I have a crush on my professor

[HopelesslyManic]

So I'm a sophmore in college, I'm 20, and he's like in his 30's. He teaches two of my classes (well takes over one of the classes when my other prof isn't there). Well of course when I first attended his class I was like oh he's cute and has a sexy accent. I, of course, admired him from afar never giving any signs that i had an interest in him. I really am in awe of his intelligence and I think he's so funny! Anyways, I cant help but feel that he is somewhat attracted to me and of course this was like adding fuel to the fire for my crazy thoughts lol. I never dress up just tee shirts and jeans, I love to study and I'm not one who cares for unwanted attention. That being said, he still starred at me in class. Anytime i gave a polite smile or laughed at his jokes he would continue joking like he loved to see me laugh, it was so sweet! I asked myself if it was all in my head and it isn't in fact other ppl notice it too. this girl sits in the front and always tries to get her attention the way he looks and speaks to her is like a prof would with a student but not with me. He stares at me a lot and one time (it was kind of embarrassing) I was looking down at my paper and looked up to see him starring at me then he looked away. I looked up b/c he had suddenly gotten quiet. As he looked away it was as if he had been in a trance (no joke) and he was shaking his head and saying "uhmm...yea, you know.." and stuff like that. lol. no im not exaggerating or anything. He's known to be strict about things being turned in on time and as i went up to just ask him if the homework was due at midnight(not wanting an extension on the work or anything i was just confused) he asked if i needed more time? when he asked he was looking at me deeply and concerned and i felt this strange feeling in my body as if he was staring into my soul. i told him no and he asked again and i nodded replying i would have it finished. as i walked away he was still staring at me. I notice that when he subs my other class (its a huge class like auditorium size) he stands on my side right in front of me and he lectures to me and looks at me and occassionally asks if i need help or if im getting it and he asks no one else this. i feel like hes trying to get my attention ya know and its funny b/c the rest of the class will look in my direction sometimes like "whats going on over there". its crazy. i'm far from stupid and in class i keep it very professional but he starts acting all nervous and i want to blush. of course i love the attention, i mean i really like the guy but idk if he is feeling the same. i dressed up the other day b/c i had to for an interview and he was staring at me all nervous like that "im going to look when she isn't but when she looks at me im guna look away" type of thing. i thought it was so cute but its so strange. anytime he looks at me i get chills and i blush, a guy has never had an effect on me like that before. idk i know im young but i am mature for my age. he shows no signs of being married or dating anyone. and no im not looking for an A in the class or to ruin anyones life, i really like him but i feel like im going crazy with all of these thoughts. please help!

[Angel1111]

Well, I don't think there's anything quite like a professor to knock my socks off. That's just purely sexy. haha. I think he's probably really attracted to you but just make sure he doesn't have a reputation for this kind of thing - you know, singling out a girl from each class and playing games like this. It sounds like he's sincere but you never know.

 

I think if anything does develop between the two of you, you'll probably have to wait until you're out of that college because I think professors aren't supposed to date students and he could lose his job over it. But you never know where it might go.

[SincereOnlineGuy]

I wish somebody in the know would come to your aid here.

 

If he is really attracted to you at this point it is quite likely that he goes through that routine every semester. If you give any (male teacher) a brand new and random cross section of young adult students he will sort them all in his mind and perhaps show a little more concern for the most physically attractive of them.

 

Hard to determine whether you are merely the award winner in that category for this semester or if he would indeed like to run into you away from school hours somewhere.

 

In this day and age professors and students have routine e-mail contact so you could find some reason to e-mail him for, say, clarity on one of his lectures, and see if that leads anywhere. His written words will probably give him away eventually.

[breadnbutter]

So I'm a sophmore in college, I'm 20, and he's like in his 30's. He teaches two of my classes (well takes over one of the classes when my other prof ... i really like him but i feel like im going crazy with all of these thoughts. please help!

 

 

Hi there,

 

I bet those feelings are beautiful and you want them to go on and on. I am a few years older than you, am infatuated with a person and I believe I am in love. I have no idea what he has got for me, if anything at all. And still I enjoy that fealing of being in the sky with butterflies in the stomach, stupidly believing that he might be reminded of me at least for a fraction of a second in a week.

