monkey00 Posted February 23, 2004 Share Posted February 23, 2004 anyway i met this girl last semester, she is sociable...but only if you approach her first, she's not an approacher basically. she had a lot to talk about after i broke the ice. i have class again w/her this yr. she intimidates guys cause she's hot and doesnt smile/rarely does. she's somewhat sad inside, and insecure cause a relationship ended a few months ago?? i dunno and moving out of her bf's place is tough as she says. she wants to talk about her problems, but she blurted that part of her bf and moving out to me. she told me straight out she is a little insecure with ppl, probably cause of her bf hurting her from break up. i remember last semester i saw she was looking down, i asked what's wrong, then she said nothing, how'd you tell that i was looking down? i said "look, it's ok, if you got any problems or wanna talk to anyone, you can let me know." she said "nah it's ok, i dont wanna bug you about my probs." she feels despair inside maybe? and needs someoen to brighten her day? she was paying her tuition. i was standing next to her...then awhile later i went to the side to wait up. then she looked behind to see where i went. every so often i catch her look at me at class, she sits next to me. she asks me where im going when class ends. she asked if i wanted to go w/her to pay her tuition. she's unmotivated to seek a job, she asks if i can hook her up w/one, i tell her i cant cause my boss not hiring. most of the time she stays at home. i got her # since last semester, but we never called each other. im the guy that's always positive, sociable, and confident. so guys, what exactly is she seeking from me?? security, someone she looks up to cause i make her feel good, or is interested in me? Link to post Share on other sites
GiveAndTake Posted February 23, 2004 Share Posted February 23, 2004 Which one of you have low self esteem and are insecure???? CALL HER FOR PETE'S SAKE! Link to post Share on other sites
clia Posted February 23, 2004 Share Posted February 23, 2004 Why are you so interested in a girl who is too lazy to find a job and who is riddled with problems? There are lots of motivated, healthy women out there! Link to post Share on other sites
fishman3226 Posted February 23, 2004 Share Posted February 23, 2004 Some women with low self esteem and confidence are only out to use people to build themselves up to be a person thewy are too shallow and naive to attain. Dont go near them, no matter how nice they are. Aint worth the trouble nor the pain. Link to post Share on other sites
Author monkey00 Posted February 24, 2004 Author Share Posted February 24, 2004 Originally posted by fishman3226 Some women with low self esteem and confidence are only out to use people to build themselves up to be a person thewy are too shallow and naive to attain. Dont go near them, no matter how nice they are. Aint worth the trouble nor the pain. *sob* i guess you're right, a part of me knows this is true. but she's just too cute, and has a sweet personality. she's not trying to use me in anyway or take advantage of me. i had an encounter with a bitch last semester, she seemed to have confidence, she tries to hide her low self esteem...she broke up with her ex fer a few months. buth truthfully this was a pure attention whore. she called me only when she needs something and still tried to do the same this semester! (ex: help with school, computers) i just said nah im busy. she does this to other ppl in school also. i find her to be a very selfish person, she only cares about herself. but yea ppl really need to do a self-analysis sometime to realize that they're bitches or dicks. Link to post Share on other sites
Author monkey00 Posted February 24, 2004 Author Share Posted February 24, 2004 the insecure girl i speak of at the beginning of this post said she's feeling lost in life. something like so. the bitch i spoke of was not lost, just likes to take advantage of ppl and not make friends with them. Link to post Share on other sites
BlockHead Posted February 24, 2004 Share Posted February 24, 2004 monkey the bitch i spoke of was not lost, just likes to take advantage of ppl and not make friends with them.I don’t think people like that believe they are taking advantage of others. They seem to think they have entitlements. For example, she might tell you to give for money, and to thank her for the privilege of giving her money. These people see nothing but perfection in themselves, and it is nothing more than a delusion monkey she's unmotivated to seek a job, she asks if i can hook her up w/oneWhat if she asked? Are there job openings where you work? Is your boss hiring? monkey she feels despair inside maybe? and needs someoen to brighten her day?Do you want to be with a person that needs fixing? Overall, I think she is lazy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author monkey00 Posted February 25, 2004 Author Share Posted February 25, 2004 Originally posted by BlockHead I don’t think people like that believe they are taking advantage of others. They seem to think they have entitlements. For example, she might tell you to give for money, and to thank her for the privilege of giving her money. These people see nothing but perfection in themselves, and it is nothing more than a delusion What if she asked? Are there job openings where you work? Is your boss hiring? Do you want to be with a person that needs fixing? Overall, I think she is lazy. well that bitch would occasionally ask me to go out of my way and do her a favor, the only reason she ever calls me. and she would throw in c'mon ill treat you to dinner. she always throws that in, thinking that she can "buy" her way through. i say i cant im busy. yea she does see perfection in herself and thinks she knows everything, but in the end she likes to use ppl for her benefit. such as success in school. well that girl asked this time this semester cause i promised her last semester that i would check to see if my boss was hiring since she did mention she cant find a job, but never got back to her. thats why she's asking again this semester. and since i have a greedy jewish boss, no he isnt hiring. ...well...today i saw her in class she came late, as usual! and clothing was all wrinkly and hair messed up. i asked "hey sleeping beauty, got up on the wrong side of the bed today?" lol hm..i dont know, she kinda seems to be ignoring me today 50/50. she has another friend in the class to chat w/other than me. i went out for a break and came back, eye contacted and smiled at each other. i tapped her on the shoulder and she said "you scared me" i go i know. i think that was my first time touching her. hm..i dont know why the sudden change in attitude, but maybe she has some interest in me? i dont know. when i was leaving class and she got back, had to buy something...i said so that's where you went, she didnt answer me. i dont know why the sudden change in attitude. Link to post Share on other sites
spencer Posted February 26, 2004 Share Posted February 26, 2004 If I were her, down and depressed - been there - and someone positive, thoughtful, and socially outgoing was showing me attention. I would want to be with that person. You would be in a place (emotionally) that I would like to be in. Just enjoying your company would lift my spirits too. Link to post Share on other sites
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