Reaper Posted February 27, 2004 Share Posted February 27, 2004 I fell in love with my best chick friend and i told her how i felt. My best Guy friend was my wing man in this situation for about 4 months. I told him how i felt about her. He wold ask her questions for me. Then a few weeks ago they started seeing each other. Now i feel Devestated i felt like punching him but i known him sice i was 4 what should i do but he apologized and stopped dating her. Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted February 27, 2004 Share Posted February 27, 2004 First of all, just to clarify, a wingman is someone who shows the gal's friend a good time, so that she's free, and doesn't have to babysit the friend. What you did wouldn't ever work out, so stop doing it. Should I hate my best friend No, you should free yourself of hate, and be stewards to all mankind. On a more realistic note, childhood buddies always ditch you for a girl at one point or another, it's part of the transition from childhood into adolescence. It honestly happens to the best of us. No one can make the decision on whether or not this is a significant enough transgression to warrant the termination of your friendship. If I were you, I'd be grateful that your buddy is good enough to break things off with her, as an example of how much he values your friendship. Most guys wait until after things don't work out with the gal before attempting reconciliation. I'd take him back, stop pursuing this girl as it's coming between you guys, and take with it the lesson learned from Cyrano de Bergerac, never let your attractive friend do your talking for you. Link to post Share on other sites
Hannah Posted March 6, 2004 Share Posted March 6, 2004 Be grateful he broke things up with her. But i would not try getting with her again i'd find another girl and this time do things on your own don't get your friend to help you so nothing should go wrong. Link to post Share on other sites
amerikajin Posted March 7, 2004 Share Posted March 7, 2004 As Dyer mentioned, he's not a true wing man. A wing man is someone who teams up with you as a kind of prop, usually for light chat or just to convince the girl that you actually do have friends of your own. It doesn't take four months for a wing man to do his work. It's more like four minutes. You took too long to close this chick and you used another guy to do all the work for you. Most girls want a man to do the work himself, which is why she started liking this friend of yours. As far as whether to be friends with your bud, that's your call. Dating in your teens is a little different from dating in your adult life because it's kinda the law of the jungle. Things like that happen rather frequently. As you get older, you learn how to coordinate things more properly among your friends. You set up rules. I can tell you that at 30, if one of my friends went after someone I liked and they knew of that fact beforehand, and didn't give me an opportunity to test the waters myself, I probably wouldn't remain friends with them for long. Now if I make my move and strike out, that's a different matter altogether. I'd say "Have at it, my friend." Link to post Share on other sites
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