Am4Real Posted November 1, 2010 Share Posted November 1, 2010 Thanks for somewhat understanding it seems like Am4Real... Honestly- At times I do miss him, at times I do wsh for the past, but I feel overall I Want/Need to move on...and am starting to meet new guys:) Hey Live, It’s a really good sign that you can be so honest with yourself and that for the most part is more than the hardest part of the battle to moving on... Just don’t dwell on him too long…even though you’re setting yourself up so he’s see’s you as what he is now missing, believe me, your happiness in the near future will send him over the edge. The goal is for you to find that happiness…. As the days pass so will the eventual connection to this person. You may miss what you had but in good order you will no longer miss HIM. Stay the course. Best wishes, Am4Real Link to post Share on other sites
Author livelife Posted November 1, 2010 Author Share Posted November 1, 2010 Hey Live, It’s a really good sign that you can be so honest with yourself and that for the most part is more than the hardest part of the battle to moving on... Just don’t dwell on him too long…even though you’re setting yourself up so he’s see’s you as what he is now missing, believe me, your happiness in the near future will send him over the edge. The goal is for you to find that happiness…. As the days pass so will the eventual connection to this person. You may miss what you had but in good order you will no longer miss HIM. Stay the course. Best wishes, Am4Real Thank you!! I really appreciate your kind words!! I am glad to say though that this journey seems close to over, although it may not be I can see the light at the end:) Now one problem: ( involving another guy!!) Hes really cute, I met him at my friends halloween party. Apparently my mom went to highschool with his parents, so we know their family. ( I wasnt aware of this) He asked me to hang out this week and I told my mom, which she doesnt approve of. she says he is trouble but honestly I really want to hang out with him. I don't know what to do because its hard when you have your mom sitting there bashing it the whole time. Link to post Share on other sites
Trovador Posted November 1, 2010 Share Posted November 1, 2010 Good you are thinking of other guys! Like they say, to get over someone nothing like getting under someone... ha ha It's a joke... please be careful when getting involved with someone else.. at the same time, don't let fear and bitterness prevent your happiness... Glad you are almost there... Link to post Share on other sites
Am4Real Posted November 1, 2010 Share Posted November 1, 2010 Thank you!! I really appreciate your kind words!! I am glad to say though that this journey seems close to over, although it may not be I can see the light at the end:) Now one problem: ( involving another guy!!) Hes really cute, I met him at my friends halloween party. Apparently my mom went to highschool with his parents, so we know their family. ( I wasnt aware of this) He asked me to hang out this week and I told my mom, which she doesnt approve of. she says he is trouble but honestly I really want to hang out with him. I don't know what to do because its hard when you have your mom sitting there bashing it the whole time. Live, Obviously we do not know the “new person” so it is unfair and unwise to comment, but I think from all experience we can probably surmise “Mother’s know best” and take it your Mom has a good reason and feeling for making comment on this new interest of yours. Perhaps considering the feelings/emotions you are now trying to leave behind it might be a good idea to stay single and simply discover “who you are” for a little while. That can be a lot of fun if you let it!! Keep us posted. Link to post Share on other sites
Author livelife Posted November 1, 2010 Author Share Posted November 1, 2010 Live, Obviously we do not know the “new person” so it is unfair and unwise to comment, but I think from all experience we can probably surmise “Mother’s know best” and take it your Mom has a good reason and feeling for making comment on this new interest of yours. Perhaps considering the feelings/emotions you are now trying to leave behind it might be a good idea to stay single and simply discover “who you are” for a little while. That can be a lot of fun if you let it!! Keep us posted. Very true, i just had a good feeling about him. maybe ill talk to him and see where he plans on going in life and see if he really is trouble like my mom seems to think. I like your idea, and ill take up on that. thank you! Link to post Share on other sites
WTRanger Posted November 1, 2010 Share Posted November 1, 2010 Does your mom think he is trouble based on knowing his parents way back in high school, or does she know the son is actual trouble. If it's from some high school experience however long ago, that's not actually a good reason. Though, the fact your mom doesn't want you to hang out with him is actually the golden ticket for that guy. That just will eventually make you curious and want to see him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author livelife Posted November 3, 2010 Author Share Posted November 3, 2010 Trovador- I know!!! I am soo excited!! I am ALMOST over my ex:) Finally worrying about someone else! How have you been? --And to the last comment, yes I think my mom is just worried that i'm younger and he is older... not by so much though. Shes just being a mom I guess. And yes I believe she is saying that because she knew his dad in highschool. Link to post Share on other sites
