WeAre138 Posted February 24, 2004 Share Posted February 24, 2004 Hi this is my first time posting on here Well I'll make this story short I'm 18 and she's 16 if that helps I went out with my ex for about a year it was the best year of my life...then prom came it was one of the worst nights of my life. So a few weeks after that my girlfriend broke up with me (1st heartbreak ) so about after a month of "away" time she asked me out. So about 5 months later all went well...until I had to work over 40+ hours a week. So about a few weeks after that she broke up with me again for not being there for her. Well I took everybody's advice and not call her (was a very horrible 1 and a half month) then she calls me so we talk for a couple of hours also was telling me she went to my work and she thought she saw me she said "her heart was pounding very very fast" so I thought that is like a sign that she still has feelings for me... So a few days ago she came over to my house, I was flirting with her alot and I think she was too, I am not that good with flirting hehe, anyways it has been a few days no call or anything so I was going to call her tomorrow and ask her out to eat or should I just not call her and go through the pain again? I am still in love with her ~*WeAre138*~ Link to post Share on other sites
faux Posted February 24, 2004 Share Posted February 24, 2004 If you are 18 and your ex is 16, I seriously recommend you try getting out of love with her, or you may end up getting into jail over her. It sounds very wrong for an adult to be asking a child out to dinner, or for an adult to be flirting with a child. I've said this before: You can go believe those myths about 16 being legal, but try telling that to the judge. Find someone your own age. I'm not saying this to be mean. I'm saying this because I believe it's the right thing to say. I'm sorry if you'll disagree, and I mean you no offense. I'm just saying... be careful and maybe it'll be better to find someone older. You can do whatever you want, but laws exist for a reason. I'd say go through all the pain until you don't look at her "that way" again. Link to post Share on other sites
reasontosigh Posted February 24, 2004 Share Posted February 24, 2004 I believe the age of consent is still 16 in a couple of states, but that's beside the point here. I suggest not calling because I think things are not going to work out in the long run. With you being 18 and her 16, it's not the age gap as much as the life experience gap that is coming into play here. I have this feeling that when she went to your job and (maybe) saw you, the fast heartbeat on her part was more about you being in the exciting "real world" now. Things could be quite different, of course, but I suspect that won't be till later on when she has matured a bit. Link to post Share on other sites
amish Posted February 25, 2004 Share Posted February 25, 2004 Gee, it's a good thing I didn't take bad advice about 18 year olds dating 16 year olds back when my WIFE was 16. Link to post Share on other sites
ldybg51 Posted March 7, 2004 Share Posted March 7, 2004 [font=century gothic][/font][color=olive][/color]No joke people. I am 23 and I remember being 16. Sorry guys, but almost all 16 year olds are past the "oooo, im in the real world now" and will be perfectly capable of dating a guys who is either at thier same maturity level or for some may even be more mature. YOu are just fine hon. When I was 16 I dated a 19 year old. Then guess what. I turned 17 and it was still fine. We dated for two and half years and I broke it off with him, *gasp* because I wasnt in love and I realized that I never was in love like he was. Gee that seems like something posted on here earlier by someone who was around 30, and someone else who was 26 and then this other person who was 55. It just happens to everyone. I did not see the relationship going into marriage and I knew I should stop wasting his time. It sounds to me like she just wants someone who can do things that young loves are supposed to be doing. Spending time together and going on dates and so forth and so forth. Have you still been seeing each other? What has come of this. Let us know. Link to post Share on other sites
mintjulep Posted March 7, 2004 Share Posted March 7, 2004 If you are 18 and your ex is 16, I seriously recommend you try getting out of love with her, or you may end up getting into jail over her. A few words came to mind when I read this. Immature, jerk, one-track mind...were just a few. Not all 18 year-olds want sex. In fact, most 18 year-olds are mature enough to want a "real" relationship that involves commitment and, at the very least, naive happiness. In fact, some 18 year-olds are actually in a frame of mind that will lead to something more serious and permanent. That said, when I was 15, I started dating a guy who turned 18 sometime after we had started dating. Guess what? He never went to jail. We dated for a year and a half. I still wasn't legal. We broke up because of the distance, and I still feel that it was a mature reason - and quite possibly the most mature break up I've ever had. We're still friends, even though I don't speak to him as often as I used to. Anyway, off my soap box. That said, WeAre138, ask her out. See where it goes. Another part of the reason that I broke up with that guy was because eventually, we felt like we were in two different worlds. That was magnified by the fact that he had gone to college 500 miles away. You may find you've changed, but you may also find that you and she still want to be together. Just take it slow, and start over as two friendly people, or whatever. It can't hurt. Link to post Share on other sites
