mrs2012 Posted September 22, 2010 Share Posted September 22, 2010 We took our new baby boy to the zoo on the way back i happened to see my guy's phone he was texting a girl from work just saying the basics nothing serious but i asked how he got the number?? he said his friend from work got it for him....For the last two weeks after work he has not been calling me he works 3-11pm...He claims he is tired and he goes homeand crashes...now he has been really really sick with a cold, but anyways me being who i am i went over his house like everyday last week and he was home....bc i thought maybe he was spending the night with someone and going home in the morning....When i ask him he says i am not cheating there is no1 else...We are due to get married 5-27-12 and we havethe contract he is willing to sign to get married and all that good stuff....i mean can he really be lieng that much or am i just being a paranoid gf......??? Whatever it is i want it to get solved bc i hate the arguments i start and all this crap that goes on....another thing is he had a backpack that he says he brings to work and i do believe he does bc he may need a change of clothes with the type of job he has but the other day it was missing and i said wheres your back pack he said he left it at work i dunno that seems a little weird...he also says that he wants time with the guys....he just seems to be acting strange or i am looking to hard bc i lost a chip of my trust bc of him texting a girl from work!!!.....He text me tonite and said i will call you i promise and i waited until 1am and no phone call...now hes still sick sooo idunno:( Link to post Share on other sites
Fouts Posted September 22, 2010 Share Posted September 22, 2010 A bit of an incoherent post, but from what you've said, you're more paranoid than him a cheater, at this point. Link to post Share on other sites
Author mrs2012 Posted September 22, 2010 Author Share Posted September 22, 2010 A bit of an incoherent post, but from what you've said, you're more paranoid than him a cheater, at this point. honestly, i dont care...this was my last resort becasue it is 400am and i dont think a pre-marital counselor is available right now....but thanks i hope so. I mean how do i settle this feeling im having?? Link to post Share on other sites
Fouts Posted September 22, 2010 Share Posted September 22, 2010 You know him best. To be honest, in these situations your gut instinct is usually right. With everything that's going on, what does your gut tell you? Chances are, that's probably the answer to if he's playing around with this hussy from work or not. Link to post Share on other sites
Author mrs2012 Posted September 22, 2010 Author Share Posted September 22, 2010 You know him best. To be honest, in these situations your gut instinct is usually right. With everything that's going on, what does your gut tell you? Chances are, that's probably the answer to if he's playing around with this hussy from work or not. My gut is honestly saying that everything is fine and he is knocked out on the couch but in the back of my mind i get the famous "What If".... Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted September 22, 2010 Share Posted September 22, 2010 OK, you're proud parents of a new son, unmarried and live separately. Any particular reason you live separately, given that you're in an intimate relationship and have a child? I'm trying to understand the dynamic better. You've been together at least nine months. How much longer than that? Any suspected infidelity in the past, on either side? A new father does not want time 'with the guys'; he wants time with and makes time for his 'new guy', his son. That, to me, is an immediate red flag. Also, the fact that his call patterns have changed, considering the living arrangements, would concern me. Unless he's comatose in a hospital, it takes less than a minute to call, say 'hi hon, love ya, thinking of ya , bla bla' and retire to the cloud of Vick's VapoRub for his cold. My advice is to make positive statements. Tell him clearly what you want. Keep it simple and concise. Set your own timeline for his compliance with reasonable requests, like calling consistently, as an example. I hope he is listed as the baby's father and is meeting his fatherly responsibilities, including in-person daddy time. Why is the wedding delayed until 2012? Link to post Share on other sites
SadandConfusedWA Posted September 23, 2010 Share Posted September 23, 2010 Eh, texting could be innocent. I have a good married friend that I work with. We talk a lot at work and just one day we said that we might have each other numbers as well. We text every now and then, nothing excessive and no flirting. It's been like this for 2 years and there is nothing at all going on. Link to post Share on other sites
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