bboy Posted September 18, 2010 Share Posted September 18, 2010 I'm 2 months exact. I'm strong enough to maintain strict NC. Shifting between anger and sadness. Please be honest with answer. Link to post Share on other sites
Billie The Puppet Posted September 18, 2010 Share Posted September 18, 2010 Broken up since July 26th, 2010 In no contact for only 2 weeks, no attempts to contact from either side thus far. As how I feel it's always mixed now, before we split I wanted to marry her so it's hard to lose those feelings. Now I still would like a second chance but we are different people now so even if and that is a strong if we cant pick up where we left off. No Contact however is much more healing than limited contact ( I answered her contacts but never initiated). As a dumpee I felt Limited Contact was always am attempt to reconcile. It never was. For some reason even though we are in No Contact I feel she now has hatred for me though it wasn't a bad break up. Link to post Share on other sites
Buccaneer55 Posted September 18, 2010 Share Posted September 18, 2010 I've always taken No Contact as not being the one to initiate it, I'm sure others will disagree with this. However, I haven't initiated contact for a whole 2 days now, after previously going 3.5 weeks (Kicking myself for contacting her the other day). I feel mixed as well. When I don't hear from her I get lonely sometimes but after a few days I start to feel better. Of course when I feel better it's like she knows, and she shoots me a text or tries to call me. It's just a back and forth roller coaster ride. Link to post Share on other sites
ohno89 Posted September 18, 2010 Share Posted September 18, 2010 We've both been NC for 4 months. He cheated so I felt NC was my only option and he managed to turn the break up around on me and is now with the girl so has also had no trouble with NC either. I, like you, still shift between sadness and anger but also an "ahh, who cares?!" mood...which is great while it lasts! After 2 months, I think it's good that your feeling anger as well as sadness, it's a step in the right direction but be prepared to keep flipping between these two emotions for quite a while..I'm gonna have to start seeing my ex around soon once uni starts which I'm sure will bring out a whole bunch of new, unwanted emotions...boo!! Link to post Share on other sites
Hersheys Posted September 18, 2010 Share Posted September 18, 2010 5th month of NC. I guess I'm on the depression stage. I'm still finding it difficult to move on because the break up happened really fast as there was no chance/time on my part to have any inkling that my ex was about to break up with me. I still have questions and his last break up dialogue still haunt me every minute of every day. Link to post Share on other sites
leftfield Posted September 18, 2010 Share Posted September 18, 2010 It's only ten days for me. I was forced to make contact via email recently to sort out transferring some money I owed. Since then I've had a text message from her a couple of days ago but I ignored it. It was just a stupid attempt at seeing if I would respond. She didn't even ask how I was, just asked a random question that made no sense. Link to post Share on other sites
Banker Chick Posted September 18, 2010 Share Posted September 18, 2010 It's only been a week...well I guess not even a week since we texted last Sunday night. We've been broken up for just a little over a month and had limited contact, with actually spending a great day together last Saturday. It's complicated though and he has a lot of stuff to work out so I know in my heart of hearts it's best that we go NC for at least several months to let him sort things out and try to improve his life. If he can't do that, then we could never be together anyway It still sucks. These are the times I wish I had a time machine. Link to post Share on other sites
leftfield Posted September 18, 2010 Share Posted September 18, 2010 It still sucks. These are the times I wish I had a time machine. If you find one can I borrow it? I need to steer my life in a different direction from about the age of 15. Link to post Share on other sites
NewToLS Posted September 19, 2010 Share Posted September 19, 2010 Two months. Guess I'll never know what happened between us. Easier when I concentrate on everything else, but when I think of movies, restaurants, motorcycles, fun, sex..... I think of him. Damn near everything brings him to mind. AND when he comes to mind, I get made at myself. He's not worth it. Thought he was Mr. Very Nice and Fantastic. Guess I misjudged people again. We're all just alone in this world, aren't we? Link to post Share on other sites
