Username37 Posted September 22, 2010 Share Posted September 22, 2010 Found out my ex has a new boyfriend. I feel pretty down and weirded out. Background: Broke up since May 16th. Started NC after June 20th after chasing a chance of reconcilation. Link to post Share on other sites
Ajax Posted September 22, 2010 Share Posted September 22, 2010 Sorry man. That's always a blow. Time to find a new girlfriend? Any possibilities? Link to post Share on other sites
Iselia Posted September 22, 2010 Share Posted September 22, 2010 Found out my ex has a new boyfriend. I feel pretty down and weirded out. Background: Broke up since May 16th. Started NC after June 20th after chasing a chance of reconcilation. Think of it this way: Your ex hooked up a lot after you broke up. Guess who's getting a new STD? Guess who's going to find a new, wonderful woman? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Username37 Posted September 22, 2010 Author Share Posted September 22, 2010 Think of it this way: Your ex hooked up a lot after you broke up. Guess who's getting a new STD? Guess who's going to find a new, wonderful woman? Well she didn't have sex with anyone....made out and possibly oral....gah don't wanna think about that.. And true.. But still, when she hooked up, she got the physical connection not the emotional....but the new guy is getting EVERYTHING. Gah! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Username37 Posted September 22, 2010 Author Share Posted September 22, 2010 Also, I would like to add that she said she wasn't looking for anything serious for a while and wasn't looking for a relationship... I guess its true, when a chick says "I'm not ready for a serious relationship" it means "not with YOU" Link to post Share on other sites
Leandro Posted September 22, 2010 Share Posted September 22, 2010 Also, I would like to add that she said she wasn't looking for anything serious for a while and wasn't looking for a relationship... I guess its true, when a chick says "I'm not ready for a serious relationship" it means "not with YOU" Yea that's what my ex said too. "I'm not ready for a serious relationship". "I'm not going to date for a couple months". A month after the break up she has a new boyfriend. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Username37 Posted September 22, 2010 Author Share Posted September 22, 2010 Yea that's what my ex said too. "I'm not ready for a serious relationship". "I'm not going to date for a couple months". A month after the break up she has a new boyfriend. DAMN! Dude that sucks. From the looks of things, I think they just started going out. I don't think it's a rebound though. I'm not sure. Link to post Share on other sites
Leandro Posted September 22, 2010 Share Posted September 22, 2010 You'll be fine. It just takes time. I'm fine with her being with him because I know she is happy. That's all I ever wanted. Now I can focus on myself and finding someone better. Link to post Share on other sites
Billie The Puppet Posted September 22, 2010 Share Posted September 22, 2010 They say those lines to ease the guilt, lessen the pain. There is a thread somewhere here with stupid things ex's say and those are listed in brackets they all apply to (you afterwards). I'm waiting on the day my Ex will come up with the same stuff. She still has a lot of my family on her FB and photo's of us. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Username37 Posted September 22, 2010 Author Share Posted September 22, 2010 They say those lines to ease the guilt, lessen the pain. There is a thread somewhere here with stupid things ex's say and those are listed in brackets they all apply to (you afterwards). I'm waiting on the day my Ex will come up with the same stuff. She still has a lot of my family on her FB and photo's of us. Yeah I remember that thread. I posted some stuff. My ex has my family on FB, but they're restricted. There are only like....2 pictures of us, but its us with a group not just us two. Their relationship is secret I think. Link to post Share on other sites
Billie The Puppet Posted September 22, 2010 Share Posted September 22, 2010 My ex's wall is no longer visible to me or my family. (I just restricted her from everything on mine but pictures) I haven't asked any mutual friends because it actually aids my NC and from prying etc. However I would like to know when she has actually entered a new relationship it's kind of like giving up the last glimpse of hope thing. The photos I am in are all sort of personal but I expect them to be taken off at one point in the near future especially if she enters a relationship. Though there is always still hope even after a new relationship begins because that could also end. Link to post Share on other sites
rattled Posted September 22, 2010 Share Posted September 22, 2010 I'm riding the same boat too...just found out the ex officially has a new bf on saturday...major blow...couldn't sleep the last few nights because of all the thoughts of what they might be doing with each other...its hard not to think about it too... Link to post Share on other sites
benB Posted September 22, 2010 Share Posted September 22, 2010 sorry to hear that man Link to post Share on other sites
Author Username37 Posted September 22, 2010 Author Share Posted September 22, 2010 I'm riding the same boat too...just found out the ex officially has a new bf on saturday...major blow...couldn't sleep the last few nights because of all the thoughts of what they might be doing with each other...its hard not to think about it too... I'm sorry friend. Man, this **** is painful. Link to post Share on other sites
Fouts Posted September 22, 2010 Share Posted September 22, 2010 It's inevitable, but doesn't make it suck any less. I think what makes it worse when the ex finds someone new is that we all know how good the sex is in the beginning and that they're having it all the time. Hate to say it, but the only way to ease that crappy feeling is to find a cute girl to help take your mind off of it. It'll make a difference. Link to post Share on other sites
