Did I screw up by saying something?

[Lostatnight]

Hi,

 

I took my daughter to a diving class (as in diving into a swimming pool, not scuba diving) about 6-7 years ago when she was about 8-9 years old and the teacher was very lax and let the students just cut in front of each other so that a few of the more 'pushy' students literally got 2-3 turns diving for ever one turn most students got, and my daughter being new in the class, was one of the ones not getting very many dives in so I went up to the teacher and quietly mentioned this to her and if she could keep an eye on the ‘pushy’ ones

 

As fate would have it, somehow my daughter then got pushed next in line out of her turn and went to dive and the teacher yelled at her to wait her turn… anyhow, my daughter said she didn’t really like the class and never wanted to go back, and we moved away later anyway, so it was never a big issue

 

Now, my question is, should I ask my daughter if she remembers this and talk to her about it? I still feel terrible sometimes that I think I caused her to get yelled at by calling the teacher up on not controlling her students, so she took it out on my daughter, as I said, who just happened to someone get let into the line to dive out of turn (the students would just stand around in a group – there was no real waiting line or que)

 

- worried at night

[Tayla]

If it be mentioned, Keep it light and simple....It may not have been the impact that you are perceiving it to be. How did she re-act right after the instructor spoke to her? That is when it needed to be addressed or soon after the session was over.

6-7 years seems a bit strange to bring back up to a child...

Parents make mistakes and deserve the chance to rectify them.

Pleased that you have a conscious about things and want to see where things stand...just curious though if you are willing to deal with other things that may come to the surface from the conversation.

[Lostatnight]

Thanks, Tayla

 

I'll try and bring it up tactfully someday...

 

[Dean M.]

I'd bring it up, but in a light way as Tayla mentioned. She may not be thinking about it at all, but its still a learning opportunity I wouldn't let slip by.