lovehearts Posted October 4, 2010 Share Posted October 4, 2010 (edited) I met my boyfriend aboard we did the long distance for a year because he was working in Portugal and Norway and I live in London. Anyway, the distance was not the problem even tho we was far away we contacted each other everyday, travelled to each others home(good old budget airlines) and after the year was up it was make or break time and he decided to move to London to be with me. Everything has been great, I'm now pregnant with our first child but one thing has popped up out of nowhere. He met my sister at one of my birthday parties which was fine. Once when he came to visit she invited us both to her house. We watched movies, had music on and talked.My sister was rabbiting on about her life before her children, how she partied, used party pills and slept around(I was always the good girl I never did drugs or slept around alot I just travelled and did normal partying) Anyway, when she was talking about her old sex life my guy said"wow I should have met you before" There was a silence as he realised what had popped out of his mouth and I said "excuse me" and my sister said "oh no". We argued about it, he said it was a stupid drunk comment but then we dropped it. Since that day his said a couple of times that he'd "do" my sister!!! He makes it sound like a joke but I don't find it funny. We was watching TV once and not sure why but we was talking about if we broke up who would meet someone else first and he said he won't have a relationship again but he'd go with my sister??? I wanted to smash his head in,we argued again and he never mention it again, that was about 4 months ago. This Saturday night, my sister was blue about her ex boyfriend, so we invited her out with us to dinner.My guy paid, which he normally does, but his normally complains about the price for example in the week we went to the movie and he complained about what a rip off it was it was like £20 for both of us, then saturday he paid £100 for dinner and more in the bars for drinks and not a word. Anyway, my sister wanted to dancing til dawn to get rid of her blues, but I'm pregnant was was knackered at the SECOND bar we went to and wanted to go home so my guy offered to stay with her? I thought it was weird after all the comments his made.I never told my sister I was bothered because she never made the comments. I just left then in the bar/club and went home.I can't be bothered to talk to him, he said he was just trying to cheer her up, but he seemed to go to alot of effect to cheer up his sister in-law.She was raving about what a great time she had the next day and how everyone thought they was a couple? He gave her money?They partied until closing time(he told me two drinks then I'm going home)Am I being crazy or is it weird.I'm pregnant so not sure if I'm acting like a mad pregnant woman. The other day when we went to the movies he seemed bored, whining about everything, the film not great, the price is a rip off, then Saturday night he had a blast. Maybe it's me, I'm too boring for him.Him and my sister are very alike and me and him are opposite which is what I thought he liked but maybe I'm wrong. Edited October 4, 2010 by lovehearts spelling Link to post Share on other sites
aerogurl87 Posted October 4, 2010 Share Posted October 4, 2010 He likes your sister. You're not crazy. Link to post Share on other sites
You Go Girl Posted October 4, 2010 Share Posted October 4, 2010 What a horror story. Do not send your husband off with your sister ever again, for all of eternity! A husband should go home with his pregnant wife, not out dancing and drinking with her sister. The remarks he has made about sex with her are beyond...I'm not even going to say it. I'll stick with the word "unacceptable". Link to post Share on other sites
kuma Posted October 4, 2010 Share Posted October 4, 2010 A husband should go home with his pregnant wife, not out dancing and drinking with her sister. My thoughts exactly! lovehearts, he's treating you badly. Do you trust your sister? Link to post Share on other sites
Author lovehearts Posted October 4, 2010 Author Share Posted October 4, 2010 My thoughts exactly! lovehearts, he's treating you badly. Do you trust your sister? Not sure the guy she was crying over doesn't know that she's cheated on him with three different guys and now she's mad that his not wanting her back.She broke up with her ex and her ex started talking to another girl and then my sister felt all hurt and is telling everyone why is my ex soo bad to me because his not sure who he wants now and has my sister hanging around wonder if he'll pick her or the other girl !!!but I'm her sister so she told me the truth about her cheating on him which she's never told him Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted October 4, 2010 Share Posted October 4, 2010 He is attracted to the 'bad girl' image of your sister. Anyway, he made the WRONG choice by going out with her and not going home with you. She made the wrong choice by allowing him to stay with her! She should have FORCED him home with you. If she needs a shoulder, YOU be that shoulder, or another woman friend should be there for her. . NOT your husband. This is just asking for trouble by putting them alone together. Doesn't mean they'll betray you, but the temptation could be there and the more drinks in them, the harder it'll be to say NO. Link to post Share on other sites
