Do all personal trainers act this way?

[johan]

Well, because personal training is a little more personal.

 

Oh, I see. I guess that is pretty funny now that I think about it. ha ha ha.. I get the joke... ha ha ha.

[Leigh 87]

SPILLinitall - Oh I hope you are not complaining about it, you should be greatful you are attractive enough for hot trainer to hit on you. I am not attractive, and being attractive makes like much easier, you are LUCKY to be attractive enough for guys, especially hot trainers, to want you. Most of us are not as lucky as you and cannot get dates or guys until they fall in love with our " personalities".,........... yay.

 

TO THE OP - If the trainer knows she has a b/f, it is common for guys to know girls who they would consider as girlfriend material, or girls they would love to get physical with, but to know they are taken and to respect that.

 

I am sure you have known lots of girls before who you know would be nice to date, but that you haven't because they were not single.

[mr.jekyll]

TO THE OP - If the trainer knows she has a b/f, it is common for guys to know girls who they would consider as girlfriend material, or girls they would love to get physical with, but to know they are taken and to respect that.

 

I am sure you have known lots of girls before who you know would be nice to date, but that you haven't because they were not single.

 

That's assuming the guys are responsible and good people that won't go after girls who are not single.

[tman666]

That's assuming the guys are responsible and good people that won't go after girls who are not single.

 

Which is, obviously, a bad assumption.

 

Have you ever heard the saying "he who cares the least, wins"? (or something to that effect)

 

I think that the more proactive role you take in worrying about this issue, the worse off you'll be. Yes, you need to mentally prepare yourself for the possibility of "ok, what if she's ****ing this guy?". What would be your course of action? Would you leave her outright? Would you guys "have a talk"? Would you take a bat to the trainer's knees? (kidding)

 

You will be better off if you understand that she'll do what she's going to do. Let him go after her. Who cares, right? If she's the kind of girl that you want to be with, she'll make it apparent to him that she's taken, and turn him down. If she transgresses, then it's better to know now than later. You can't watch over her 24/7. You'll go nuts, and she'll hate you for it. All you can do is let her know that you love her, that you love being with her, but that you won't take any BS. Obviously, watch out for signs of her cheating. Don't ignore evidence or turn a blind eye. However, trying to control the what happens will not end well.

 

I think that if she's any kind of girlfriend at all, she'll put this guy in his place before it goes too far.

[johan]

I think that the more proactive role you take in worrying about this issue, the worse off you'll be. Yes, you need to mentally prepare yourself for the possibility of "ok, what if she's ****ing this guy?". What would be your course of action? Would you leave her outright? Would you guys "have a talk"? Would you take a bat to the trainer's knees? (kidding)

 

You will be better off if you understand that she'll do what she's going to do. Let him go after her. Who cares, right? If she's the kind of girl that you want to be with, she'll make it apparent to him that she's taken, and turn him down. If she transgresses, then it's better to know now than later. You can't watch over her 24/7. You'll go nuts, and she'll hate you for it. All you can do is let her know that you love her, that you love being with her, but that you won't take any BS. Obviously, watch out for signs of her cheating. Don't ignore evidence or turn a blind eye. However, trying to control the what happens will not end well.

 

I think that if she's any kind of girlfriend at all, she'll put this guy in his place before it goes too far.

 

Same point I was trying to make. But I think Jekyll is really more trying to gather anti-personal-trainer ammo in this thread.

[Leigh 87]

But you shouldn't complain about being attractive enough for hot trainers to hit on you. Many women would love to look good but don't. Most women are not attractive enough for good lookling guys to hit on them. You are lucky lol.

[USMCHokie]

But you shouldn't complain about being attractive enough for hot trainers to hit on you.

 

Are you completely missing the point here...?

[Leigh 87]

No. I am just saying that I think being attractive is a good thing, and one should not complain about it. If a trainer is nice and good looking then there is no inconnvenience if they simply express interest; if you are not single or not interested in them, the trainer respects this, and goes on acting in a professional and appropriate manner, then what IS WRONG with being hit on by a nice hot guy? EVen if it happens constantly? As long as the guy acts respectable what is the problem with being attractive enough for hot guys to want you? girls are LUCKY if they are pretty.

