It's over...

[FanFan]

 

He said 'We'll get together again... in heaven'..

 

 

Heaven? Are you kidding me!!!

[Lizzie60]

I'm sorry Lizzie. Not sure how I miss your thread. Hope your doing ok.

 

 

Mea:)

 

 

Hi sweetie.. don't worry I'm fine.. haven't heard back from him.. but I know I will.. one day.. but I'm not interested anymore.. it will be 'NO'

[Dexter Morgan]

Heaven? Are you kidding me!!! :D

 

no, he probably isn't kidding. And when the time comes he'll say to himself...."phew...I didn't know it was this damn hot in heaven.....where are all the clouds??"

[Dexter Morgan]

HUGS Lizzie.

Hope all is still well on your end of the world.

You do go to show that OW have feelings too.

 

everyone has feelings.

 

what I see a lack of is compassion for those that they are helping to hurt.

[Dexter Morgan]

Yes it does.

 

 

Is it okay for a spouse to withhold sex and yet demand sexual fidelity from her partner?

 

no, its not. provided they are truly withholding sex as opposed to being just tired.

 

I read a post long ago that the husband cheated, his excuse was that she was always too tired to have sex.......she wanted sex....but had to wait for the H to get off the playstation at midnight....he wakes her up and wonders why at that time she is too tired?

 

I agree, withholding sex because they aren't attracted or turned on by the spouse, no, its not right.

 

but thats no excuse to cheat. Leave the damn marriage if its that bad.

 

I didn't get sex in my M, you didn't see me going out and sticking it in other women.

 

 

Is it only cheating if a person gets sex elsewhere? Is it not cheating and breaking the marriage vow when a person says that he or she will be faithful and therefore sexual with his or her partner...and then withholds sex?

 

although withholding sex would be pretty freakin' bad, I don't recall anywhere in vows that says, "to forever put out on demand"

 

As one who has been there too often, I can say that the pain from the rejection is not easy to bear.

 

i agree....i was right there with ya....and again, I didn't use it as an excuse to cheat. I just learned to live without.

 

I could have left, but then again, I wasn't going to cheat and lack of sex wasn't reason enough to break up my kids' home.

[herenow]

no, he probably isn't kidding. And when the time comes he'll say to himself...."phew...I didn't know it was this damn hot in heaven.....where are all the clouds??"

 

Dex you crack me up.

[Dexter Morgan]

Dex you crack me up.

 

Or it could be like that Got Milk commercial where the guy dies, is given cookies and thinks its heaven.....until he realizes there is no milk to wash the cookies down with.

[herenow]

Or it could be like that Got Milk commercial where the guy dies, is given cookies and thinks its heaven.....until he realizes there is no milk to wash the cookies down with.

 

I think it's laughable that heaven is even mentioned in the same breath as infidelity. Remember those pesky 10 commandments. You can't invoke religion, and/or religious beliefs, and ignore them.

 

In case anyone did forget, there is one special commandment written for this very special occasion. "You shall not commit adultery".

[Dexter Morgan]

I think it's laughable that heaven is even mentioned in the same breath as infidelity. .

 

I agree. just shows how much of a dumbass this guy was. cheat on his wife, risk losing everything, and think that him and his cheating partner will see each other in heaven....as if he is practicing the life of someone that is actually going there.

[Meaplus3]

Hi sweetie.. don't worry I'm fine.. haven't heard back from him.. but I know I will.. one day.. but I'm not interested anymore.. it will be 'NO'

 

Glad your ok! Your one strong lady.

 

Mea:)