Ajax Posted September 22, 2010 Share Posted September 22, 2010 When the ex moves on it's another hit to the ol' ego too. They've found someone they think is better than us. As far as I know mine's still flying solo, but it's really only a matter of time and I'm trying to prepare myself for the blow. She's sexy, smart, and fun. She won't stay on the market for long. Yeah, you definately should find someone new to take your mind off of it and to get you back in the game. Link to post Share on other sites
Billie The Puppet Posted September 22, 2010 Share Posted September 22, 2010 When the ex moves on it's another hit to the ol' ego too. They've found someone they think is better than us. As far as I know mine's still flying solo, but it's really only a matter of time and I'm trying to prepare myself for the blow. She's sexy, smart, and fun. She won't stay on the market for long. Yeah, you definately should find someone new to take your mind off of it and to get you back in the game. Is it weird of me that I think I am the better catch between my ex and I ? However because of my lifestyle I know she will move on first. Though I do have a date! Which is totally weird I was taking this girl to the hockey game nose bleed section like 300 level and the girl I was taking won box seats (from work) to the same game. She didn't blow me off instead she gave me a box seats ticket however instead of her and I and a bunch of randoms it's her and I in a box with her other coworkers that also won. I am giving my tickets to a cousin for his bday. So my seats were upgraded but now it's less personal but it also went from me asking her to her asking me. All this happened today. (It's a former workplace of mine so I know some of the others) Link to post Share on other sites
Author Username37 Posted September 22, 2010 Author Share Posted September 22, 2010 When the ex moves on it's another hit to the ol' ego too. They've found someone they think is better than us. As far as I know mine's still flying solo, but it's really only a matter of time and I'm trying to prepare myself for the blow. She's sexy, smart, and fun. She won't stay on the market for long. Yeah, you definately should find someone new to take your mind off of it and to get you back in the game. Funny thing is, this guy is pretty quiet. He's not really socialable and not in the party crowd. But he's quite nice. Kinda different from me, but kinda the same....idk. It's weird because the guy she hooked up with is pretty social and is a stoner and the guy is different. My ex just got skinner and she's more attractive and flirtatious. Plus she's hella smart. It was a matter of time.... Link to post Share on other sites
Ajax Posted September 22, 2010 Share Posted September 22, 2010 So my seats were upgraded but now it's less personal but it also went from me asking her to her asking me. All this happened today. (It's a former workplace of mine so I know some of the others) That might be a sign Billie. Weren't you also concerned about seeing your ex at said game? Imagine if she sees you now! Either way, hope you enjoy the game with the new lady. Link to post Share on other sites
Billie The Puppet Posted September 22, 2010 Share Posted September 22, 2010 That might be a sign Billie. Weren't you also concerned about seeing your ex at said game? Imagine if she sees you now! Either way, hope you enjoy the game with the new lady. Well I don't think I'll be running into my ex now considering my Ex's seats are still up where I use to be. However seeing as it's a work place thing and in Box seating I am sure photo's will make it's way to face book and there is still a chance we could run into each other but now less likely. I've been on an UP since all this has happened though after 3 days of being on a down due to my dreams. I hope it is a sign ! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Username37 Posted September 22, 2010 Author Share Posted September 22, 2010 So I go to school with the ex and the new boy. Idk, it's kinda a weird couple. It's surprising to many considering the NEW her.... I don't see the ex, but knowing they're around kills me now. Link to post Share on other sites
Leandro Posted September 22, 2010 Share Posted September 22, 2010 Yea Username37, go out and find a nice cute girl. Go out to the gym and hang out with friends. I'm going to start working out tonight and I'm going to my first toga party Saturday! Looking forward to making new friends and getting some numbers. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Username37 Posted September 22, 2010 Author Share Posted September 22, 2010 My ex is such a liar. Saying she wont date until college and all of that ****. Link to post Share on other sites
Ajax Posted September 23, 2010 Share Posted September 23, 2010 My ex is such a liar. Saying she wont date until college and all of that ****. Should tell her you won't date until you're married. Heck... I might not... Link to post Share on other sites
DonDraper Posted September 23, 2010 Share Posted September 23, 2010 You can also take consolation in the possibility that the relationship might simply be a rebound because she is broken up over the end of your relationship. My ex of four years started dating someone six weeks after we broke up and it is clear she got with him simply because she wasn't strong enough to work through the separation without seeking companionship with someone to do it. The relationship can't last and the grieving process is simply deferred for a later time rather than bypassing it completely. On the other hand, you can be the better person and work through it on your own and know you are the better for it. Link to post Share on other sites
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