 

On the other hand, if trainers act in a way that HINDERS your training session, which you pay good money for, of COURSE it is innapropriate and something worth feeling annoyed about.

 

Being attractive enough for a lot of hot men to be interested in you is nothing to complain about if the men, in this case trainers, still give a full, proffesional service, that is not impacted by their physical attraction for you. A lot of guys can think a girl is hot and think about them in dirty ways without it causing them to not train them as well.

 

Sorry, it is just that I would love to be attractive, and I hate people complaining about how " oh no, I am really good looking poor me, guys hit on me too often, especially hot trainers".

 

I mean sheesh, most women would LOVE to be able to have hot guys interested in them; I would be happy to have to deal with the idiot ones, because at least there will be a higher amount of guys and therefore a chance of finding a decent one if you are attractive.

 

I just dont like hot girls complaining about how tough it is to be thin and beautiful lol.

 

I recently had to gain 6 lbs and hate not being attractive or thin so I have a low tollerance for women who ARE, and COMPLAIN about it.

 

 

I cannot help how I feel, so I am not sorry about having this opinion. I DO empashize though, if there are weirdo, @sshole types of men who hit on hot women a lot, I DO feel bad for ANY women who has a jerk annoy or harrass them.

 

Instead of complaining about how personal trainers, most of which have good bodies, are always hitting on you, why not get a women trainer? if they are not as many good women trainers as there are men, surely it is not that hard to find ONE decent guy trainer who is not a jerk?

[Leigh 87]

Spillitall - Sorry if you have to deal with trainers who fail to train you well due to their feelings towards you, but I am sure there are ways to find ones that are not jerks and can actually train you well, regardless of how much they desire you.

 

 

I have never known what it is like to be " inconvennienced" by lots of hot men wanting me. To me, I would LOVE to have that " problem" lol. I want you to see where I am comming from, so you are not offended; you have every right to be uspet about guys who mistreat you and do not respect your boundries ( or the fact you just want a training session!)

 

I would like to think that the Author or this threads g/f, and SPillitall, can find male trainers who can desire them without it impacting the training session

[mr.jekyll]

Same point I was trying to make. But I think Jekyll is really more trying to gather anti-personal-trainer ammo in this thread.

 

 

Not at all. I was trying to understand their psyche so I can better deal.

[mr.jekyll]

I would like to think that the Author or this threads g/f, and SPillitall, can find male trainers who can desire them without it impacting the training session

 

Based on this, I'm starting to think any training with any one trainer shouldn't last a long period of time. They'll grow more familiar with each other and things could develop.

[Star Gazer]

My CF coach/trainer was staring at, if not inspecting, my ass for half of my workout tonight. But he was supposed to. Would that freak you out too, OP?

 

If your GF is gonna cheat, she's gonna cheat. Nothing you can do about it, I'm afraid. If she's a good GF, she'll make her boundaries clear before anything even gets close to happening.

[mr.jekyll]

My CF coach/trainer was staring at, if not inspecting, my ass for half of my workout tonight. But he was supposed to. Would that freak you out too, OP?

 

If your GF is gonna cheat, she's gonna cheat. Nothing you can do about it, I'm afraid. If she's a good GF, she'll make her boundaries clear before anything even gets close to happening.

 

 

No, I get that I have to learn to handle the situation because if it's not the trainer, it could be someone else.

 

But the ass is probably a necessary part of the workout. The face? I don't recall the girl I'm seeing signing up to have her face trained.

 

And it depends on how the look is.

[Star Gazer]

But the ass is probably a necessary part of the workout. The face? I don't recall the girl I'm seeing signing up to have her face trained.

 

I also make extended eye contact with my trainer/coach, when I'm staring at him with "I f*cking hate you right now" eyes, even mid-squat.

[mr.jekyll]

I also make extended eye contact with my trainer/coach, when I'm staring at him with "I f*cking hate you right now" eyes, even mid-squat.

