BB07 Posted September 28, 2010 Share Posted September 28, 2010 Have you ever had an experience where you felt fearful of being hurt, or that one of the men you were with was capable of hurting you? Do you rely on your intuition or do you do something else to check them out? Link to post Share on other sites
Author SpillinItAll Posted September 28, 2010 Author Share Posted September 28, 2010 Have you ever had an experience where you felt fearful of being hurt, or that one of the men you were with was capable of hurting you? Do you rely on your intuition or do you do something else to check them out? I did think one guy was scary. It was purely intuition with him though and simple things that seemed strange. I decided to stop seeing him. He seemed like a serious recluse with no social skills. Taking care of his father who had alzheimer's and seemed to harbor anger at his dad for this disease. I saw him 2 or 3 times I think and he always looked a mess, hair wasn't brushed, messy clothing and such which is unusual for someone willing to pay my rates. He mostly talked and always like to bring food but didn't want to go out to eat and this guy was single, I'm sure of it. The thing that bothered me is the last two times I saw him he brought me orange juice which for one I don't even like and it was a single serving bottle which looked to have been already opened both times. He made a point of wanting me to drink it but I refused. May sound like a small thing but scared the hell out of me. In recent years I have been doing more checking up on clients. I require the escort reference, a work number that I can call and ask for him at once to see if he really works there, and 2 forms of ID once I meet him. I have honestly had great luck with really nice clients though. Link to post Share on other sites
turnstone Posted September 28, 2010 Share Posted September 28, 2010 But I thought you worked for an agency? Don't they provide the safeguards and do the checks? Link to post Share on other sites
Author SpillinItAll Posted September 28, 2010 Author Share Posted September 28, 2010 But I thought you worked for an agency? Don't they provide the safeguards and do the checks? They do. These are things I have required they do for me. But they did do a decent amount of screening for that guy and he still threw red flags IMO. Better safe then sorry. Link to post Share on other sites
aerogurl87 Posted September 28, 2010 Share Posted September 28, 2010 either way, what OP is doing is illegal (and immoral). You knowingly have sex with men (and women) for money. Illegal. And your kids will find out. In the end, truth always wins. So enjoy your lifestyle while you can. Enjoy the innocence your children have, while it lasts, because when they find out, nothing will ever be the same, for you or for them. Their future relationships will be doomed all because of your choices. Whether you walk the street or call yourself an escort, what you really are is a prostitute. I really don't mean to hurt your feelings, but truth be told, you need to take the rose colored glasses off and see things for what they really are. Her children's future relationships are not automatically doomed because of her choice in employment. *sigh* As I said before I won't judge. No one on this Earth is perfect and I'm not gonna take the "I am holier than thou" road as some others. Link to post Share on other sites
JustJoe Posted September 28, 2010 Share Posted September 28, 2010 I still don't buy what Spillinitall is selling, but i have never seen the point of an "escort". I'm single and can usually get any woman I want. Not bragging, and not rich, but women like me, it's some kind of hormonal thing that runs in the family. So IF I were married, and IF i wanted to cheat, why buy pu**y when it's free in every club, bar, restaurant, shopping mall, laudramat, supermarket, college, sports event and anywhere else you would care to look? This is a silly thread, indeed. Link to post Share on other sites
aerogurl87 Posted September 28, 2010 Share Posted September 28, 2010 I still don't buy what Spillinitall is selling, but i have never seen the point of an "escort". I'm single and can usually get any woman I want. Not bragging, and not rich, but women like me, it's some kind of hormonal thing that runs in the family. So IF I were married, and IF i wanted to cheat, why buy pu**y when it's free in every club, bar, restaurant, shopping mall, laudramat, supermarket, college, sports event and anywhere else you would care to look? This is a silly thread, indeed. There's alot of reasons. One big reason being no drama. Ok so I'm not an escort/prostitute and never was but I was propositioned by someone to be basically an "on call girlfriend". When I asked him why this is what he was looking for, and why me, he had a couple of reasons. 1) He was a busy man so he had no time for a full time, real relationship. 2) He liked being single and having the ability to get any girl he wanted when he wanted without being tied down, yet he still wanted companionship. 3) He didn't want the drama a relationship entailed or the high maintenance attitude alot of women come with. I was low maintenance, no attitude of entitlement, trustworthy, easy going, not into causing drama, and I was very open minded about sex. He loved all those things about me and wanted us to start this arrangement where basically I was like his girlfriend when he wanted me around and not there when he wanted to be by himself. Would've worked great had I not met my ex around that same time. Link to post Share on other sites
JustJoe Posted September 28, 2010 Share Posted September 28, 2010 Aero, that's nonsense. Do you think that the women I hit on at bars or any place else, cause more drama or less? A ONS is a ONS how much more meaningless can sex get? I can go to any college bar and pick up a different girl every night I choose to do so. so I'm paying for what? A motel room, a few drinks and most of the are sorority girls and very good looking. They want sex and fun from me and I want it from them, what could be easier? Link to post Share on other sites
