fishman3226 Posted February 25, 2004 Share Posted February 25, 2004 OK, here is the spiel... I have posted several thread about my recent breakup and I am looking for some inspiration or understand what could happen... My ex left yesterday, 2 weks after breaking up with me. She postponed the moving two days and ultimately moved out leaving behind many things including most of her furniture. In the days leading up to her leaving, she told me how she is wanting to enlighten and grow herself but also told me how she wants to have a nice quiet life free from stress and after going to South Africa to see family and then settling down when she returns. Ummmm....exactly what want to do to. She tells me that what I have given her in the past is the best and most supportive of anyone in the past and that she loves me. She tells me that she knows she is giving up heaps in her decision and she has told me outright that she will be in contact. Her spiel is 'to be friends' to which I replied "I dont want your friendship, I want your love." She also has given many conflicting signals about her feelings since the breakup. I see in her that she loves the relationship. I see this with hugs and kisses and love. I know outright that she has moved into a house with a complete stranger in an area far removed from conveniences and further away from her job she hates. She has not told anyone to my knowledge what I offer her in terms of helping her 'enlighten herself.' She is also depressed (and been diagnosed with it.) Her view of growing is hanging out with friends and going to pubs. Wow, thats how Einstein got his theory of relativity. Also hanging out with family and reading. Not like that could be don with someone that cares. My view is that to grow you need to find someone that shares your views and get memories of the experience to share. I share her heritage, her love of finding new places and exploring them and also passion of intellectual things. She acknowledged to me too before she left about how all of this is what she wants in her life, and it was a look of "ummm.....yeah.....didn't think of that" One of her last comments to me was to the effect "I know I will think of all of this, you know I will contact you. Maybe you can come over for dinner." I am thinking no, I dont want to be involved in this place. I am not going to be a part of this world hen I want her in the 'good' world. In my heart I think she will within say a month realise that what I offer is good and better in her life than her no existent plans for 'enlightenment.' I also think that if she doesn't come back then it is her loss. We are at that 'no contact' stage at the moment - and as hard as it is, I am not going to contact her and make her stew in her thoughts. Am I doing the right thing? Should I give her the flick? What are your opinions of what will happen???? Help!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Smoove Posted February 25, 2004 Share Posted February 25, 2004 Hey If you love her your willing to let her go bro, but dont dwell on it for too long, if she luvs u she'll cum bak. Just take care of your own life. I know youv heard all this bfore but its tru. You're right in not making ne contact so keep it up, but dont long for her to call, bcos its gonna take over ur mind. Keep posting for progress mate. Link to post Share on other sites
dario Posted February 25, 2004 Share Posted February 25, 2004 Smoove! Good to see you're back, man! And you're an Aussie! I'm from NSW myself! Link to post Share on other sites
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