skydiveaddict Posted September 19, 2010 Share Posted September 19, 2010 A year it's been for me Link to post Share on other sites
Leandro Posted September 19, 2010 Share Posted September 19, 2010 Broken up since August 6, 2010. Day 13 of NC for both of us. She probably won't ever talk to me since she has someone else already. I'm angry but sometimes I get sad. Link to post Share on other sites
Thorgs Posted September 19, 2010 Share Posted September 19, 2010 I was dumped on June 26th. Did 20 days NC starting a few days after the break. She broke it. I regret letting her f*** with my mind/feelings, then went 34 days NC. Not like any of this matters anyways because I see her d*** daughter every day and when she told me some very disturbing things I called the ex out, who ended up just blowing up at me. So I said f*** that. This was just 7 days ago that that went down. Now I'm just lonely and sad a lot. Just trying to get used to being like this, because it'll last a long time. On top of it, the cold weather and little amount sun light makes it worse. Link to post Share on other sites
Dante311 Posted September 19, 2010 Share Posted September 19, 2010 I hate myself. 9 Months no contact... and SHE broke it. She was the dumper and broke my heart, burned me, and left it like so... flying off to g-d knows where without me and who knows with whom... ...9 months later out of the blue she sent me a FB message after an initial 3 months of blocking unblocking w/ her... then keeping me on block for 6 months... asking for forgiveness... ....and me like a ****ing douche responded. "Unexpected message. I'm at a loss of what you want me to say? Good to hear you're well. Take care" I don't expect to hear from her again. Why try to contact me now? ugh Link to post Share on other sites
Ajax Posted September 19, 2010 Share Posted September 19, 2010 16 days. I lover her more than anyone I've ever loved but honestly have nothing left to say to her. She knows how I feel and what I want so it's a moot point. Any attempt at contacting her at this point would push her further away. But I miss her and it still hurts like ****. Would give a kidney and part of my liver to be back with her. Link to post Share on other sites
skydiveaddict Posted September 19, 2010 Share Posted September 19, 2010 I don't expect to hear from her again. Why try to contact me now? ugh To ease her guilt. (in her mind). Stay off fb my friend. You can see what good it's done you. Link to post Share on other sites
skydiveaddict Posted September 19, 2010 Share Posted September 19, 2010 16 days. I lover her more than anyone I've ever loved but honestly have nothing left to say to her. She knows how I feel and what I want so it's a moot point. Any attempt at contacting her at this point would push her further away. But I miss her and it still hurts like ****. Would give a kidney and part of my liver to be back with her. 16 days isnt much. You're still in the worst part of it. Don't go giving away vital organs for someone who isnt worth it Link to post Share on other sites
Dante311 Posted September 19, 2010 Share Posted September 19, 2010 To ease her guilt. (in her mind). Stay off fb my friend. You can see what good it's done you. it's driving me insane now almost as if I'm back to square 1... Link to post Share on other sites
skydiveaddict Posted September 19, 2010 Share Posted September 19, 2010 it's driving me insane now almost as if I'm back to square 1... I know just how you feel., I can't seem to let her go either, but you MUST stay off of fb. Link to post Share on other sites
LoveTNT Posted September 19, 2010 Share Posted September 19, 2010 NC( the for sure nc haha) 10days. But!! Yesterday I went out with my girls to a bar in LA. What an interesting night a may say, I saw the ex ex ex from a few tears ago that still resents ne for leaving him.( he's such a cutie) anyhow, he ignored me haha. Then at 145am the lights go on at the bar and behold straight across from bar is my ex!!! Whyyyyy??????? :/ he was totally buzzed. He then walked to me and my girlsand said hi to me. I didn't want to be immature, so I was cool. I said hi I asked who he was with and he said, alone of course. He had been in a business meeting with the bar owner, at the other bar next door (he's tryn to open up bar) aparently got faded at the meeting, and then came to the bar I was at for another drink. Ughhhhh! His drinkn has become a problem, it reminded why I don't want to be on a relationship with a guy that drink to that extent. It set me back. I didn't want to get out of bed this morning, I really felt he was the one... Guess there's other plans set for me... Oh I almost forgot, right after he said hi I looked at his face and he looked sad he had that I'm holding back tears face I know... Sigh** he seems so lost. I will stick with NC.There is no way I'm breaking it, even if I'm crying my eyes out, although lately it's been hard to cry lately, i will not contact him. Anyways, he then said hi to my girls and told me " I'll let you get back to your girls".... I said " k bye" I played it mature and cool. Good job, me. :/ Link to post Share on other sites
