Belongings!!!

[CM2009]

Hey LS, how are things. Well this issue of my crazy STBXW has to do with her not giving the rest of my belongings back to me. Back in July when we signed the papers it was agreed that I will let her hold on to the TV's, DVR's and DVD players all pretty much are expensive things that I've either brought or was given to us my*family as gifts*for a few months while she gets her stuff together. So when we wrote out the agreement of who takes what it was stated I get all those things and any other things that belong to me. So I told her earlier last month that I will be coming back in early Sept to get everything and she was like ok no problem. So heading into last wknd we communicated and I told her I wasn't going to be able to get it on Thursday but how is Friday and she said it was good. So she Friday comes and I was heading out on my lunch to get my stuff and when I told her I was coming she was like oh I'm not home. And we had an agreement that I would come and get it on this day and she was makin excuses that she had so much to do and of course we started going back and forth with each other. So she hangs up in my face and called back to see if canceled the cable which was under my name and she didn't pick up. So I figured we were done and movin on but ohhh no she called me back later that day going off on me and bringing up old drama from 3 yrs ago, I'm lookin like what is ur problem and me being foolish at the time and plus finding out that my job cut a lot of everyone's hrs. So with all that i argued with her (bad mov) for about 10 min.

 

So on to this wk I've been callin her and texting her so I can pick up my stuff, and everytime I do I never get a response so I just wanna get a few opinions on this matter, thanks!!!

Edited September 14, 2010 by CM2009

[heartbrokensj]

Hi CM2009,

 

Sounds like she is giving you the runaround and even purposely started an argument with you with the hopes that you will get mad enough to not want to come around and pick up those items. My best bet is that she does not want to give those items back to you and of course is not telling you directly because (a) maybe she doesnt have the time or money to replace those items or (b) she can replace if she wants to and just wants to give you a hard time because this her opportunity to do so .... Sorry I haven't had a chance to read up on your situation but in any case I wish you all the best...the next time you talk with her, try your best to not feed into any arguments she is trying to start...easier said than done, I know.

 

I do not know the the laws in your state but since its in a written agreement and I do not know if you want to go this far but can you get a police to escort you to the house so you can peacefully collect those things?

[The-Zen-Warrior]

This little story of yours, in regards to your "belongings" I can relate some what to it, for I kind of went through the same thing, but with only one item that being a nice LG 48 inch LCD television. Now I know all "soon to be" and true "ex-wives" are a little different in the way they deal with property. Now I'm not saying my example will prove to be what has happened in your case, but it's something to think about.

 

During the writing and finalization of our divorce paperwork at the time my "wife" was worried about entertaining our Son when he was over at her new place for visitations. She really hinted around about how it would be nice to be able to keep the big screen tv for our Son, while she tried to save up the money to buy something like that for herself. I think i got a little soft, mainly due to our Son being in this part of the paperworks picture. I told her fine, she can keep it "FOR A WHILE" I told her a couple months should do the trick and she should have herself a comparable television.

 

For "poop's and giggles" I had that fact of two months time to keep the television in our divorce paperwork. Well month #1 goes by, our Son enjoys having his old television at his Mom's new house, he's watching DVD's and playing X-Box on it. Fine, no problems, I know it still working and being used, not collecting dust. In the beginning of month #2 information about the LG LCD television stops flowing my way. I am no longer hearing about how it's helping our kid, being used, not collecting dust. in the middle of month #2 I start probing and testing the waters, I call her a couple times telling her on the 30th of the month I will be over at her house to pick up the television. She goes along with it, "No problem, that will be fine, I will be sure to have it cleaned up real good for you"! Well a couple days before the 30th I call again, this time I inquire about the purchase of a new tv, has she been out looking, did she find one, was it within her new founded budget?" you know stuff like that. From her I got a "yes I did find a new tv, a 50 inch LCD made by Vizio. Great glad to hear it, I'll be over in couple days to get my old one, I missed it.

