fultanic Posted February 23, 2004 Share Posted February 23, 2004 So I've known this girl for probably about 6 months or so. I'm 22 and a senior in college, and she's 24 and graduated last year. I always thought she was cute but nothing really happened until just after Thanksgiving. We started flirting quite a bit and I could tell that we just had natural chemistry together, but I didn't feel I should try anything because she had a boyfriend. We saw each other over the next few weeks and I could start to tell that she kind of liked me. So a week before Christmas I joined her and some friends for a night out. When I got there she ran to me, hugged me, and held my hand. About an hour later one of her friends told me that she really liked me, but she was sad about breaking up with her long-term boyfriend she had been with, and didn't know about starting anything for fear she might hurt me. So I decided to play it cool for a while, and just let things go as they had been, and not try to be very pushy. So, over the course of January we just kind of went along like we had been, playing "cute" little games, neither of us fessing up to any interest. But about two weeks ago we were both drunk one night, and she called me and we finally admitted we had feelings for each other. I asked her then if she had any other "suitors," and she said yes, but said she had no intention with any of them. Then she said she wanted me to stick around although she still is still sad about her boyfriend, but doesn't want to go back to him either. She said I make her so happy and she enjoys being with me, and I'm so funny and handsome...blah...blah...blah. Then she says she's not leading me on and has a genuine interest in me. Over the course of that week we probably talked on the phone for about 6 or 7 hours, and it started to seem like things were finally going to proceed. It seemed like both of us were starting to develop strong feelings for each other. So I send her flowers for Valentine's Day. But they weren't red roses or anything, and the message didn't have anything to do with Valentine's Day. It was just kind of a funny card I wrote and a nice sentiment to brighten her day and she really liked it, and we talked that night. But suddenly, last week, I didn't hear anything from her, so I got worried because things were progressing finally very well and all of a sudden...nothing. So naturally, as a stupid man, I got impatient and pissed off. Thursday I called and left a sarcastic message about it on her phone. She called me back later that night, and I kind of got on her case and told her she was acting like a kid playing all these games. She said she would "call back in ten minutes" when she got home, and I haven't heard from her since. Now I'm worried and depressed because I have really developed strong feelings for her and I don't know what I've done. I fear that I was just some guy that made her laugh, listened to her, and treated her well...so I was just some kind of confidence buffer zone between her last boyfriend and her future life. And I feel all the nice things she's said to me and all her kindness has been a bunch of crap. I don't know why she's freaking out, so someone out there please help. P.S. I've also taken an exile from calling or texting her. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted February 23, 2004 Share Posted February 23, 2004 What you've done is rather than call her and ask why you haven't heard from her, you called her up and acted like a jerk. I wouldn't return such a call, either, and I'd dump any idiot who didn't have the courtesy to ask before he accused. Grow up. And look for someone else because you've blown this one. Link to post Share on other sites
Author fultanic Posted February 23, 2004 Author Share Posted February 23, 2004 Yeah, at first I was acting like a jerk, but towards the end of that conversation it improved and it felt okay. And we were both drunk, which didn't help either. Link to post Share on other sites
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