InternationalPlayboy Posted October 4, 2010 Share Posted October 4, 2010 Sounds like a real catch. Link to post Share on other sites
Ella whispers Posted October 4, 2010 Share Posted October 4, 2010 My younger sister has slept with every BF I have had until she married and moved overseas. I feel your pain. You need to check your sister. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lovehearts Posted October 4, 2010 Author Share Posted October 4, 2010 (edited) Sounds like a real catch. To be honest his been perfect until the day he said I should have met you (meaning her) before.I never had any trust issues even when we was living apart (long distance) he never gave me reason to be insecure then thoses dumb comments.Even now his still a good guy just don't get how someone can say that even as a "joke" Edited October 4, 2010 by lovehearts Link to post Share on other sites
Author lovehearts Posted October 4, 2010 Author Share Posted October 4, 2010 I told him how I felt this morning, actually at first I went abit insane on him and told him if he wants her go for... actually I think my words were you're welcome to each other, get stuffed. He said he was just trying to cheer her up and he wants my family to like him, but if I want him to never speak to her again he'd do that because his not interested in her.He admitted that his past comments were immature but he thought I was over it and didn't see the problem at first in staying with her on Saturday, then I told him to imagine he was me and pretend I'd said those things about another guy and it finally seemed to hit home. If he haven't said those things in the past I wouldn't have thought nothing of Saturday night I would have just thought he was being nice and he apoloize(alot) for putting the insecurity in my mind. When I talked to him about it he understood, when I was yelling at him he was thinking I was some crazy hormonal pregnant woman. I told him that of course I'd rather he was friendly with my family, but I don't want to be feeling like I have to watch my back when it comes to her. Glad I aired the issues because I was thinking that maybe I was just over thinking things. I told my sister, briefly because I kept her out of it before as he was the one that made the comments.I called her when I was really insane,but she was out,so I left her a message asking if she'd feel weird if her boyfriend had done that to her when she was pregnant(She's really jealous). Also that I told my guy to get stuffed. My sister texted me back "lol your funny"! what the hell does that mean. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lovehearts Posted October 4, 2010 Author Share Posted October 4, 2010 My younger sister has slept with every BF I have had until she married and moved overseas. I feel your pain. You need to check your sister. Oh lord that's scary and I'm sorry that happened to you.Well my guy does like sunny countries, and is always saying we should move one day to the South Of France or Spain maybe sooner rather then later(like the end of this week) Link to post Share on other sites
woinlove Posted October 5, 2010 Share Posted October 5, 2010 I told my sister, briefly because I kept her out of it before as he was the one that made the comments.I called her when I was really insane,but she was out,so I left her a message asking if she'd feel weird if her boyfriend had done that to her when she was pregnant(She's really jealous). Also that I told my guy to get stuffed. My sister texted me back "lol your funny"! what the hell does that mean. It would seem to mean that she was not taking your hurt and concerns seriously. Beyond that, I think you would need to talk to her to see what else it means. I think it is a good idea to talk to your sister, in any case, just to try to make sure that she will also do her part to keep everything appropriate. Link to post Share on other sites
BellaBellaBella Posted October 6, 2010 Share Posted October 6, 2010 I would tell her exactly how hurt you are. I have a jealous sister and she would do something insane. I think you need her to understand this is not acceptable. Link to post Share on other sites
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