, he sounds way off the charts on the jealousy thing. You are only 8 months into this affair, so you can't know him really well and frankly behavior as you have already describes sends out huge yellow caution signs as to possible future behavior. What he did to you is demeaning and not normal in any way, please consider that you need to think seriously that this man is not normal, please before you get hurt. I speak from personal experience as to the nature of jealous and abusive men and this has danger written all over it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author alfatitine Posted September 12, 2010 Author Share Posted September 12, 2010 Oh my gosh, this man IS married and he got all pissy with you for going to something that your ex was going to be there? He has no right to do that to you, remember he is married. AND.......then he put his fingers inside of you and smelled them to see if you had had sex! :sick: I honestly thought I was going to puke in my mouth when I read that! Do you understand that is NOT normal behavior and that is sick and twisted?? Something is WRONG with this man, he sounds way off the charts on the jealousy thing. You are only 8 months into this affair, so you can't know him really well and frankly behavior as you have already describes sends out huge yellow caution signs as to possible future behavior. What he did to you is demeaning and not normal in any way, please consider that you need to think seriously that this man is not normal, please before you get hurt. I speak from personal experience as to the nature of jealous and abusive men and this has danger written all over it. that was one of my girlfriend said! He is the one who is married and he do that! Also my ex bf (who actually dont know that I have an affaire with him) told me that he saw my actual MM in one of his expo! I still wonder why he went there... Link to post Share on other sites
September Posted September 12, 2010 Share Posted September 12, 2010 My xMM used to get incredibly jealous of my xH's and my relationship even though I had stopped having any sexual relations with my husband (prior to d-day). It was okay for him to still sleep with his wife but on occassion when he did sleep with his wife it was because "I did it to stop her from being suspicious". Even after I had separated from my H, he couldn't stand it if we sat down to discuss the separation, he would sulk like a little boy!! After both of our d-days, he got his wish that we could be together, he then dropped me like a hot cake and ran home. Go figure!! Link to post Share on other sites
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