Is feeling numb normal?

[Hopelesslyforgotten]

Hey, my ex and I have been broken up for a couple weeks now...i was depressed and cried almost every day.

 

Now I find myself just feeling numb, like I have no feeling. I do still have periods of sadness when I do break down and cry, but is it normal to just feel an overall feeling of numbness?

[pandagirl]

Hey, my ex and I have been broken up for a couple weeks now...i was depressed and cried almost every day.

 

Now I find myself just feeling numb, like I have no feeling. I do still have periods of sadness when I do break down and cry, but is it normal to just feel an overall feeling of numbness?

 

Yes. You are going to be going through a range of emotions until everything starts to balance itself out. This is also your body's way of saying: "OK, enough crying. Here's a different emotion so you won't hurt so much."

 

Yesterday I felt heartbroken, and today I feel angry!

[Hopelesslyforgotten]

Oh Panda, this sucks. Now I am back to crying. My mind wants to get over this but as cliche as this sounds, my heart doesn't want to.

[pandagirl]

Oh Panda, this sucks. Now I am back to crying. My mind wants to get over this but as cliche as this sounds, my heart doesn't want to.

 

I know. Don't worry, I pretty much cry at least three times a day. It's what you're supposed to do. At the same time, you have to make small efforts to take care of yourself too. I am trying to hang out with my friends, go to concerts, etc.

 

I am not contacting my ex for a while. Guess what? He's the one who let me go. He knows how to reach me.

[smk]

Oh Panda, this sucks. Now I am back to crying. My mind wants to get over this but as cliche as this sounds, my heart doesn't want to.

 

Hey.... Welcome to the emotional rollercoaster...

 

Everything you feel is completely normal, you will have moments where you will cry, moments where you will be angry, moments where you will be sad, moments where you will feel numb and daresay I say moments where you will laugh and be genuinely happy about something, anything and finally moments where you will feel every emotional conceivable to man and then some...

 

The key is to actually ride the emotions and not try to deny or suppress them... The

More you choose not to accept them the worse it will get... Take each day, each moment at a time but don't dwell on it... I know it's a lot easier said than done but trust me things will get better... I know you don't want to hear this but you have to give it time...

 

Read the threads here, post here; and go NC it's the only way forward...

 

Good luck and be strong, and like I said ride the emotion out but don't dwell on it...

[Hopelesslyforgotten]

I know. Don't worry, I pretty much cry at least three times a day. It's what you're supposed to do. At the same time, you have to make small efforts to take care of yourself too. I am trying to hang out with my friends, go to concerts, etc.

 

I am not contacting my ex for a while. Guess what? He's the one who let me go. He knows how to reach me.

 

Ugh, i'm trying my hardest to keep busy...and now I just threw my back out so i'm stuck in bed...only to keep thinking and rethinking the breakup over and over.

 

It's so emotionally tiring going through these emotions...and frustrating!

[Hopelesslyforgotten]

Hey.... Welcome to the emotional rollercoaster...

 

Everything you feel is completely normal, you will have moments where you will cry, moments where you will be angry, moments where you will be sad, moments where you will feel numb and daresay I say moments where you will laugh and be genuinely happy about something, anything and finally moments where you will feel every emotional conceivable to man and then some...

 

The key is to actually ride the emotions and not try to deny or suppress them... The

More you choose not to accept them the worse it will get... Take each day, each moment at a time but don't dwell on it... I know it's a lot easier said than done but trust me things will get better... I know you don't want to hear this but you have to give it time...

 

Read the threads here, post here; and go NC it's the only way forward...

 

Good luck and be strong, and like I said ride the emotion out but don't dwell on it...

 

This is probably the most frustrating i've ever felt....it's emotionally draining to feel so many different emotions...

 

you're right, I do have to just accept the emotions, I just am emotionally tired of dealing with them...and looking way to far ahead is definitely my problem, I need to focus on getting through this day.

 

I just want to get myself out of this rollercoaster and feel ok again

 

Thanks for both of your replies SMK and Panda!

[pandagirl]

This is probably the most frustrating i've ever felt....it's emotionally draining to feel so many different emotions...

 

you're right, I do have to just accept the emotions, I just am emotionally tired of dealing with them...and looking way to far ahead is definitely my problem, I need to focus on getting through this day.

 

I just want to get myself out of this rollercoaster and feel ok again

 

Thanks for both of your replies SMK and Panda!

 

Of course. I feel like we are on the same breakup timeline.

 

I miss him so much! I just want to call him and hear how he is doing.

 

Just remember, everyone get their heartbroken. It's universal. And we all get through it.

[oxfordsocks]

Of course. I feel like we are on the same breakup timeline.

 

I miss him so much! I just want to call him and hear how he is doing.

 

Just remember, everyone get their heartbroken. It's universal. And we all get through it.

 

If losing someone that is alive feels this bad i don't know how people cope with death.

you are grieving and will go back and forth between all the stages of grief -as it is a loss. You are not alone. Everything reminds me of the other person-even my damn dental floss. Be kind to yourself

[Hopelesslyforgotten]

Of course. I feel like we are on the same breakup timeline.

