blue-eyes-d Posted October 4, 2010 Share Posted October 4, 2010 Hi everyone. This is my first time posting on these forums. I thought maybe I would share my story and possibly received some insight on what is going on. Last year, I separated from my husband. I am recently divorced, and only 25 years old. Soon after separating from my husband, I met my fwb off a 'dating' website, if you could call it that. We met up, and we soon became f**k buddies. I wouldn't even classify what we had as fwb. We met up, fooled around... went our separate ways, and didn't really chat until we wanted to meet up again. This lasted this way for a couple months. He made it clear several times he was only interested in fwb. During Xmas, we started to get a little closer. I reveled to him that I was beginning to have feelings for him, and we both debated about ending our 'relationship'. We didn't. We carried on our 'relationship'. Around April/May, our relationship began to turn around. I stayed at his house for two weeks while his Mom was on vacation. I met his uncle, and hung out with both of them for several days. This past September, I was introduced to his two brothers, cousins and his mother. He had stressed out to me earlier on this year how I would never meet any of his family members. He has also met my parents as well. I have now spent the last two weeks over at his house. His Mom has witnessed us cuddling, he has started to call me more often, send me IMs, or displays PDA in front of his family. We cuddle now all the time, when we sleep together, it's in each others arms... And this is where I begin to get confused. I know that he isn't interested in me that way. I'm a bit of a chubbier woman, and he's the shallow type of person who only wants thin blond things. But our boundaries we had for all those months, have not seemed to dissolved. We have booked a week vacation to Cancun Mexico for November. Now I am also afraid that if we go away, will I catch him hooking up with someone new? He knows now that I do have concrete feelings for him. He straight up asked me 'Are you emotionally attached' and I couldn't lie. What's scary enough, is that I am beginning to fall in love. So please, tell me what I can do... or should do. I know I should distance myself, end this before I am too attached... but I am afraid that I already am. I have fallen for someone who isn't remotely interested in me, in a romantic way. But at the same time, he is sending me mixed signals... I just don't know what to do. Link to post Share on other sites
Arabella Posted October 4, 2010 Share Posted October 4, 2010 You stay at his place for weeks at a time, meet each other's family, take vacations together... that sure seems like a relationship. It sounds like he may have changed his mind and just failed to update you on that piece of information. It may be time to have that conversation again and point out these things to him. If he still refuses to verbalize a commitment to you, then walk away because he would just be using you and you clearly have more feelings than that for him. Take care, Arabella Link to post Share on other sites
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