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I am 19 years old and I have now cheated on my boyfirend several times with one of my best friends.

 

I had been going out with my boyfriend for over a year and everything seemed to be going well. But one day my friend was over at my flat and I started to feel attracted to him and before long we were kissing and I had the most amazing sex with him a lot better than what I have ever had with my boyfiend. We have met up a lot since then and I think my boyfriend suspects something might be going on as he nearly caught us together. However I don't think my new man wants to have a proper realationship. Should I end the affair and work things out with my boyfriend or try and start a relationship with my lover?

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If you have found a more satisfying situation for yourself, no matter where, that means you are now just settling in a so-so relationship. I suggest that since your guy friend doesn't want more than a friendship that you break up with your boyfriend and go find yourself a guy who satisfies more of your needs in a way that pleases you.

 

Now that you are aware there are other guys out there that tend to satisfy you more sexually, your boyfriend will never be the same. Obviously, your BF is not making you happy in other areas as well or you wouldn't be wanting to move on.

 

Don't waste your time in a relationship that isn't all you want. Good ones are out there if you take the time to find them.

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No no no, guys -

 

Break up with both of them!!

 

One of them wants you, but unfortunately, obviously doesn't have what it takes to make your partnership what you want of it.

 

You'd like the other one, but unfortunately, you may not have enough of what he wants to make your partnership what you want of it.

 

Ergo, both guys are wrong for you!

 

I have to say, I'm with Tony on this one.

Distance yourself from BOTH guys - unless you're happy with being a FWB for guy #2....

 

But in fact, it would be better all round, if you just walked away form both of them.

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First you don't deserve a proper relationship until you can be honest. Secondly tell your bf that you have cheated on him and set him free to find someone worth his love and effort. Third, the other guy probably won't want more then a shag from you because he knows "If she'll cheat with you, she'll cheat on you" he would be crazy to want a serious relationship with you. And finally the karma bus is always rolling and will find you. Have a nice day.

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I am 19 years old and I have now cheated on my boyfirend several times with one of my best friends.

 

I had been going out with my boyfriend for over a year and everything seemed to be going well. But one day my friend was over at my flat and I started to feel attracted to him and before long we were kissing and I had the most amazing sex with him a lot better than what I have ever had with my boyfiend. We have met up a lot since then and I think my boyfriend suspects something might be going on as he nearly caught us together. However I don't think my new man wants to have a proper realationship. Should I end the affair and work things out with my boyfriend or try and start a relationship with my lover?

 

Neither, I don't think you are mature enough to be in a relationship. Tell your boyfriend of your indiscretion so he can get tested for STD's. He deserves a girlfriend who respects him not one who is going to be unfaithful and disrespectful.

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the problem is the man I am having the affair with has been my friend for years, I don't want our friendship to end as well.

 

Laura,

 

Unfortunately, I suspect whether you realise it or not, your frienship with your new "lover" is already over as you have moved the goalposts.

 

For a relationship to really work, especially at your age, the sex needs to be good so even if your new lover doesn't want a relationship, your current relationship with your bf is definitely not going to work out.

 

Good luck (and enjoy the sex, afterall you're nut a puritan)

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I don't know you as a person so it is harder what I think you should do. If this is the 1st time you have cheated, then maybe I would try and start a relationship with the 2nd guy or take things more slowly with him. If this is something you have done before then I would advise you not to start a relationship until you can be more honest. But i definitely think you should end things with your boyfriend it sounds like your are unhappy with him and if he can't satisfy you sexually that usually leads to an even more unhappy relationship. I don't think you should say you have cheated on him because that will affect his confidence etc..a lot.

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Let your BF go so he can find a girl who won't cheat on him. You obviously don't particularly care about him, so at least give him enough respect to set him free.

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I would finish things with your boyfriend. It also soundsl like the guy you are seeing is just using you for sex. But you may as well try and see if he wants to take things further or you may regret not doing so.

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Break up with your boyfriend so he isn't wasting any more of his time and so he can find someone else.

 

after that do whatever you want...as long as your bf is free from you.

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the problem is the man I am having the affair with has been my friend for years, I don't want our friendship to end as well.

 

and because of this you are going to hold your bf hostage in a relationship with a cheater?

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