 

I miss him so much! I just want to call him and hear how he is doing.

 

Just remember, everyone get their heartbroken. It's universal. And we all get through it.

 

I also feel the same way! It is comforting that people like yourself Panda are here to kind of help me when I am down the most.

 

I miss my ex so much as well. Yesterday my ex and I texted and it was kind of the official we are never getting back together...blah blah...but I prepared myself for that when we originally broke up although I still had hope that we would figure something out. Btw, hope really is one of the most horrible emotions one can have right now after a breakup. I wish I wasn't hopeful but I couldn't help it...and I know that glimpse of hope did set me back some...I could be so much better off right now, but I can't change that now.

 

Sigh.

[Hopelesslyforgotten]

If losing someone that is alive feels this bad i don't know how people cope with death.

you are grieving and will go back and forth between all the stages of grief -as it is a loss. You are not alone. Everything reminds me of the other person-even my damn dental floss. Be kind to yourself

 

Ugh, seriously...Literally something so unrelated makes me think of him. It really drives me crazy how I can see something and my thinking goes straight to a memory I had of him and I when we were together. I just want to get through this and be happy again, it's so hard when everything I see/think about I relate back to him.

[cody19]

A comment to what you said earlier.

 

 

It isn't the best way to explain.. since no one that was my S.O. or parent or sibling died....

 

But I honestly feel worse now that my girlfriend (happy for all of it both of us) of 2 years broke up with me.... than I did when my grandma who I was close to and who lived a block away died.

 

Grant it when she died I was VERY sad. but that was about all I had, sadness. I missed her, and I wanted to see her again. The only time I got angry was at myself for not going to see her the weekend before because I didn't want to... I said I didn't feel good so I wouldn't have to.

 

With my now ex.. my emotions are everywhere. Happy when I think how great things were so this breakup wont last. Angry when I think of what she is putting me through. Sad when I think of never being with her again (we discussed our future together a lot.)

 

I think with a grandma you expect it to happen sooner or later though you know.

 

When my grandma died... I lost someone close.. but it almost seems more like I lost someone who helped me grow from a little boy and was there to watch me grow. Losing this other special person in my life was supposed to be the new person to grow with me, to share everything with.

 

And just a side note... I was very upset at times when I thought about how my grandma never got to meet the girl who made me the happiest guy on earth. I still wish they could have met each other, my grandma would have loved her to death. I'm starting to get sad thinking about that and my situation so I'm going to end this...

 

 

 

 

And I know what you mean by something totally unrelated. She went to school with me (now is in another country) and I'm living in the dorm building she did last year (and was supposed to this year) and just keying into the front door sparks memories of going to hang out with her. Every little thing about this place makes me think of us hanging out and enjoying it. I want all of that back.

[Ajax]

If losing someone that is alive feels this bad i don't know how people cope with death.

you are grieving and will go back and forth between all the stages of grief -as it is a loss. You are not alone. Everything reminds me of the other person-even my damn dental floss. Be kind to yourself

 

I know exactly how that feels. The day after my ex left me I walked into the bathroom, saw her toothbrush and sat on the floor and sobbed for half an hour. Random things just trigger the memories. When we exchanged our things I even threw the stupid toothbrush in the bag, hoping when she pulled it out she'd have the same reaction. Don't know if she did or not. Doesn't really matter now.

[Hopelesslyforgotten]

I am so sorry to hear about your situation Cody.

 

I completely agree and understand what you mean. It's almost a totally different type of grieving process because they are different type of relationships. I have experienced several deaths of loved ones in my life unfortunately, and the sadness is almost completely different then the sadness I feel with my ex right now... if that makes sense.

 

It sucks when everything reminds you of your ex. I try to think about ANYTHING else that I possibly can...but sometimes it just doesn't work...and then I break down again...

 

It just makes me wonder if my ex is experiencing the same things...like does something..anything...trigger memories of us...

 

sometimes I just feel like I am a prisoner in my own thoughts but i know I need to get out of this thinking!

[sarkandlauren]

I too think that it's harder for a bad breakup than losing someone over death. When someone died, you grief, it's very very sad of course, but you know that it's closure, they ain't coming back from the dead, so you have accepted the fact that they will no longer be in your life.

 

With breakups, there are alot more emotions involved, anger, sad, depression, doubt, lost self confidence, all sorts of emotions. The worse thing is, alot of us still hang on to hope, or false hope i should say, because this person is not dead, there can be a possibility that they will come back.... argghh... i don't even want to think about it.

 

But yes, it's normal to get numb.

[Sonolumino]

I can definitely relate to this. I really have become numb to everything in the past 10 days. I'm not sad, not happy, just numb. Anything that happens I seem to be ok with it. I don't want her back, but if I saw her I don't think I would react. It disturbs me because I don't want to let the love die, but I guess this is just part of the healing process. It's a very odd and somewhat eerie feeling.