My bf is bipolar and his ex is whacked

[Rockygirl]

Hi my 1st time posting.

 

I haven't talked to my bf since I left him Mon. am. when he woke me up as he left for work to give me and hug and kiss and asked if I needed some $$$ for the day.

 

To give background, we have been dating 8 mos. He has an ex whom still has her name on the house and suddenly felt the need to call and check if the mortgage was being paid once she found out we were dating. Of course, this escalated into her telling him that I'm a bad person, I have cheated on him, I am a slut, etc., etc. Mind you, we are in are 30s!! Of course, his ex is friend's with my ex's gf who hates me as I do her. My bf's ex didn't even know my name or me when my bf and I started dating, now all of a sudden, she seems to know things about me and makes up stories all courtesy of my ex's gf.

 

Anyway, we have had discussions about him trusting me or believing her, which he always says "he's sorry about doubting" me. Well, this is the 3rd time in our relationship that the ex started trashing me. I told my bf we needed a break. After a few days, we talked and I suggested we breakup if his ex is such an influence, if he didn't trust me, etc. Of course, he didn't want to break-up he loves me, wants to get married, etc. Everything is fine for 2 days, til the am I last see him. Now, no phone call, no return call or nothing. His ex obviously got to him again when she learned we did not breakup as she hoped. Also, he is bipolar and has not been taking his medicine. Everything has been blown out of proportion in his mind from me to his work to his roomates, etc. I got him to restart them, but they take awhile to kick in. Meanwhile, here I sit with no word from him.....should I be trying to comfort him or just ignore him for now? Who knows..perhaps we are broken up? I told him before that if his ex called and he did the "blow off" thing to me again, that we were thru. Plus, a few days before this happened he called and asked if he could move in with me until we get married and then buy a house (he owns his own which he rents). Does any of this make sense? Do I just leave him alone and write him off? Ugh

[Tony T]

This is a really trashy situation.

 

The most significant problem I see here is the fact that your boyfriend isn't taking his medication. Bipolar mood disorder, left untreated and unmedicated, can be extremely disruptive to a person's life and that of everyone around him. If he will not be compliant and take his proper dose of medication, as well as see a doctor on a routine basis for proper adjustment of the dosage, you don't want to have anything to do with him. Your life could be a living hell.

 

You don't need to sit on top of his medical problems. You don't need to condemn yourself to a life of wondering just how his brainwaves will cycle and how that will affect each of your days on the planet.

 

Now to the soap opera stuff. If your boyfriend's behavior towards you is so easily influenced by his ex girlfriends and others, dump him before you read any further.

 

There is nothing to ready further so dump him now!!!