I'm infatuated with a guy that is no good for me.

[lvixen]

Sorry, I'll try to keep this as short as possible.

 

I posted about him a few days ago. We had met through a mutual friend, added each other to FB and started to talk. We eventually met up and he seemed interested, asking me questions, walking me to the bus stop, even hugging me, etc,. Our mutual friend asked us both to go out with her on Saturday night and we both agreed. He sent me a message the next morning saying it was nice to meet me and to have a great day.

 

Saturday was approaching so I decided to send him a message asking him if he was still coming. No response. I got a mail on POF and I hadn't been on that site for 6 months so I decided to check it and by a weird coincidence I saw him on it. Whatever, we weren't exclusive yet anyways. The next day I asked my friend if he was still coming and she said she wasn't sure because he said he was broke and was going to borrow money from a friend. I said it's ok, tell him I'll buy him a few drinks, shouldn't be a problem.

 

I get a call a little later from him saying "I feel bad taking drinks from you, I'm going to try and borrow some money, if I can't come tonight I'd like to go out for a couple of drinks soon. I'll call you guys a little later and let you two know". Well, we never got a call, so we decided to go out without him. Both me and our mutual friend are kind of pissed by now.

 

He calls my friend the next morning and says he got so drunk that he passed out at his friends place, sorry for not calling. I then get a message from him later that evening pretty much saying the same thing. I'm kind of annoyed by now that it took him so long to apologize to me.

 

The thing is, my friend says this is highly unusual behaviour from him. He would never do that to her, she says. I honestly think he is avoiding me and playing games with me. THAT, she says, he has a history of, which kind of pisses me off that she would try to set me up with someone like that. She also said she thinks he might be lying about passing out like that and that he might have met someone off POF to get laid.

 

I know he is no good for me, I wouldn't mind being friends with him though. I'm not sure what to do now. I have a huge crush on him even though he is no good for me. Is NC the way to go? Any help is appreciated! Thanks.