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Well, my ex finally talked to me after 4 months. We talked for 2 days straight. However, she didn't reply my text yesterday. I have no idea what is she thinking about. Our conversation started out awkward, I was trying to be light hearted but she was quite cold at first and then she began to be slightly like her old self. We were just discussing about our lives after the break up and both of us agreed that it will be extremely hard to find someone like each other again. Before our conversation ended, she told me I could text her the next day if I wanted to. So I did, we continued talking for that day and we decided to go on an overseas trip together.

 

However, I felt really weird talking to her. I'm like feeling very anxious and yet I feel that she doesn't care sometimes. I also feel constrained. I want to be my old self saying sweet stuff to her but I can't because I'm scared it will scare her off. I also didn't text her again when she didn't reply me yesterday. So yea, what do you guys is happening right here. Should I maintain NC or just text her?

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i am not sure but if she is young she probably also feeling unsure. for whatever reason she broke up with u, she may be worried about making the same mistakes, moving backwards, it may be too soon, or she may have someone else. these are alll possibilities. if u are strong enough, try to stay the higher road and be cold. stay cold and let her move back toward u. this is a good way for u to gauge her. if that doesnt work, try not to get desperate. form personal experience, this is very hard. if u deeply feel for this person, post on here and find support anywhere and everywhere u can. what u are going through may hurt beyond words. its good to vent about it. just be sure to feel her out so she doesnt do a 180. be patient. if its worth it, u can be patient.

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Yes, some part of me still wants her back no matter how much I'm denying it. However, another part of me knows that I've already moved on to a certain extent. We have been in NC for so long, I'm already done crying over her and I know if we get back together, it will never be the same again but I still want to give it a try if I can.

 

I have women after me which are immensely nice to me but yet when I'm with them. I feel like I'm forcing myself to talk to them and I keep thinking of my ex when I get intimate with them.

 

Despite all the concern and care other girls can give me, just this two days of talking to her made me remember about how we used to be so similar and stuff. I'm just really confused right now what is she really doing. Is she doing this to keep me on the hook? (I doubt so.) Did she talked to me because she missed the times we had together and found out it isn't the same anymore and stopped? Does she simply wants more time to evaluate our relationship?

 

Yea I know there are hell of alot of factors. I'm already pass the grieving state and I dont want to return to it again.

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Okay so here I am in the middle of the night, pondering about her. Feeling down. I haven't felt like this in weeks. I want to contact her. I'm filled with anger and anguish right now. Why did she give me a small glimmer of hope and crush it yet again for no reason. I wish I could say everything I want to her but that would be wrong I know. So yea guys, I'm just ranting.

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I feel you...I could talk about an hour...

 

but i guess what i'll say is...

 

STAY NC! DON'T CONTACT HER! No matter how much you want it. It will make you feel better for a few seconds but than you will fall into big depression if she don't reply or she don't reply the way you hope she will...save yourself a lot...and just cry,post here or go for a jogging...

i hope you stay strong

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You should leave it alone. I would not contact her. Look how you're feeling again. This isn't fair or ok. Do yourself a favor and spare you heart possible anguish. Don't be defeated. Win this. Go NC.

 

Also... your thread. Your thread states she 'finally' talked to you. Don't think of it like that. How about you talked with her. Don't allow yourself to feel happy over her talking with you. She doesn't deserve it. Think about it.

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Thanks guys for the advice. So I followed the advice and went NC for 3 days before she texted me. So I asked her about the overseas trip and she said she doesn't think we should go at this point of time because it would complicate stuff between us and we will do something stupid. I was okay with it and talked to her normally and she did too until I told her I was really tired and said good night.

 

The next morning which is today, I texted her morning and some small talk. She started replying me coldly again so I replied her coldly too and she didnt reply.

 

Well, actually I ain't quite sad over it.I have an awesome girl by my side now even though she isn't as awesome as my ex but still for some reason, I can't bring myself to love someone else even though I really like her. I still think of my ex when I hug her and etc

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Well, actually I ain't quite sad over it.I have an awesome girl by my side now even though she isn't as awesome as my ex but still for some reason, I can't bring myself to love someone else even though I really like her. I still think of my ex when I hug her and etc

 

 

Change your scenario to a guy for me, and I understand, completely.

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Change your scenario to a guy for me, and I understand, completely.
Do you kinda feel bad? Because I do, I really do. I don't want to break her heart but yet I know I can never fully commit to her.

 

And its so annoying how we go back a few squares of progression everytime our ex talks to us right? darn.

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Well, my ex finally talked to me after 4 months. We talked for 2 days straight. However, she didn't reply my text yesterday. I have no idea what is she thinking about. Our conversation started out awkward, I was trying to be light hearted but she was quite cold at first and then she began to be slightly like her old self. We were just discussing about our lives after the break up and both of us agreed that it will be extremely hard to find someone like each other again. Before our conversation ended, she told me I could text her the next day if I wanted to. So I did, we continued talking for that day and we decided to go on an overseas trip together.

 

However, I felt really weird talking to her. I'm like feeling very anxious and yet I feel that she doesn't care sometimes. I also feel constrained. I want to be my old self saying sweet stuff to her but I can't because I'm scared it will scare her off. I also didn't text her again when she didn't reply me yesterday. So yea, what do you guys is happening right here. Should I maintain NC or just text her?

Hello!! she just talked to you to make her self feel better. Shes not onto you anymore. Am sorry but its ture. See am just like you waiting and wanting them to call text whatever.My ex emails me"how are you?" I dont respond. I know am not over him, its been 3months. Maybe I need 6months huh? Time heals everything. Go N/C again. Its for the best..We are going to be just fine. Good Luck.

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