 

This is when things for me got suspicious, for on that phone call I started getting a lot of 'heming and hawing" about maybe the 30th wouldn't work for her, lets make it the 5th of the new month, ok I'll go along with that. Next phone call on the 3rd of the new month I get from her, no the 5th wont due I got something to do, maybe make it for the 8th or even the 9th of the month. On the 7th of the month I didn't bother calling her to be put off once again, things didn't add up for me, the divorce paperwork stated two months, did that done! Now I let her have it damn near close to the middle of month #3, so I just drove over, parked my vehicle, got it ready to lug a big 48 inch, got up to the door and knocked. My ex-wife's new man answered the door, I got a very warm "what the hell do you want" out of him, I told him and he kind of chuckled, your former old lady can't give you something back that she doesn't have anymore.

 

I glanced all over her living room, my television was no where to be found. In short, her new man was right, she no longer had it, she sold it off as to try and get all legal ties I had to it severed and took the money from the sale and bought herself a brand new one, in her name only, as to link herself legally to the new one. I drove home fit to be tied, "Mother-F-er" and "S.O.B." and a lot of "what a piece of S" and some "two dollar crack pipe gutter whore", I was flaming out the mouth on my drive home. The next day I ran the information by my attorney, he told me it might take an extremely long time to get this into court and the Police really can't jump in because your old television is gone, they wouldn't find it if they were to go over there and search for themselves as to try and build a "theft charge".

 

So being tight on money and not really wanting to pay for another round of court paperwork, fees, and my attorney's fees I let the matter go! Needless to say that approx. 4-5 months after I wheeled and dealed myself into a nice 54 inch Sony plasma television on clearance close out at Best Buy.

 

Moral of the story, your soon to be ex wife may or may not have the property you stated above. Her, like my ex-wife may have pawned it for some coin! That may be the reason behind her not wanting to comply and meet up with you and let you pick the stuff up. I don't know, each case maybe is different, but in your case my guts are screaming "she sold some stuff"!

 

I don't know, I wish you luck in getting your property back, hope she settles down and plays ball soon.

[CM2009]

This little story of yours, in regards to your "belongings" I can relate some what to it, for I kind of went through the same thing, but with only one item that being a nice LG 48 inch LCD television. Now I know all "soon to be" and true "ex-wives" are a little different in the way they deal with property. Now I'm not saying my example will prove to be what has happened in your case, but it's something to think about.

 

During the writing and finalization of our divorce paperwork at the time my "wife" was worried about entertaining our Son when he was over at her new place for visitations. She really hinted around about how it would be nice to be able to keep the big screen tv for our Son, while she tried to save up the money to buy something like that for herself. I think i got a little soft, mainly due to our Son being in this part of the paperworks picture. I told her fine, she can keep it "FOR A WHILE" I told her a couple months should do the trick and she should have herself a comparable television.

 

For "poop's and giggles" I had that fact of two months time to keep the television in our divorce paperwork. Well month #1 goes by, our Son enjoys having his old television at his Mom's new house, he's watching DVD's and playing X-Box on it. Fine, no problems, I know it still working and being used, not collecting dust. In the beginning of month #2 information about the LG LCD television stops flowing my way. I am no longer hearing about how it's helping our kid, being used, not collecting dust. in the middle of month #2 I start probing and testing the waters, I call her a couple times telling her on the 30th of the month I will be over at her house to pick up the television. She goes along with it, "No problem, that will be fine, I will be sure to have it cleaned up real good for you"! Well a couple days before the 30th I call again, this time I inquire about the purchase of a new tv, has she been out looking, did she find one, was it within her new founded budget?" you know stuff like that. From her I got a "yes I did find a new tv, a 50 inch LCD made by Vizio. Great glad to hear it, I'll be over in couple days to get my old one, I missed it.

