Jealous,Competitive and vindictive older sister

[Chewy2007]

For as long as I can remember, my sister has always been very competitive, jealous and vindictive of me. I’m 30 and she is 31 so we are 1 year apart, but for some reason she is always competing with me or asking if I am jealous of her. We will name my oldest sister Nelly. She always asks if I am jealous of anything she does from her new hair style to the color of her eyes, if she lost weight and even to the type of boyfriend she is dating, she thinks I want them too LOL they are seriously not my type of men to date. I am tall 170 cm, thinner than her and guys do notice me more than they notice her, even my older sister and mother says this to me. I am smarter and more attractive than her in the face and I have an outgoing personality, which she destroyed, with my mother. She somehow managed to get my mother to gang up on me with her. My mother is totally on her side and completely backs my sister up in anything she says nothing my sister says or do is wrong .

 

As long as I can remember if I got anything she liked, she had to have it as well and put my parents through hell until she got the same thing or something better or more expensive.

 

I was in a relationship for 8 years with a nice man, where my sister convinced my parents that I was suicidal or in depression. She also liked to stir my parents up with stories of how bad he was, so that my parents would check up on my and I fiancé all the time showing up at random times at the house we were renting together uninvited, to see if I was dead because I didn’t answer an email or pick up the phone at 6am in the morning or when ever they felt I should be responsive. They even called the police on us when we went on a holiday because they thought I was dead somewhere (my sisters idea.)

 

When I moved back home I pretended I wasn’t home and the power went out. So I sat there in my room waiting to see if she would go and switch it on “ she never does this, she expects everyone else in the house to do everything and she will refuse to turn on the power. So I waited to see what happened. She started to call out my grandma to ask where I was; my grandma said I think your sister isn’t home. So my older sister told her, maybe you should call the ambulance because Jill (me the youngest sister) might be dead in her room. She called my parents to tell them this. I was shocked loll. So I opened the door and she was kind of stunned that I was there.

 

She even ripped out a street directory page, which was for my job interview. Smashed a glass dish into my hand because she had to wash the dishes, and stabbed a fork in my knee because I took a piece of chicken from her “which was hers” apparently. She damaged my clothes and bras with face wax, because she believed I took her clothes out of the dryer. She even turned all 4 gas stove valves on high at night while everyone was asleep. I found out at 2 am in the morning when I woke up to get a drink of water and turned them off and told my parents. They said no she didn’t do it.

 

Also when I was dating a new guy, she told me that he was cheating on me. And when I became sick and need few operations, she told me I deserved it. She puts me down 24/7 calling me all sorts of names with my mother backing her up.

 

Now she finally has a new boyfriend this time he is 10 years younger than her, he looks like my ex fiancé except shorter and fatter (this guy is a kid). Even my dad keeps getting confused calling him my ex’s name all the time.

 

So now I must be jealous of her because he has blue eyes, black dye hair (but really has blonde hair) WOW LOL and he has asked her to marry him. I don’t give a rats what he is I keep telling her. Of course I must be jealous of this. Recently she stormed in with the new engagement ring on saying “ Ha ha ha I am engaged and your not, now its payback, ha ha.” Me being stunned I said payback for what? What did I do that needs a pay back for? Are you getting engaged to pay me back ?, she walked away and didn’t say anything. Like did she forget I was engaged too? Which she destroyed the relationship with her lies.

 

Everything is a payback with her; she even threw a birthday ring away her fiancé gave her, because he forced her to wash 1 saucer in front of my mother (god forbid if she has to wash the dishes). And blamed it on the fact that he asked her to wash the saucer. And she made him buy another one. My father and mother thinks that Nelly is right for doing this LOL . Please help me on what to do with this older sister of mine.