aerogurl87 Posted September 28, 2010 Share Posted September 28, 2010 Aero, that's nonsense. Do you think that the women I hit on at bars or any place else, cause more drama or less? A ONS is a ONS how much more meaningless can sex get? I can go to any college bar and pick up a different girl every night I choose to do so. so I'm paying for what? A motel room, a few drinks and most of the are sorority girls and very good looking. They want sex and fun from me and I want it from them, what could be easier? Yes but JustJoe if you go and get it from someone who you have a pre-established arrangement with, how much easier would that be? And not everyone is into ONS, some people like to have sex albeit NSA sex, with someone they're familiar with. Not to mention the fact that ONS don't really fill the void of companionship if you're after more than mere sex. Why do you think alot of people want FWB nowadays? It's like getting all the benefits of a relationship without the drama. Although those situations usually lead to drama as well. Link to post Share on other sites
JustJoe Posted September 28, 2010 Share Posted September 28, 2010 You may be right, for older or more settled men, but most young guys want sex and could give two sh*ts about companionship. so maybe it's an old guy thing. Link to post Share on other sites
Sticks82 Posted September 28, 2010 Share Posted September 28, 2010 You may be right, for older or more settled men, but most young guys want sex and could give two sh*ts about companionship. so maybe it's an old guy thing. Joe, stop talking like a child. You pick a girl up in a bar there is always the chance you will a. Get noticed picking said girl up by friends of friends b. have to deal with her emotional baggage 3. find yourself with a stalker! Its the difference between dealing with an amateur and dealing with a professional who knows exactly what she is there for and won't pester you or **** your life up after by phoning your wife/girlfriend when she's drunk and emotional. Also, I tend to find that guys that are very vocal about there conquests are usually full of ****. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author SpillinItAll Posted September 28, 2010 Author Share Posted September 28, 2010 Aero, that's nonsense. Do you think that the women I hit on at bars or any place else, cause more drama or less? A ONS is a ONS how much more meaningless can sex get? I can go to any college bar and pick up a different girl every night I choose to do so. so I'm paying for what? A motel room, a few drinks and most of the are sorority girls and very good looking. They want sex and fun from me and I want it from them, what could be easier? Thats not the type of girl they are looking for. They like someone who is a little more mature, and dresses classy enough to take to a 5star dinning then like a sex goddess in the bedroom, and absolutely no chance of drama. and a side note here- most of these guys are too busy to go to bars at night. They have global conference calls all hours of the day and night and are workaholics. They may have a couple hours free in the middle of the day around lunch and no time to waste. BTW I rarely work at night. Link to post Share on other sites
greengoddess Posted September 28, 2010 Share Posted September 28, 2010 Thats not the type of girl they are looking for. They like someone who is a little more mature, and dresses classy enough to take to a 5star dinning then like a sex goddess in the bedroom, and absolutely no chance of drama. and a side note here- most of these guys are too busy to go to bars at night. They have global conference calls all hours of the day and night and are workaholics. They may have a couple hours free in the middle of the day around lunch and no time to waste. BTW I rarely work at night. :laugh:I'm sure there are very few 5 star dining establishments that serve lunch. If you are being honesty and do these 5 star lunches then your cover isn't as good as you think. You must frequent places more than once. I live near a very large city with lots of 5 star dining and only 2 in the city and whole surrounding area serves lunch. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SpillinItAll Posted September 28, 2010 Author Share Posted September 28, 2010 I still don't buy what Spillinitall is selling. phfew!! Best news I've heard all day! You are exactly the type of guy that never makes it past the phone screening. You sound immature and disrespectful to women. We wouldn't sell what your buying(or not buying as the case may be). Link to post Share on other sites
Author SpillinItAll Posted September 28, 2010 Author Share Posted September 28, 2010 :laugh:I'm sure there are very few 5 star dining establishments that serve lunch. If you are being honesty and do these 5 star lunches then your cover isn't as good as you think. You must frequent places more than once. I live near a very large city with lots of 5 star dining and only 2 in the city and whole surrounding area serves lunch. No, that is usually a "date" that is set up in advance and I make the exception to work at night for those because that usually indicates a very generous client and it's worth the extra hassle for me. And there are a couple here, but also thats a bit of an exaggeration to make my point...more often it's 4star or such. I don't get why some of you thinks this is a cover, if only you did the research in the closest large city to you you would likely see how common this is(escorts). Link to post Share on other sites
