Nikki Sahagin Posted November 8, 2010 Share Posted November 8, 2010 I actually agree with the OP. I think women are naturally quite indecisive and primarily what draws women to men is attention, not always sex or companionship. I would love a long term relationship but REALISTICALLY, EXCEPT with my ex, I get very easily bored and unhappy in relationships. I feel they are a trap. In saying that, men are adventurers and women are curious so does marriage really suit either? It's a choice. Link to post Share on other sites
East7 Posted November 11, 2010 Share Posted November 11, 2010 Never good or accurate to generalize, but I would say : Some woman love to get married, but don't like marriage. Link to post Share on other sites
KraftDinner Posted November 13, 2010 Share Posted November 13, 2010 I don't think the fact that more women file for divorce really means that women stop loving first or whatever. Sometimes it's a reaction to the behaviour of a spouse, and often it's a spouse who is for all intents and purposes already checked out of the marriage but is too gutless to actually end things. I know in my personal experience, I will say that I was dumped once. However, he didn't actually dump me... he just pushed me and pushed me to dump him.... stopped talking to me, stopped calling me, treated me badly. So officially I dumped him but I know he had dumped me in his mind already, but was too gutless to actually say the words, so I consider that as me being dumped. Link to post Share on other sites
U2RockZz Posted November 13, 2010 Share Posted November 13, 2010 Contrary to popular perception, I feel that women are not really suited for marriage. The fact is most women have problems with maintaining their interest for their husband. They are so unstable that a lifeling commitment is not really possible for them. They are intense at the beginning (which fools men into marrying them) but then become totally cold. It seems like a common modus operandi of many women. What do you guys think? i agree with this to some extent....my ex didn't love me but she loved my(father's) money to death....so it makes sense to say majority of the women love you for your money or they are gr8 actors Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted November 13, 2010 Share Posted November 13, 2010 i agree with this to some extent....my ex didn't love me but she loved my(father's) money to death....so it makes sense to say majority of the women love you for your money or they are gr8 actors Yes, that is why I married a homeless guy... just so enamored of his backpack. If you married a golddigger, you attracted a golddigger. Plenty of men love the green. This is not a gender issue as much as it is a character issue. Link to post Share on other sites
debby Posted November 14, 2010 Share Posted November 14, 2010 hehe, well since we're generalizing, most of the women that file for divorce proabably do that because they found out their husband was cheating on them. yeah not as many men file for divorce because they would rather maintain the staus quo and just cheat - or just stay in a miserable situation because they know divorce will cost them - especially if kids are involved (which is something that's not fair to men - I admit). This certainly was my case. My ex-H left for his OW, gave her a truck, an engagement ring and moved out...and then told me to file. He never even hired an attorney nor did he appear in court. He didn't care about anything but that piece of @ss that was half his age. He made all these claims about how she was his "soul mate". Oh, the misery he has found himself in since then! Funny how many times he has come back to me wanting to cheat on her in the last 5-6 years since he left. My answer is always NO WAY. He shoulda thought about that before he dumped me after 3 kids and 13 years of marriage. It took him 5 years to come to me and admit he had been so wrong in the way he'd handled the marriage, how he'd treated me and how he'd left. Link to post Share on other sites
shadowofman Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 I think that women, much like the popular tee shirt, feel like at first they have found their knight in shining armor, but eventually realize that they have married a loser in tin foil. And what that boils down to in my mind is that they eventually realize that men are men and they should really be lesbians if they want to be worshiped as the only women on the planet. Link to post Share on other sites
Duckduckgoose Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 Contrary to popular perception, I feel that men are not really suited for marriage. The fact is most men have problems with maintaining their interest for their wife. They are so unstable that a lifeling commitment is not really possible for them. They are intense at the beginning (which fools women into marrying them) but then become totally cold. It seems like a common modus operandi of many men. What do you ladies think? Thar! I fixt it 4 u Its not that men or women are unequally suited for marriage. It is the individual person. Husbands step out of marriages as do wives. The reasons might be different but at the end of the day its less about their gender than it is about whatever issues were in the marriage they were not willing to work on or possibly if there was cheating, abuse, violence, addictions, etc. A catch all statement just shows personal bias. All people who drive red cars are completely nutters!!! That's right all you red car drivers, I just called you out! Link to post Share on other sites