Author WeAre138 Posted March 11, 2004 Author Share Posted March 11, 2004 Hey I'm back well she came over on Sunday and we ate dinner with my family and watched movies n TV and junk like that. Well that day went pretty good because she didn't to do anything that day with anybody and was very depressed, but she came over and I cheered her right up Well today is Wednesday and her b-day is Friday. I bought her some balloons and a cool little Teddy bear ,but I need to buy her a present still and I don't know what to get her yet! Well this relationship wasn't about sex! Just because I'm older than her doesn't mean I want that one thing :/ And another thing she keeps talking about the past, the good parts of the past not the bad ones, so I guess that's pretty good. When we hang out she's always the first one to flirt with me hehe If anybody could give me some hints on a present or two I would like that alot, I'll be back soon to post ~*Alex*~ You people are very helpful Link to post Share on other sites
white_angelbreath Posted March 11, 2004 Share Posted March 11, 2004 a gift? a teddy, chocholate of flowers would be nice, but its so generic give her something that you made or something unique that wouldn't be bought give her something PRICELESS... that you know she would definitely love and treasure. Link to post Share on other sites
BrainRightHeartWrong Posted March 11, 2004 Share Posted March 11, 2004 sorry to be off-topic but are you a MISFITS fan? or does that mean something else in America? i am not American you see but i know punk songs! Link to post Share on other sites
ldybg51 Posted March 11, 2004 Share Posted March 11, 2004 I think you should get her.....a treasure basket. This is some type of bag, basket, bucket, ect. In it you should put all sorts of things. Candles, picture frames, lipgloss, just random girly things, perfume, maybe a necklace or earrings, gift certificate, pictures of you guys together, any pictures that may be special to her, ect. You could use one of those cute little purple or green round clothes baskets, put all the stuff inside and then wrap it up with some type of paper or cellophane. This gives the very personal touch, ie. something made by you, and the something bought. I would recommend only putting in one of the more expensive items, earrings and necklace set or one or the other separately or a gift certificate. Im leaning towards the earrings or necklace. let us know what you think and what you come up with. Link to post Share on other sites
Fedup&givingup Posted March 11, 2004 Share Posted March 11, 2004 Alex, You sound VERY sweet, but I hate to be the bearer of bad news. It sounds like she only comes around when it's at her convenience and/or when she wants something. She broke it off with you because you had to work. She sounds a bit selfish. You take her back, with open arms each time, so you are her ace in the hole. I think she is toying with you and learning a whole lot about what she can get from by acting the way she does. I know you love her, but take it VERY easy here. She has already broken your heart, and it looks like that may be the outcome each and every time until you steer clear of her. You sound like a wonderful young man that wants to please and love a young woman. Find someone else worthy of your time and attention. Link to post Share on other sites
Author WeAre138 Posted March 12, 2004 Author Share Posted March 12, 2004 Hmmm I'm so confuzed :/ well tomarrow is the big day!!! Even if she doesn't love me anymore I'm still going to get her something nice n stuff and I was thinking about that gift basket thingy you said, I'll do that! That sounds cool thanks for the advice! But, I think this is my last effort to actually get back with her. I do agree with Fedup there I am sweet teeheehee, but now that you say she only comes when she wants to that is sort of selfish n mean! Even though she is sweet to me, like she made some muffins for me, but her sister ate them and she was crying over it I found that to be a good thing. As I'm typing this i called her a few mins ago and she said she would call me back and hasn't yet Well it's almost 8 i better get going on shopping!!! ~*Alex*~ and yes i am a Misfits fan thanks guys for the help!!! I'll post again n tell ya what happens Link to post Share on other sites
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