hott27 Posted September 16, 2010 Share Posted September 16, 2010 I have been with my partner for 5 years now and i am now 5 months pregnant..I have been suspecting for a while now that he is cheating on me, as we do not have sex anymore..At first it was because for the first 3 months of pregnancy i was vomiting all the time and ofcourse the last thing on my mind was having sex but now i have been constantly trying to have sex with him and he is just not interested.. Last week i found a packet of viagra pills on his work bag and they had been used already...I did not ask him anything as i felt i should have not gone through his stuff anyway..Then the weekend came and we went away, while i was packing at our hotel room getting ready to go home on Sunday i found i viagra pill on his pants pocket he had been wearing the previous night when he went out and i asked him..He just stared at me and no answer..I left it like that as we were traveling with his friend..When we got home i told him how i felt about it and before i could even finish what i was saying he told me he knows what he is doing and he would never hurt me...I am so hurt, i can't sleep and i feel helpless as i know he is sleeping with someone else..I don't know what to do and i think about this all the time..Sometimes i think he is with me because he feels sorry for me as i am pregnant and don't work.. Link to post Share on other sites
witabix Posted September 16, 2010 Share Posted September 16, 2010 Did he admit to sleeping with someone else? Viagra is not definitive proof. Sorry you are feeling down at 5mos pregnant. Link to post Share on other sites
Author hott27 Posted September 16, 2010 Author Share Posted September 16, 2010 Thanks for the reply:) He did not admit to sleeping with someone else but my question is..Why would you be taking viagra if you are not sexually active?( as he does not have sex with me) I just can not shake the feeling that something is up, i don't know wether its hormones kicking in or what? Link to post Share on other sites
witabix Posted September 16, 2010 Share Posted September 16, 2010 It could be that he is having trouble getting an erection. That he is too embarrassed to mention it to you. Could be why he has shied away from sex. He may have taken a few to see what happens, masturbation. If he did not get them from a reputable pharmacy they may not be working as he wished. Even if he did get them from a reputable pharmacy, they may still not work. He should not be taking this stuff without doctors orders anyway. There are other options here than cheating. I am just putting an alternative. Link to post Share on other sites
Author hott27 Posted September 16, 2010 Author Share Posted September 16, 2010 Thx so much i think i needed to hear something like that..Not that i am ruling cheating out but now i can talk to him calmly about this.. Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted September 16, 2010 Share Posted September 16, 2010 He is being deceptive by hiding this from you. He should be discussing it with you, he is your husband who has made you pregnant, not some random guy! You need to confront him immediately and find out why he is doing this. It could be an innocent reason as above... but not very likely IMO... and the fact that he is doing it secretly is the worst part. Keeping secrets from your spouse is a sure-fire way to break a relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
naya1 Posted September 17, 2010 Share Posted September 17, 2010 dont feel too bad ..just feel happy for your baby. although thats easier said than done. anyway u should read up on this http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2007/07/070727182359.htm viagras other uses maybe he is indeed using them for reasons other than having sex w/ someone else.. Link to post Share on other sites
Woman In Blue Posted September 18, 2010 Share Posted September 18, 2010 Wow - either all the posters who responded here are male, or they're personal friends of the OP's boyfriend and are trying to keep him out of trouble (except for Pete). Hott, if you want to believe that your boyfriend - who is SNEAKING around using Viagara and carrying it in his pants pocket when he's out WITHOUT you - is taking Viagara for "medical" reasons, or so he can masturbate with an erection (while being out without you), then you're setting yourself up for a world of hurt. LOL...I guess he has to "admit" to cheating on you in order to be guilty because sneaking around and using Viagara but NOT having sex with you anymore - shouldn't raise your suspicions (according to some of the posters on this thread). Good God. If you want to be led down the garden path and bury your head in the sand, then take the "advice" of the above posters. But if you want to be GROUNDED in reality and aware of what's really going on right in front of your face, then you're going to have deal with the fact that your boyfriend is cheating on you - and rather blatantly. Some men get very weird when their girlfriends or wives get pregnant - suddenly, they no longer see you as a sexual being and lose all desire for you. You cross over an imaginary line from girlfriend/wife to "mother," and they can't cross that line. That's what it sounds like your boyfriend has done, and would explain why he won't have sex with you anymore. He's out having sex with SOMEONE, just not you. Who knows - maybe he needs the Viagara when he's cheating because he feels guilty for being such a lowlife dirtbag and disrespecting you while you're carrying HIS child. But I highly doubt it's for "medical" reasons. I actually laughed when I read that one. And lastly, don't have unprotected sex with him should he suddenly change his mind and approach you for sex. DON'T put yourself and your unborn child at risk for HIS sleazy behavior. Good luck to you. Link to post Share on other sites
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