1 year No Contact

[Von]

I was curious and came back here to see what's new in people's stories... Glad to see the same things that plagued me a year ago still exist! Lol.

 

I thought I'd give everyone a success story. Because I have successfully made it through a whole year of NO Contact! Woohoo! And boy am I so glad! If my ex ever came back around I would laugh in her face. She sure as hell doesn't deserve me now!

 

I tell ya, I was freakin devastated when she dumped me. I thought I had died. It took months to stop thinking about her every stinkin second of the day. But with each day, it got less and less painful, and I got stronger and stronger. And then I decided to change my life. And I focused on myself real hard for months and months, until I realized i had become this awesome amazing strong manly man, and every bit of wussiness I had was eradicated.

 

And my newfound self has dated a few girls since my ex. And with my newfound strength, I was able to dump them for being all kinds of crazy. I put in about as much effort as I possibly could but you just can't work with all people. So I'm happily by myself and don't really care if I date or not... I'm having too much fun as it is. If the right girl comes... Great.

 

So if your doing No Contact. Stick with it. Why the hell go back to something that's broken. Just move on trust me it's awesome.

[listen_to_me_please]

congratulations on your one year mark.

just to point out the obvious, your still not over it if your posting you hit the 1 year mark.

 

to relate to your post, i was once like you, counting the days of NC. I was happy I was no longer obsessing, longing, but still at night, sometimes, my mind would wonder on that relationship, images and events, pop into my head and I cringe at the memories, almost as if I am forcing myself to forget that girl.

 

I'm 2.5 years NC, I never forgot.

 

All I can really say is:

1 year is long enough, find someone, try to make an emmotional bond with them. Take help when it is offered and don't turn down a good thing because your stuck in the past.

[Von]

congratulations on your one year mark.

just to point out the obvious, your still not over it if your posting you hit the 1 year mark.

 

to relate to your post, i was once like you, counting the days of NC. I was happy I was no longer obsessing, longing, but still at night, sometimes, my mind would wonder on that relationship, images and events, pop into my head and I cringe at the memories, almost as if I am forcing myself to forget that girl.

 

I'm 2.5 years NC, I never forgot.

 

All I can really say is:

1 year is long enough, find someone, try to make an emmotional bond with them. Take help when it is offered and don't turn down a good thing because your stuck in the past.

 

Thanks for the congrats, but I haven't been counting the days of NC lol. Nor do I pine, long, or care for my ex. Ya a few do that, but not me. She is just a memory and a experience in my life I had. The 'memory' of this forum and what happened randomly popped in my head so I thought to give some inspiration.

 

I don't cringe... I laugh. I think it's hilarious how I acted with that girl. Haha and I'm certainly not stuck in the past lol. Think of it as a history lesson. I'm happy to pass on some good advice.

 

And my advice is: if you get dumped, dont pine, don't long, stop cryin, stop acting like a wuss. Get over it! Get better! Move on! Don't contact them under any reason, they don't deserve it.

 

Fair enough?

[Sunny-side-up]

I was curious and came back here to see what's new in people's stories... Glad to see the same things that plagued me a year ago still exist! Lol.

 

I thought I'd give everyone a success story. Because I have successfully made it through a whole year of NO Contact! Woohoo! And boy am I so glad! If my ex ever came back around I would laugh in her face. She sure as hell doesn't deserve me now!

 

I tell ya, I was freakin devastated when she dumped me. I thought I had died. It took months to stop thinking about her every stinkin second of the day. But with each day, it got less and less painful, and I got stronger and stronger. And then I decided to change my life. And I focused on myself real hard for months and months, until I realized i had become this awesome amazing strong manly man, and every bit of wussiness I had was eradicated.

 

And my newfound self has dated a few girls since my ex. And with my newfound strength, I was able to dump them for being all kinds of crazy. I put in about as much effort as I possibly could but you just can't work with all people. So I'm happily by myself and don't really care if I date or not... I'm having too much fun as it is. If the right girl comes... Great.

 

So if your doing No Contact. Stick with it. Why the hell go back to something that's broken. Just move on trust me it's awesome.

 

Me too have done 8mths NC..... Although, despite changing myself, dating others, making new friends and getting a life... I still miss my ex. It's 2.5yrs since we split. NC for months and months at a time but still.... I think of him pretty much every day.

I think NC needs to be combined with closure. When two people walk away from each other knowing they love each other but can't make it work, it's tragic... and very hard to get over!

When two people walk away and one person has "closed" the door... its only a matter of time before the other person will "close" too.

 

Your story is great and I hope I come out the other side as rocking as you have but you do need to include closure in that... Just my two cents.

[andrew-bkk]

I tell ya, I was freakin devastated when she dumped me. I thought I had died. It took months to stop thinking about her every stinkin second of the day. But with each day, it got less and less painful, and I got stronger and stronger. And then I decided to change my life. And I focused on myself real hard for months and months, until I realized i had become this awesome amazing strong manly man, and every bit of wussiness I had was eradicated.

 

Awesome incredible post.

[SithLord]

I had 3 years of no contact with my X, until I wrote to her in facebook lol. She still has that special love and feelings for me.