I have a boyfriend, he has a girlfriend and yet we love each other...

[pirateress]

I am very confused and I really need someone else's opinion than my friends'.

I have a boyfriend of 6 years who I love, appreciate and respect very much. I would do anything for him.

However, there's this guy who I've known for 2 years now who has instantly become someone I cannot live without. We talk every day and we have so much in common. He is so caring. He would do anything I ask him to do for me. I have more things in common with him than I will ever have with my boyfriend. I can tell him stuff I can't tell my boyfriend. Some time ago I even got him a job in the company where I work.

 

He is giving me hints all the time. He told me that he dedicates Daft Punk's "Something About Us" to me: http://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/daftpunk/somethingaboutus.html

 

At times I think that I'll lose my mind, that maybe I am misinterpreting signs, but right then, there he comes again with a statement that blows my mind. My friends who know him and the situation we are in tell me that there's something between us and that it's so obvious.

 

Last year, we were away together for 3 weeks (no bf & gf). Everything could've happened there and then, but nothing did. Nothing ever does.

 

Nothing physical (hugging, cuddling, kissing or sex) has ever happened. I feel so tensed when I am near him. I dream of him every other night.

 

I've tried to tell him how I feel with this song, but I don't think he understood what I was trying to say:

 

My boyfriend is very jealous at him, so is his girlfriend at me. There are times when we are together and when of our partners call and we hide that we are together...

 

I want to know for sure how he feels. I want him to say it. I don't think I would leave my boyfriend for him, but I simply need to know. Is he not sure how I feel about him? Is it because I have a boyfriend and he has a girlfriend? How to get it out of him? How to tell him how I feel?

[Cracker Jack]

I think it's just the mere idea of him that really gets you excited. You have someone who you've gotten quite used to over the yrs, then the new guy shows up like a breath of fresh air, which makes you believe you guys have something special and out of this world. Could be true, but could also be untrue.

 

My take? I don't think it would do you (Or anyone for that matter) any good if he admits his feelings for you, considering you guys are attached to someone else. If anything, the idea of you two getting together will be amplified if he pours his feelings out for you. I just don't see how it would help anyone.

[Westy]

I am very confused and I really need someone else's opinion than my friends'.

I have a boyfriend of 6 years who I love, appreciate and respect very much. I would do anything for him.

However, there's this guy who I've known for 2 years now who has instantly become someone I cannot live without. We talk every day and we have so much in common. He is so caring. He would do anything I ask him to do for me. I have more things in common with him than I will ever have with my boyfriend. I can tell him stuff I can't tell my boyfriend. Some time ago I even got him a job in the company where I work.

 

 

If you were my girlfriend, once the knowledge became known to me you were confiding things to a male "friend" you wouldn't tell me, id tell you to pack your bags and gtfo.

 

You are basically both having an emotional affair. What "cant" you tell your boyfriend? Your SO is supposed to be your best friend that you tell everything to. You are sharing a part of yourself with another man, you wont share with your SO and thats just wrong.

[Allisha]

This should be in the cheating forum.

 

Many people are under the illusion that if they're not having physical contact with someone, that they're not cheating. And that simply is not the case.

 

What you're having is an emotional affair. Just as disrespectful, just as deceitful and just as wrong.

Contrary to what you said in your original post, you do not respect your boyfriend. Regardless of this other guy, you're not 100% comfortable with your own boyfriend and that's an issue. There's blatant lack of respect and bad communication problems ....and that's even before I start talking about the guy you're having an emotional affair with.

 

If you really would do anything for your boyfriend, leave him and let him find someone who wouldn't treat him like this.