 

This is when things for me got suspicious, for on that phone call I started getting a lot of 'heming and hawing" about maybe the 30th wouldn't work for her, lets make it the 5th of the new month, ok I'll go along with that. Next phone call on the 3rd of the new month I get from her, no the 5th wont due I got something to do, maybe make it for the 8th or even the 9th of the month. On the 7th of the month I didn't bother calling her to be put off once again, things didn't add up for me, the divorce paperwork stated two months, did that done! Now I let her have it damn near close to the middle of month #3, so I just drove over, parked my vehicle, got it ready to lug a big 48 inch, got up to the door and knocked. My ex-wife's new man answered the door, I got a very warm "what the hell do you want" out of him, I told him and he kind of chuckled, your former old lady can't give you something back that she doesn't have anymore.

 

I glanced all over her living room, my television was no where to be found. In short, her new man was right, she no longer had it, she sold it off as to try and get all legal ties I had to it severed and took the money from the sale and bought herself a brand new one, in her name only, as to link herself legally to the new one. I drove home fit to be tied, "Mother-F-er" and "S.O.B." and a lot of "what a piece of S" and some "two dollar crack pipe gutter whore", I was flaming out the mouth on my drive home. The next day I ran the information by my attorney, he told me it might take an extremely long time to get this into court and the Police really can't jump in because your old television is gone, they wouldn't find it if they were to go over there and search for themselves as to try and build a "theft charge".

 

So being tight on money and not really wanting to pay for another round of court paperwork, fees, and my attorney's fees I let the matter go! Needless to say that approx. 4-5 months after I wheeled and dealed myself into a nice 54 inch Sony plasma television on clearance close out at Best Buy.

 

Moral of the story, your soon to be ex wife may or may not have the property you stated above. Her, like my ex-wife may have pawned it for some coin! That may be the reason behind her not wanting to comply and meet up with you and let you pick the stuff up. I don't know, each case maybe is different, but in your case my guts are screaming "she sold some stuff"!

 

I don't know, I wish you luck in getting your property back, hope she settles down and plays ball soon.

 

WOW!!!! thats terrible, well I had that in the back of mind as well...

[CM2009]

Well I finally got my things back, my goodness and everything looks like its working well. No drama + No issues = THANK YOU!!!!

[TaraMaiden]

Damn!

I was hoping this would turn into a 10-pager, 180-post thing.....

 

 

Is this all you can come up with?

No drama?

No histrionics?

No b*tching, fighting or scrapping?

No "if I don't have my stuff by sundown, the hamster get it!"....?

 

You disappoint me....

 

 

:laugh:

 

Glad it all worked out ok, pal....!

[CM2009]

Damn!

I was hoping this would turn into a 10-pager, 180-post thing.....

 

 

Is this all you can come up with?

No drama?

No histrionics?

No b*tching, fighting or scrapping?

No "if I don't have my stuff by sundown, the hamster get it!"....?

 

You disappoint me....

 

 

:laugh:

 

 

Glad it all worked out ok, pal....!

 

 

hahaha u know out of all the drama she's given me in was happy to ge my stuff back, but she was being a little difficult cause when I got there she left my dvr and DVD player on the front steps boxed up and I ranged the door bell she didn't answer but she was there so I called her cell when I went back to the car cause she forgot to give me the LCD and while I was in the car she put it on the front doorstep and I ranged the doorbell cause I wanted to check the garage to see if I had some shoes in there and I went back and the door was cracked so I opened it and said "hello" and got one of the keys to the garage and she yelled " I know your walkin in this house" I just laughed and graves the key and went into the garage. So nothing was in there so I left.

 

Now come to find out the her new dude who she left me for(by the way was married, divorce cause his wife found out) lives right down the street and I have to pass his apt before I get on the express way so I went to the Sprint store to handle some business and low and behold her car is at his place, ha my ex is a joke....but just wanted to share some insight on what actually happend today....

Edited September 17, 2010 by CM2009
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