Ajax Posted September 19, 2010 Share Posted September 19, 2010 16 days isnt much. You're still in the worst part of it. Don't go giving away vital organs for someone who isnt worth it It probably would be premature. At least for the kidney. The liver as I understand it can regenerate... so maybe a few more weeks before I should think about donating part of that Link to post Share on other sites
Author bboy Posted September 19, 2010 Author Share Posted September 19, 2010 Please feel free to vent, if you have a story to share. But start a separate thread for it, so original question don't disappears. Thanx! Link to post Share on other sites
smk Posted September 19, 2010 Share Posted September 19, 2010 I stopped counting a while ago but I am somewhere around close to 6 weeks NC I think. However she phone once to let me know I had mail at her house which I asked her to take into work for me and leave it there (she works for a company which I am part owner off) and once I had to go to the office for a meeting and we exchanged pleasantries because we were in the same room for a couple of hours during my meeting... Where am I??? It's weird somedays I think about her and miss her loads, others I will have barely thought of her... I still do love her and care about her, been going out alot lately which someone pointed out is some way of trying to compensate for her not being there. I think I am accepting things for what they are now, there really is nothing left to do. I do have moments where I want to break NC but I am too proud to do it so I don't... I guess after a while you just continue to live your life, and just get on with things... Link to post Share on other sites
ChrisMc Posted September 19, 2010 Share Posted September 19, 2010 I'm at 5 weeks, and honestly, I'm doing pretty ****ty. But I put on a brave face everyday, because I'm tired of everyone in my life worrying. I will say, I've accepted the fact it's over, which took much longer than it should have. I know she is not coming back, even though, technically, we never really finalized our break up. But f*ck if I don't miss her everyday terribly. Most days though, I realize, I don't miss HER, because she was never that great to me, or in general. I miss having a gf. Having someone to call when something funny happens at the office, or to just call me to see how I'm doing. What hurts the most though is that, seemingly, she is doing fine. Part of me is glad she doesn't call or text, because I know for my own recovery, I need to be away from her, but sometimes I do wish she showed for one second that she cared about me at all after 2 years, marriage plans, talks of kids, etc. I hope I can get through this. Link to post Share on other sites
pandagirl Posted September 19, 2010 Share Posted September 19, 2010 I'm on day 9. I'm doing as well as can be expected. I really miss him and wonder how he is doing all the time, but I am little by little accepting the breakup and trying to move forward by focusing on myself and what I can do to make myself happy and a better person. Link to post Share on other sites
PrettyPoppy Posted September 20, 2010 Share Posted September 20, 2010 bboy, I'm a bit behind you and still NC from either. I definitely feel better and have begun to really look at my part in thingsand at negative patterns I can create in relationships. This gives me a bit of self to chew on. I've kept busy. I worry about him as his living/economic situation was pretty horrible upon my departure. I consider calling and asking after him but just can't seemingly "just do it" which may be my self protection. I'm trying to not make a big drama over calling/not calling and am trusting my instincts again. I'm ok being alone for the most part and haven't been terribly interested in "getting back out there" I'm still open a bit on this and want to take a bit of space. Glad to hear you are still making it Link to post Share on other sites
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