Noah Posted February 23, 2004 Share Posted February 23, 2004 Okay heres the deal. I started datign this girl who had recently broke up with he boyfriend because he wasnted to go to far with her. We went out for a while but she was really afraid of commitment and all and never really wanted to let me be her boyfriend. Thing is I really like d this girl, so I didnt give up and it went o this way for about 6-7 months. I finally just gave up because I was getting no where, only to find out she was seeing some other guy. I asked her about ti and she told me she didnt have a boyfriend, but one of my friends went to her birthday party only to find that some guy was introduced as her boyfriend to all the guests. So on one hand I have this girl who says shes not involved but then tohers are telling me otherwise. Now, I wouldnt have a problem with this except for the fact that i tried so hard to get her to be with me and she just never did, and the reason was never because she didnt like me, it was because she didnt want a relationship. But now some toher guy moves in and is easily accepted as the boyfriend. Its a bit frustrating to say the least. Any advice on how i should handle/cope with this? Link to post Share on other sites
supermom Posted February 23, 2004 Share Posted February 23, 2004 Sounds like she didn't want to hurt you. Seems that you should ask her specifically about what your friends saw. If she lies to you, then I'd move on. I know you really like her, but it has to be on both ends for it to work. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
faux Posted February 23, 2004 Share Posted February 23, 2004 I'd confront her about this. Let her know exactly what your friends saw and told you about. I can tell you this however: If she left a guy to go for you she isn't worth keeping. She'll just do it again. A few exes of mine were like this. I learned the hard way. Heck, one of mine is trying to be all nice to me after a year telling me she never cheated and never did quite a few things. No matter what her defense, she's said and done things to the contrary. Then there are supposed witnesses (Such as in your situation, with your friends.) I wouldn't waste my time with this girl. If you're upset about things she's doing and she wants to come talk to you as if nothing is the matter, then please show her you're displeased. That's what I do. I may be forgiving enough to want to talk to a lot of my past lovers, but when something gets brought up I'm more than happy to announce how unhappy I am with them in such respect. Link to post Share on other sites
dario Posted February 23, 2004 Share Posted February 23, 2004 Faux, An ex trying to be nice after a year (sorry to butt into this thread)...but how do you deal with this? I know I posted before. But I am consumed with a brewing sense of 'unleashing the devil'. This ex really did some terrible things and now, bored with her fiance to be, she has made a return. Can I confront? Link to post Share on other sites
ashzz Posted March 2, 2004 Share Posted March 2, 2004 stay away from the girl man. I just out of a relationship with this exact type of woman, and though for some twisted reason I still miss her, I know and am damn glad to be rid of her. Link to post Share on other sites
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