KyleC767 Posted September 17, 2010 Share Posted September 17, 2010 I'm pretty much very frustrated/confused with this situation. It's getting to my head and making me over think too much. I've been very interested in this girl for a long time that I met in one of my classes during college. To make a long story short, she didn't know I liked her until I came out and straight up told her I did during the summer online when I had no emotional feelings towards her. I just came out and basically said it's nice that I can talk to you now and not have anything feelings attached, blah blah blah. And she was shocked and said she had no idea. Anyway, from that conversation we kept in touch and pretty much talked everyday via text message while she was home from school. And i started to develop feelings for her again that were really strong. She said things would change from last semester and we would hang out more often, go for drinks, drink at her dorm, all that fun stuff. But it's pretty much came back to the same thing and none of what she said had actually happened. She went to Western Conn to visit a friend last weekend and she talked about me to a bunch of her friends and said she "liked" me and her friends agreed she should pursue me. I like her a lot and I've met most of her friends because I was the person who initiated all the conversation with them. She seems scared and reserved and she NEVER ever invites me over to do things with her, she did ask me to go out to dinner with her and her friends but only after i sent her a "what are you doing tonight" text message. She said going to Cheesecake Factory with Kyle (her best friend) and Megan, you should come! So i said i'd love to and we had a blast. We always have a lot of fun when we are together and the conversations are always really good. She would initiate cute touching or like rub my back or whatever. After dinner, we went back to her friend Kyle's dorm to watch a movie, she fell asleep on my shoulder, we held hands, she was running her fingers down my arm and she seemed really really comfortable. After the movie I had left and gave her a kiss. I figured that finally something had come from us and I was really happy. The next day she doesn't contact me at all no text messages what not, i texted her and she said she was doing HW all night, i asked her if it'd be ok if i did it with her because i had a lot to do as well. She said she was going to do it then go to her friends dorm she hasn't seen in a week. She ended up going there drinking and having a good time. I feel like i'm on an emotional roller coaster ride with this girl, she's so sweet, great morals, values family, but i don't get what's going on here. Can someone please give me their insight? I'd really appreciate it. Thanks. side note: The night before this we went out to dinner and had a great conversation about her life, family, dad passing away a few years ago, ex boyfriend, i feel like she opened up a lot. Link to post Share on other sites
GooseChaser Posted September 17, 2010 Share Posted September 17, 2010 It sounds good to me. Remember, listen to their actions above their words! She sounds like she trusts you and is comfortable around you. That is good. Don't stress too much over this, just be patient and let things develop naturally, and things will become clearer. It will be okay. Don't hesitate to flirt and show interest, though! Link to post Share on other sites
dispatch3d Posted September 17, 2010 Share Posted September 17, 2010 Ask her out again, it seems like the method of not asking her out wasn't working for you before. If she flakes a bunch I'd just go whatever on her.... Sounds like she may be really emotionally draining to get things started with, and that I wouldn't really like. As in you constantly have to convince her you like her. Probably the best method would be to call her up talk a bit, ask her if she wants to go do something if she declines reingage conversation like nothing happened, re-ask if things go better and if they don't hang up. Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted September 17, 2010 Share Posted September 17, 2010 As stated before, actions speak louder than words. If she doesn't show that she likes you, then she doesn't like you. (1) You don't tell a girl you like her. You ask her out on a date. (2) You became her "good friend" because you never asked her on a real date. You were just..."kinda there"...i.e., doing homework together is not a date... Sorry to say it, but: "You have been friend-zoned. Goodbye." Link to post Share on other sites
phineas Posted September 17, 2010 Share Posted September 17, 2010 You getting over eager I think. Back off, give it a few days &if she doesn't contact you ask her out to dinner. And stay off the text based method of communication. Use voice. Link to post Share on other sites
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