greengoddess Posted September 28, 2010 Share Posted September 28, 2010 Did you not say that you have a friend providing a job cover for you? That you are miss soccer mom pta and no one knows you are a paid sex worker? Sheesh people know escorts are a dime a dozen. It's the whole whole hidden life pta crap were not buying. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SpillinItAll Posted September 28, 2010 Author Share Posted September 28, 2010 Did you not say that you have a friend providing a job cover for you? That you are miss soccer mom pta and no one knows you are a paid sex worker? Sheesh people know escorts are a dime a dozen. It's the whole whole hidden life pta crap were not buying. Well at my kids school they actually require more parent involvement then others so when I was putting that much volunteer time forth after the first year there I decided I may as well join the PTA. Another reason why I like my job is all the free time it allows me to be very involved with my kids. Therefore my weekends are free and lots of time during the week as well. I'm not selfish and decide to use that time for hair apts or spa days, i want to invest that time in my children. Saturday mornings I am with my son at his soccer practice, monday afternoons I am at their horseback riding lessons and soon will include piano practice for the older one. The truth is people don't really care to investigate what you do for a living so nobody knows. I tell them my cover job and then thats that. Why wouldn't they trust that I'm telling the truth. I don't dress trashy or live in the ghetto I just simply don't have any red flags to make them wonder. Link to post Share on other sites
Rashad Posted September 28, 2010 Share Posted September 28, 2010 Have you read "11 Minutes" by Paolo Coelho? Link to post Share on other sites
Author SpillinItAll Posted September 28, 2010 Author Share Posted September 28, 2010 Have you read "11 Minutes" by Paolo Coelho? No I haven't. What is it about? Do you recommend I read it? Link to post Share on other sites
Author SpillinItAll Posted September 28, 2010 Author Share Posted September 28, 2010 Yaaa let's hear a juicy crazy client story. OK. There is one guy who I see maybe once every few months and he is super super hot!! Dresses extremely well(Armani suits nice shoes the whole nine). He has a super sexy Audi sports car(very expensive). He works in finance, financial adviser I think, at a very well known firm. The first time I saw him I was thinking how sexy this perfect guy is and he was getting undressed then I see under his suit a pair of womens thong underwear:lmao:. He really wore that to work all day LOL. I asked him later about it and he said he feel like it gives him an edge in business:laugh:. Like he is sitting in his meetings knowing he is secretly wearing womens underwear and it makes him feel empowered. It was hilarious, but I really like seeing him. Link to post Share on other sites
BB07 Posted September 28, 2010 Share Posted September 28, 2010 OK. There is one guy who I see maybe once every few months and he is super super hot!! Dresses extremely well(Armani suits nice shoes the whole nine). He has a super sexy Audi sports car(very expensive). He works in finance, financial adviser I think, at a very well known firm. The first time I saw him I was thinking how sexy this perfect guy is and he was getting undressed then I see under his suit a pair of womens thong underwear:lmao:. He really wore that to work all day LOL. I asked him later about it and he said he feel like it gives him an edge in business:laugh:. Like he is sitting in his meetings knowing he is secretly wearing womens underwear and it makes him feel empowered. It was hilarious, but I really like seeing him. I suppose you have to become quite a good actress in order to maintain the laughter or control the disgust. A woman's thong uh! :lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
lizzibeth Posted September 28, 2010 Share Posted September 28, 2010 hmmm....interesting....>.< Link to post Share on other sites
JustJoe Posted September 28, 2010 Share Posted September 28, 2010 (edited) phfew!! Best news I've heard all day! You are exactly the type of guy that never makes it past the phone screening. You sound immature and disrespectful to women. We wouldn't sell what your buying(or not buying as the case may be).With all due respect. I'm glad too, Spillin. But you clearly misunderstand me, completely. I'm not saying that I don't buy the IDEA of escorts, I'm saying that it is a waste of money for any man, who has even the slightest amount of self-confidence. My examples were about YOUNG GUYS, not older , more mature men. If you were as educated and mature as you claim, you would have known that. Also if you were as classy as you claim, you would know that there is no such thing as a 5 star restuarant on the Michelin Guide. As far as my maturity, 6 years in my country's service (wounded twice) and my current job as a HS history teacher says you are wrong. If you want to talk about issues, I'm your man, if you want to talk nonsense, then I'll leave you to it. Have fun. Edited September 28, 2010 by JustJoe Link to post Share on other sites
aerogurl87 Posted September 28, 2010 Share Posted September 28, 2010 You may be right, for older or more settled men, but most young guys want sex and could give two sh*ts about companionship. so maybe it's an old guy thing. Well the guy I was referring to was in his early 30s and sexy as hell. He can have any girl he wants I figure, with his looks, personality, and wealth. But I think his main thing was he couldn't trust any woman because most people were after his money, and didn't like him for him. He actually DID want companionship. Maybe not every day, but when he felt the need to talk to someone who wasn't going to be a yes (wo)man and would be honest with him. So maybe that's why he wanted to set everything up. But I'm just speaking from my experience with this one guy in particular. Link to post Share on other sites
1qkblugt Posted September 28, 2010 Share Posted September 28, 2010 (edited) One of my clients at work is an escort!! She seems to mostly work during the day. She is doing what she has to do to support her children. I really don't agree with it but I haven't walked a mile in her shoes so I can't judge her. She has 3 kiddos and is recently divorced. She also has custody of a deceased family member's 2 children. Trust me you would NEVER know it by looking at her !! Oh and her kids go to catholic school and she's a member of the PTA !!!!!!! Edited September 28, 2010 by 1qkblugt Link to post Share on other sites
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