Getting a date

[polysporin]

I'm 22, and because of my dating history of a 4 year relationship that ended a year ago I'm finally getting back into it, but wait, I can't remember what I am doing!

 

I landed my sights on a girl who was single four months ago, then she got back together with her ex and I was put off. A mutual friend introduced us. There was a very very attractive young girl chasing me at the time and this new girl I liked knew about the girl chasing me I'm sure. She told my friend that skinny guys aren't her thing. I'm a skinny guy. Everything was honky dory because I dismissed it, until she calls my friend one day asking for car buying help.

 

I'm a car guy myself.

 

SO my friend gets me involved because he knew I liked her, SO I start helping and we are all getting to know each other really well while car shopping. I really start to like her! And she starts talking about how she is finally going to end it with her boyfriend for good. But also mentions another guy she likes a bit....sigh... She mentions how she has no guy friends and really appreciates us.

 

But then she invites us to her Birthday this last week, no boyfriend came. We are the only two guys with like 15 girls. wow. The night went well, I don't dance despite the fact that she invited us dacing. As friends?

 

Anyways. We still have yet to find her a car because her criteria is insane. My friend was busy ..so yesterday the two of us are looking and she says she is hungry. So I took her to this really nice Thai place and we had an AMAZING MEAL. Good conversation and we have stuff in common. Music, skiing, travel desires, work, school.....so on. She never brought up other guys she is interested in or her ex at all when it was just the two of us. I even texted her after saying I had a great time with her at dinner and she sent back a smile by text and said she had a nice time too.

 

Problem is. After she made the skinny comment I'm really nervous. I also feel like she is "out of my league" as really attractive accomplished guys chase her and I am a bit more average. Student, work, live at home....sigh. My last girlfriend was "out of my league" and I lost her after 4 years to some muscle guy. My confidence is not at its highest obviously. I'm not hideous and people remark on my personality, but still.

 

I want to ask this girl out if she breaks it off with her boyfriend. The breakup she is not that upset over. But I feel like I have deceived her by helping her car shop to get to know her better for dating criteria possibility. I can't quite explain. Like I have different motives. ANYWAYS...I want to make a move without making her uncomfortable. Does this make sense? Like she might feel obligated because I helped her...I don't know

 

Sigh...I like a girl LOTS and I get all stupid. She is such a nice girl. SO kind. Her heart is in the right place and she is not drop dead gorgeous...but very very cute!

 

Sorry for the long story. Like I needed to write it all down for myself too!

Edited September 15, 2010 by polysporin