 

I strongly suggest that you keep your feelings to yourself since he is your teacher and that you can't mess up with your career flirting with your prof. He has nothing to lose. Only you will. So wait until you're sure you get strong signs from him confirming his interest in you. Meanwhile enjoy flirting deep within your heart ONLY.

 

Let us know how its coming along. Good luck

[denise_xo]

He has nothing to lose. Only you will.

 

Not so. He can lose his job and entire career. Most unis have strict policies on this, and the repercussions are always greater for faculty members than for the student.

[Meaplus3]

Well.. sort of like having a crush on ones Doctor. Anway.. ummmmm you know, his professional status is very much at stake if he becomes involved with you. So.. he may be HOT. But, really is he HOT enough for you to get involved and possibly cost the man his job? Think about that if you will.

 

 

Mea:)

[Dazzel]

Hmm....I am so jealous of you!

I had a teacher in college who I had a huge crush. Like yours, he was foreign (from Germany and had an awesome accent) and was very smart and witty. And I was very attracted to him. I figured he was likely in his mid to late thirties. To this day he is still one of the sexiest men I have known.

I knew I had no chance with him. I sent him a totally anonymous email asking if he'd date a student. Got no response. I felt silly afterwards.

 

But be careful you don't cost him his job! I do hope things work out for you.

 

A counselor I used to see knew a girl who got married to one of her college professors, so it happens. Good luck.

[breadnbutter]

Hmm....I am so jealous of you!

I had a teacher in college who I had a huge crush. Like yours, he was foreign (from Germany and had an awesome accent) and was very smart and witty. And I was very attracted to him. I figured he was likely in his mid to late thirties. To this day he is still one of the sexiest men I have known.

I knew I had no chance with him. I sent him a totally anonymous email asking if he'd date a student. Got no response. I felt silly afterwards.

 

But be careful you don't cost him his job! I do hope things work out for you.

 

A counselor I used to see knew a girl who got married to one of her college professors, so it happens. Good luck.

 

Cute story! very luvvy. True. Sometimes you meet guys whom you really like and still hold some affections for them knowing that you have no chnace with them

[HopelesslyManic]

Thank you guys for all of your feedback its really helped. I know I'm just really in love with this guy and trust me I'm old fashioned I'm not one to tell a guy anything even if Im crazy in love with them so dont worry. I also am not stalking him! lol. It was funny the other day in class our eyes kept meeting and then darting away and finally its like he gave up and started just staring at me. It was funny b/c i looked up and there he was lecturing and just staring at me. Unlike the other times I wasn't getting nervous or blushing I was just lost in his eyes. we maintained eye contact for a while I mean like a while. I've thought if he could be a prof that hits on a girl each semester but like he's not a HOT teacher (I think hes hot) but hes not like a hotty. He's a science prof so he's dorky but in such a cute way. He has nice features and of course that sexy russian accent but he doesn't seem like the type of prof to be that way with a lot of girls or anything. Like i mentioned this one girl always tries to flirt with him and he ignores her like "alright kid...". I think its more like i did catch his attention and I think he is physically attracted to me. I've caught him eyeing me up and down. Maybe he thinks im russian cuz i get that alot and we have the same coloring (like our hair is dark and our skin pale). I heard that ppl like that are attracted to other ppl like that but idk why lol.I'm not saying anything about race I'm just saying maybe he feels comfortable like I'm familiar or something. Anyways, its just crazy. I did have a very strange encounter with my other science prof though. I was asking him a question so he told me to walk and talk with him. We talked for a few minutes and as i was walking away i turned around to tell him thanks and he was staring at my butt. I turned quickly and i wanted to run away. When i looked at him in the eyes it was like he had a guilty look on his face. Now in class he will look at me but avoid me in a way but i don't have a crush on him so its not like im hurting or anything lol. I just don't want it to stop me from asking questions or getting help. But today i noticed he actually kept trying to get my attention and like he would stare at me for long periods of time. I just tried to avoid his stares. By the way hes like a lot older like 60's but i kid you not he looks like hes in his 40's. Just thought I'd let you guys know what's up and if you've ever experienced that with another prof. Thanks again for all of your replies I really appreciate it = )