jenifer1972 Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 This is called" concrete thinking". it is the thinking process of children that we are supposed to grow out of. Unfortunately, quite a few on this site are stuck in this childish mode.. Link to post Share on other sites
kourtney01 Posted January 8, 2011 Share Posted January 8, 2011 Absolutely ridiculous...and I beg to differ... I believe it's quite the contrary... People are programmed to get bored of the routine and the familiar, which is why it takes true love and commitment for 2 people to remain together even after the sparks disappear... I guess there are a few lucky ones out there that keep the spark alive too... ...and statistically speaking... men have a tendency to cheat, lose interest, seek something different..etc.. a lot more than women.. ..however both men and women are prone to it. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted January 8, 2011 Share Posted January 8, 2011 Absolutely ridiculous...and I beg to differ... I believe it's quite the contrary... People are programmed to get bored of the routine and the familiar, which is why it takes true love and commitment for 2 people to remain together even after the sparks disappear... I guess there are a few lucky ones out there that keep the spark alive too... ...and statistically speaking... men have a tendency to cheat, lose interest, seek something different..etc.. a lot more than women.. ..however both men and women are prone to it. Men cheat a bit more but 75% of divorces are initiated by women. Look up walkway wife on google and then and then look up walkaway husband and tell me how many hits you get. Link to post Share on other sites
Distant78 Posted January 8, 2011 Share Posted January 8, 2011 Absolutely ridiculous...and I beg to differ... I believe it's quite the contrary... People are programmed to get bored of the routine and the familiar, which is why it takes true love and commitment for 2 people to remain together even after the sparks disappear... I guess there are a few lucky ones out there that keep the spark alive too... ...and statistically speaking... men have a tendency to cheat, lose interest, seek something different..etc.. a lot more than women.. ..however both men and women are prone to it. The stereotype that men cheat the most is ridiculous. It's just that a woman's infideliy were not heard of that much back then. Half the men that divorce their wife don't even know they cheated, and half of those men don't even know their baby isn't biologically theirs. And a LOT MORE women are cheating now they're entering the workforce. It's not just men that are cheating. Link to post Share on other sites
KraftDinner Posted January 12, 2011 Share Posted January 12, 2011 I advise young women not to refuse to marry a man because of his age of ten, twenty or thirty years her senior. It is obligatory for a woman to see her husband, and is fair and appropriate, it should be fine, although she is older. Similarly, a man must devote himself to finding a just, religious woman, but is greater than he, if she is still young and still fertile. In short, age should not be an excuse and should not be regarded as shameful. Huh??????????? Link to post Share on other sites
Linda9999 Posted January 12, 2011 Share Posted January 12, 2011 Huh??????????? Yeah, that. This place is nothing if not entertaining Link to post Share on other sites
alexandria35 Posted January 13, 2011 Share Posted January 13, 2011 (edited) Originally Posted by bingedrinking Contrary to popular perception, I feel that men are not really suited for marriage. The fact is most men have problems with maintaining their interest for their wife. They are so unstable that a lifeling commitment is not really possible for them. They are intense at the beginning (which fools women into marrying them) but then become totally cold. It seems like a common modus operandi of many men. Thar! I fixt it 4 u (haha...this was awesome) It is the individual person. Husbands step out of marriages as do wives. The reasons might be different but at the end of the day its less about their gender than it is about whatever issues were in the marriage they were not willing to work on or possibly if there was cheating, abuse, violence, addictions, etc. A catch all statement just shows personal bias. All people who drive red cars are completely nutters!!! That's right all you red car drivers, I just called you out! I absolutely agree with you Dds. this has nothing to do with genders. Look haven't we all known people who weren't suited to being married, both female and male? Edited January 13, 2011 by alexandria35 edited to remove duplicate quotes Link to post Share on other sites
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