How to be happy not jealous of newly engaged friend.

[Al]

One of my close girlfriends called to tell me that she got engaged last night. I am 24 and have a close group of girlfriends since high school of five girls and she is the first one of us to get engaged. I am so happy for her but yet I can't help but be a little envious and jealous. I have a great boyfriend and we've been together longer than she has with her boyfriend but things happen when they happen for a reason. She said that all of us girls are standing up in her wedding which means we have a big part in it. How do I keep my emotions in check during all this? I always thought it would be cool to be the first one of us girls but I'm just glad that someone is taking the plunge. I don't want my enviousness to get in the way or cause me to give anyone attitude. I told my boyfriend that she was engaged and his first question to me was "am I gonna get attitude about this now b/c we aren't engaged?" How do I stay content with where I am in my life and happy for her wedding day next year all at the same time? I want to be the best friend possible through all of this.

[dreamyluv7]

Hi I am 21 and I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and I always get jealous of girls who have been dating less and have already gotten married too.

 

But then I told myself, that I need to focus on my life now! I mean I wish I was engaged but I also like the space I have right now, to do what I want with friends. Be selfish and have fun while you are still single

(so called). Go out and do the things you love that you know you wouldn't be able to if you were not single. Believe it isn't easy!

 

Don't worry your time will come, just enjoy the time you have right now.

 

Good luck!

[Al]

Thanks, I try to enjoy life and live in the moment so to speak but it's hard sometimes. Especially when someone else gets what you want. My boyfriend and I have been together going on two years and we' ve looked at rings several times quite awhile ago but I know he does not have the financial means that he would like right now to get the type of ring I would like. The friend that just got engaged first looked at rings with her boyfriend of maybe 6 months for the first time this past weekend and then he proposed yesterday. But I suppose everything happens at certain times for everyone. I don't even know that I am ready to be married. A classmate of mine got married on New Year's of this year and it made me realize that my boyfriend and I have a ways to go, I think, to really reach that point in our relationship. I guess though when this happens to someone else you start wishing and wanting more so that usual.

[carla]

Being engaged and planning a wedding is like show and tell. See I have a big fancy ring, see I look like a princess in my pretty dress. When all the show is over and done you have a marriage which contrary to popular belief is suppost to be a long term commitment. (Like the rabbit you bring to school to show all your friends, once you get home you still have to clean the poop from the cage.)Anyway what I'm tring to say is that you shouldn't want to get married just b/c your friends are, you should want to get married b/c you love your bf and want to spend the rest of your life together. It sounds as though your friend is rushing things alittle. (6 months) It also sounds as though your bf has his head on straight in not wanting to commit until he is finacially stable.

[LikkleMissConfused]

I know exactly how you feel babes! All I can say is that you are a very special and good friend that you can admit that you are slightly jealous and envious. The fact that you can admit it shows how much you care about your friendship and how you want to be a good friend. Don't worry I’m sure your friend realizes that you may be feeling it but like everyone that has replied to your post has said you time will come eventually and trust me engagement and marriage isn't all that! Enjoy your life now! And enjoy being a part of your friends wedding!