, still hung up on my ex

[drmrid13]

Hi there.

So, about a month ago now my ex broke it off with me because he said he felt like he was making me miserable and he was suffocating me, vice versa. He said he was doing it for "us" and that he didn't know s**t from salad but that he felt like the biggest piece of s**t in the world for breaking up with me and he was crying saying that he is scared he is making the biggest mistake of his life. He told this to me again about three days after the break up and that he loved me. He and I talk about every week, with him contacting me every time. He mentioned to me that he honestly didn't think we would talk so little (because I don't go out of my way to message him) I texted back that I didn't know what he expects, that I love him like crazy and I'm just trying to take care of myself, that I didn't think now was the time to be friends. He called me and we talked about whats going on in our lives and he asked how my parents were. I told him that they finally bought their house and will be moving out of state. He asked what I would do and I said that I wasn't even sure I would stay in the state. He seemed distraught about this comment and I told him that the future was a big question mark for me and he said he knew what I meant. Only one thing got brought up about the relationship, that I was sorry for not contacting him, and he said its ok I understand I was just casually asking...and (jokingly?) and in a goofy voice said you do what you want. Anyhow the convo ended with him saying that I can talk to him whenever I want and that I should. A week later (this weekactually and last Sat.) he texted me saying that he was sorry for not getting back to a text I had sent him on wed. about getting my bike... He said he felt like a total a-hole for not getting back to me right away and that the last thing he wants me to think is that he doesn't want to talk to me, and for me to not be afraid to call him. I told him it was ok and thanked him for apologizing and he was like no you don't need to thank me and that again he felt like a real piece of s**t. I texted him again saying that it was ok and that I hope he was feeling better (had the flu) and that work wasn't stressing him out too much. I feel dumb and motherly for texing that but lets face it I still care so much about him. Nothing was brought up about the bike we had some casual convo about something nominal but after the text I sent about him feeling better I heard nothing back. And here' s me kicking myself because yesterday I sent him a text asking how he was. No reply back yet...

[Von]

Ya he is definitely stringing you along and trying to alleviate the guilt of dumping you by saying all the comments he is saying. There is alot of advice here on LS about being strung along. Look it up. And the general advice is to go No Contact.