is my boyfriend cheating on me please help?

[ddgurl1]

well just a quick question me and my boyfriend have been together for quit some time now last thanksgiving i was at his house and the phone rang and so he answered it and was like ah ya hey whats up and like he went into the kitchen and was talking i could still hear and see him so anylevel hes like well im going to go i have company and its kinda rude adn then he said my name and hes like well she a cool chic then he said no you dont, come on you know it and then he s like no im not going to say it dude no way for like ever it felt like then all of a sudden hes like ok fine i love you good bye. ok now keep in mind i was kiss girl friend at the time still am and the person on the phone was his ex who is in a rehab center for eating disorders.i stood up got my stuff together and was getting ready to walk out when he tried to explain all of this to me hes like well babe she s still in love with me doesnt get the point and shes tried to committ scuicide and i dont want her to kill her self over me bla bla it ment nothing i love you im in love with you. so this has been like a while and its still bugging me you know. and then there is the other problemas follows:

so we just now moved intogether and the was all his stuff in the bedroom so i got home early and started to nose around and i found a bunch of numbers and condomes mind you we dont use condoms and we are always together unless he doesnt feel like haning out that was untill we moved intogether and so i asked him about it after 2 days of keeping it in and this and that and being upset and he said aw babe that stuff is so old i havent even had time to go through it all honey come on am i not always with you babe i love you im with you and so what ever i just blew it off didnt say anything but it really hurt you know and im stuck i dont know what to think and then he we havent had sex in like a while and he told me that once we moved into gether it would be so different well we havelived in our house now for like almost a week and we just now had sex this morning after he asked me to do something so then i asked him if we could well you know so i dont know im stumped everything is just so wierd for me im trying my hardest to make sence out of it but the more and more i try to analize everything the more and nore hurt i make myself. and to top it off when ever i went to his house and the phone rand he would never answer it and then one night we got drunk and he said sorry i lied she has been calleing when to start off he told me she hasnt called him in like weeks and then i said he needs to tewll her to stop calling and he said he would much rather ignore and not answer the phone so now that we are living together im kinda scared if you will to know what hell be doing whenbn im not there need help any advise?what should i do am i in the trail of hurt and deception or is just all quinsadence?

[faux]

The situation seems very shifty. Firstly though, I should note it was extremely difficult to read your post without the use of paragraphs.

 

He hasn't had sex with you for a while, from what I can understand. You found condoms and you two don't use condoms (I hope you are using a method of birth control then). If you do have sex with him until you solve this whole problem, I would recommend using condoms. IF he is cheating you want to be sure you are safe.

 

It seems when you confront him about it he just blows it off. It seems a bit like avoidance to me. I wonder what he is talking about with this ex anyway. Start answering the phone yourself, and tell this girl not to call anymore. Be firm with your boyfriend.

 

It seems that your boyfriend is just taking advantage of your being a rather nice and forgiving person.

 

He doesn't have any reason to talk to this girl. If she wants to go and kill herself because he won't speak with her that is her own problem. It's nobody else's fault and he can't and won't get in any sort of trouble.

 

He's lied to you, you're finding things that are very out of place, and he doesn't have very good explanations as to his behavior. I'm betting that his stories change slightly every time as well, and if you ask him about specific details of his previous explanations he can't remember them.

 

I'd confront him firmly about it and demand an explanation. If I didn't get one and I was so upset I would end the relationship.

[dlb311]

I think that you should ask yourself why aren't you two having sex. Don't know how long you have actually been together but sex is a big part of a relationship. My boyfriend can't get enough.

 

I do have a question if anyone can give some insite.

my boyfriend and I have been together since September 2001. I have known him since I was 14. long time. well after two years of being together we broke up. He got scared because I got depression and we were planning on moving in together. We broke up for about 4 months. We have been back together for two months. things were so awesome he called all the time and told me nice wonderful things all the time. He just bought a house with a friend so this past week he has been preoccupied I am being understanding. But The other day I say a card lying on the conter so I read it I am a nosey person like that. It was from a girl to my boyfriend she wrote how she can't stop thinking about him and she can't wait to get to know him better and she can't wait till March. So I collected myself and casually asked so I say the card he was a bite confused but said huh I said from a gril... he said oh ya that was weird I said who is she he said some girl I met a couple months ago she lives in NY we live in California. I said how does she have your new address he said she called me a couple days ago and asked for it well he said begged. he said she told him she had something to send him. I said well whats in March he said I guess she is coming down. I said oh so you are going to see her? he said no of course not. I said well he said she is crazy I am not interested at all. she is nuts and the card totaly caught me off guard. he swore he wasn't going to see her. but I am not to worried about this girl but what if there is more he should have cut ties with the woman when we got back together likeI cut the ties with the guys I was dating? I am going to talk to him and just say hey

I am not sure if you weren't ready to get back together but you haven't cut all ties with the girls you dated or got with so maybe we should just go back to before. Were I was dating and he was dating and we weren't together. It will be over I wont be with him ever again. But I can't see how he could want me to sever all ties and he can give out his address....