 

 

So you were deliberately flirting.

[Star Gazer]

So you were deliberately flirting.

 

Nope. I honestly hated him in that moment.

[mr.jekyll]

Nope. I honestly hated him in that moment.

 

 

Beware it doesn't come across as flirting.

[tman666]

Based on this, I'm starting to think any training with any one trainer shouldn't last a long period of time. They'll grow more familiar with each other and things could develop.

 

Are you going to try and not let her work in any one place for more than a couple of months too, based on that logic?

[Ruby Slippers]

I interviewed a guy for some things I was writing on his behalf a couple of years ago. He used to be a personal trainer and had trainer friends, and told me many stories during our interviews, all about how easy it is to score with women at the gym when you're a personal trainer. He slept with the majority of his clients, and said heavy flirting was basically expected.

[mr.jekyll]

Are you going to try and not let her work in any one place for more than a couple of months too, based on that logic?

 

 

Work is different. Personal training, is, as the words say, a little personal.

[mr.jekyll]

I interviewed a guy for some things I was writing on his behalf a couple of years ago. He used to be a personal trainer and had trainer friends, and told me many stories during our interviews, all about how easy it is to score with women at the gym when you're a personal trainer. He slept with the majority of his clients, and said heavy flirting was basically expected.

 

 

Did he say why heavy flirting was "basically expected?" That women who sign up for personal training expect to be flirted with? Or they sign up with the intention of getting flirted with and working out is a by-product?

[Ruby Slippers]

Did he say why heavy flirting was "basically expected?" That women who sign up for personal training expect to be flirted with? Or they sign up with the intention of getting flirted with and working out is a by-product?

Well, he said that 80% of his female clients would subtly flirt right from the beginning, which he viewed as his invitation to flirt right back. With most of these, he ended up in bed quickly, and had ongoing sexual relationships. He told me that most of his clients were rich, bored housewives who basically did nothing but work out, shop, and get beauty treatments. They craved excitement, and this was an easy avenue for that.

 

(Granted, this guy was openly a playboy. He was even flirting with me -- tempting, but he was my client, so I resisted.)

 

Whether or not the woman you're seeing would get involved with him comes down to her, but I think it's fair to assume that a lot of personal trainers are used to making easy scores with their clients.

[Tayla]

I cant make a blanket statement on this subject to state that ALL or NONE are like this. Clearly some events are a variation of the persons incidences/expereinces...

 

In recent times and with a few associates we had private trainers and we were fortunate to have well behaved and respectable trainers. They were contracted thru the large gym chain. They were also given the riot act before hire as to what behavior and talk is allowed with the clients. We knew upfront this was the place to get a fairly decent workout and not feel like a piece of meat to be gawked. The trainers were forbidden to date or carry an outside relations with clients. (No fraternizing). SO lesson learned- If they are behaving in appropriately or not professionally...you are the boss to them...confront the matter and resolve.

[i'mfaraway]

Well, he said that 80% of his female clients would subtly flirt right from the beginning, which he viewed as his invitation to flirt right back. With most of these, he ended up in bed quickly, and had ongoing sexual relationships. He told me that most of his clients were rich, bored housewives who basically did nothing but work out, shop, and get beauty treatments. They craved excitement, and this was an easy avenue for that.

 

(Granted, this guy was openly a playboy. He was even flirting with me -- tempting, but he was my client, so I resisted.)

 

Whether or not the woman you're seeing would get involved with him comes down to her, but I think it's fair to assume that a lot of personal trainers are used to making easy scores with their clients.

 

 

 

So this suggests that for people like me that genuinely just want a trainer to help me exercise better, others would still assume I'm bored and only want an easy hookup with a male trainer?!

 

I know one should live for oneself but this, if is the industry code, is making me sick.

[Ruby Slippers]

So this suggests that for people like me that genuinely just want a trainer to help me exercise better, others would still assume I'm bored and only want an easy hookup with a male trainer?!

 

I know one should live for oneself but this, if is the industry code, is making me sick.

I'm sure not ALL trainers are like this. Or you could get a lady trainer.