carla Posted February 25, 2004 Share Posted February 25, 2004 As some of you may already know I'm about to propose to my sweetie in 5 days. I have every thing all planned except the setting. We have the day off together. So we are going out of town. He has told me that he wants to go to a certain restaurant. This is were I need to make a decision: 1. Do I call the restaurant and make arrangements to have a nice cozy corner, present him with my gift, resite my poem, give him the ring, and have the staff sing "Goin to the chapel and we're goin to get married" when he says yes and have that special restaurant be memorable to us,(any other ideas to make it special please let me know) OR 2. Do I wait until the day is over and we are in the comfort of our own home with know one around and then do my thing? Thanks for your input. Link to post Share on other sites
Helpme2004 Posted February 25, 2004 Share Posted February 25, 2004 thats is so sweet both ideas sound very nice i say the first one sounds romantic itll be a special memory for both of u...but its totally up to u which one u really feel comfortable doing.good luck Link to post Share on other sites
yes Posted February 25, 2004 Share Posted February 25, 2004 i think it's a very private occasion and should be handled in private. best of luck! -yes Link to post Share on other sites
clia Posted February 25, 2004 Share Posted February 25, 2004 I wouldn't do #1 unless you are absolutely, 100% positive he is going to say yes. I can't remember your story--why are you proposing to him? You're giving him a ring? What kind? Do you think he'll go out and buy you an engagement ring still? (I'm a traditional gal and it sounds weird to me...no offense, of course!) Link to post Share on other sites
Errol Posted February 25, 2004 Share Posted February 25, 2004 Both options sound nice. You know him -- is he a public-affection kind of guy? I'm not and would be uncomfortable with the restaurant and singing, etc. Some people like that though. Its funny you say this now -- well, not funny-- anyway, I was watching the news the other night and there was a couple who were at a game. The guy arranged everything in advance and on break he had the cameras on him and everyone could see him as he was on the score screen, down on one knee with the ring in his hand proposing and the girl said no and ran off! On TV and in front of everyone! That poor guy! I was mortified FOR him! She could at least have said yes then and immediately after when they were along told him that she didn't want to embarass him but she didn't want to marry him either. Can you imagine! ---sorry if I talked you out of your public proposal---MOST of them go quite well! Good luck & let us know what you decide. Link to post Share on other sites
amazinglywow Posted February 25, 2004 Share Posted February 25, 2004 i agree... it depends if he's a public person or not. but i think #1 sounds great! show the world you want to be with this guy forever! i'm a traditional gal too, but i like your arrangments. i would love it if he did all that to me too... but i also wanted rose petals to fall from the ceiling onto the dinner table... then propose to me... no food out though! i guess they would have to put a fish net on the ceiling and pull it on your call. just an idea... its something i'd like if he proposed to me in a restuarant. good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Author carla Posted February 25, 2004 Author Share Posted February 25, 2004 My original post was in the Forum: Getting Married Thread: I'm going to propose to him dated Feb. 8 Link to post Share on other sites
Author carla Posted February 25, 2004 Author Share Posted February 25, 2004 I called the restaurant just to see what they do with proposals. They have a proposal song. When I was talking to the manager on the phone there was a ton of back ground noise and made me recall that the last time we went there it was REALLY NOISY. So if I do the restaurant thing I'm going to try and talk him into some place different. I think I may be to nervous in front of a bunch of people. I am 99.9% sure he will say yes. He has been hinting for about 2 weeks that it's leap year women are to propose. I think he thought I was going to ask him on V day.....fooled him, now maybe he thinks it will be the 29th........fooled him again. He's got to wait until the 1st. Link to post Share on other sites
Sparky Posted February 26, 2004 Share Posted February 26, 2004 I wouldn't do #1, because you may have a whole crowd around you, which can put a lot of pressure on him. Only do this if nobody's paying attention. I'd do #2: have some nice, soft music in the background, and talk to him in a soft voice. Hey, I'm only 17, so maybe I'm not the greatest on advice like this! Link to post Share on other sites
Author carla Posted February 26, 2004 Author Share Posted February 26, 2004 I was also thinking that maybe after diner and b4 we go home we can take a walk at the water front park. As we stand by the rail looking over the lake at the almost full moon and hopefully clear night (amongst the snow banks ) I could propose there. Kinda stealing jmarge's idea sorry. It's still romantic and no crowd. hmmmm.... I'll have to check out the snow, it's suppost to be over the 0 mark so maybe it will melt. I've been checking out restaurants and I don't know which one would be right for the occasion, as we've only been to a couple in this town. I'd hate to get to a place and the staff be rude or really noisey and the food be crap. That wouldn't be the kind of memory that I would want. Thanks for your input. Link to post Share on other sites
BiancaRura Posted February 26, 2004 Share Posted February 26, 2004 If you plan all this romantic stuff out then he'll KNOW somethings up so I would make him wait. Ask him when you get home so he thinks thats all the date you'll have for the night.... I would give a friend a key and have them go to your place while you're at dinner and light candles all over the place and put rose pedals all over the floor in a trail leading to the bedroom. Have them put some soft music on and when you guys are driving up have them go out the back door (just so that someone is there with the burning candles). Thats just my opinion....... Link to post Share on other sites
Author carla Posted February 26, 2004 Author Share Posted February 26, 2004 I like the idea with the candles. But we live in the country and he'd see a car in the driveway. I did the candles and chocolate lips instead of rose pedels on Valentines Day. He liked that. I don't think that he'll catch on, we usually go out on the rare occasion the we have a day off together so going to diner isn't going to make him think anything. He's very romantic so we do things like this when given the opputunity. The walk in the park in the winter might make him supicious. He knows I hate winter walks. I wish it was summer. Maybe it will warm right up and fell like spring. Link to post Share on other sites
Helpme2004 Posted February 26, 2004 Share Posted February 26, 2004 Congrats to ya hope everything works out good luck.......... Link to post Share on other sites
Sparky Posted February 26, 2004 Share Posted February 26, 2004 Yeah. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
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