Trovador Posted November 4, 2010 Share Posted November 4, 2010 Hi there, glad you are thinking about some other guy... isn't wonderful that someone else is taking the place that used to belong to your ex... Something like that is happening to me... another girl is showing major interest, she is in the intriguing phase: "is this guy for real?" and is making a lot of contact... I'm not ready, though, for another relationship... I want to be alone for some time... As for the ex, I've been on NC for about 10 days and don't intend to break it... Good to know you are doing fine, keep it that way! Link to post Share on other sites
Author livelife Posted November 8, 2010 Author Share Posted November 8, 2010 Hi there, glad you are thinking about some other guy... isn't wonderful that someone else is taking the place that used to belong to your ex... Something like that is happening to me... another girl is showing major interest, she is in the intriguing phase: "is this guy for real?" and is making a lot of contact... I'm not ready, though, for another relationship... I want to be alone for some time... As for the ex, I've been on NC for about 10 days and don't intend to break it... Good to know you are doing fine, keep it that way! Hey there!! How are you doing? Just take things slow with this girl... is she someone you would want to be with later on? Bad news. I got so ahead of myself. I thought for good that I was over my ex. I decided to add him on facebook ( I kinda wanted him to see how happy I was..) and recently its been hurting. This time last year was when we started talking. So the feeling outside... ( random, but the christmas music playing in the mall) is making me think about him. It just sucks you know? Theres nothing I can do though. I honestly feel embarrassed that Im still hurting over him. We dated for 4/5 months, talked for like 2/3 before getting together, and then a while after. Its been since March that we broke up officially, but we didnt stop. He was my first everything, and I think thats why im so attached. Link to post Share on other sites
Am4Real Posted November 8, 2010 Share Posted November 8, 2010 Hey there!! How are you doing? Just take things slow with this girl... is she someone you would want to be with later on? Bad news. I got so ahead of myself. I thought for good that I was over my ex. I decided to add him on facebook ( I kinda wanted him to see how happy I was..) and recently its been hurting. This time last year was when we started talking. So the feeling outside... ( random, but the christmas music playing in the mall) is making me think about him. It just sucks you know? Theres nothing I can do though. I honestly feel embarrassed that Im still hurting over him. We dated for 4/5 months, talked for like 2/3 before getting together, and then a while after. Its been since March that we broke up officially, but we didnt stop. He was my first everything, and I think thats why im so attached. Why on earth did adding him to your FaceBook as a friend to show him how happy you are make sense to you? Stop playing games with HIM and with YOURSELF for starters! Relationships and FaceBook drive me nuts; we need to mature up here people. Link to post Share on other sites
coltsfan1 Posted November 8, 2010 Share Posted November 8, 2010 relationships are hard and FB only makes it harder to let go.. Anyone can post pics of "how" much fun there life is and how they are moving on!! But that is no representation of how they feel in their heart!! like the songs say SO MUCH COOLER ONLINE... Just delete him and leave it alone, I asked my ex to delete me and remove our pics. she just blocked me and I untagged myself from the pics that she left me tagged in. Trust me not seeing the ex's life is best. they left because they didn't want to be apart of our lives and we should not want to be a part of theirs.. Link to post Share on other sites
Am4Real Posted November 8, 2010 Share Posted November 8, 2010 relationships are hard and FB only makes it harder to let go.. Anyone can post pics of "how" much fun there life is and how they are moving on!! But that is no representation of how they feel in their heart!! like the songs say SO MUCH COOLER ONLINE... Just delete him and leave it alone, I asked my ex to delete me and remove our pics. she just blocked me and I untagged myself from the pics that she left me tagged in. Trust me not seeing the ex's life is best. they left because they didn't want to be apart of our lives and we should not want to be a part of theirs.. Well said. Trying to prove to your EX your life is good and you are happy, for example, is none other than REALLY trying to convince one's self. It takes work and time to fully get over a past relationship so that all things in the past are totally indifferent with those in the future. The mere thinking of this poster about showing "something" to the EX tells me there is still healing to be done. Link to post Share on other sites
coltsfan1 Posted November 8, 2010 Share Posted November 8, 2010 I am guilty of this as Im sure all of us are at some point, I am selling the motorcycle that I love because it has nothing but memories tied to it. A person has to take the necessary steps in a healthy way to make it past their ex.. I have read somewhere on here that if you take the healthy steps and your ex doesn't then they will not truly get over the past relationship, I AM IN NO WAY SAYING WAIT ON YOUR EX!!!! Just saying take the steps to move forward in a healthy way!! If you feel like you have to change then change but make sure it is for the best... Link to post Share on other sites
Author livelife Posted November 8, 2010 Author Share Posted November 8, 2010 I am guilty of this as Im sure all of us are at some point, I am selling the motorcycle that I love because it has nothing but memories tied to it. A person has to take the necessary steps in a healthy way to make it past their ex.. I have read somewhere on here that if you take the healthy steps and your ex doesn't then they will not truly get over the past relationship, I AM IN NO WAY SAYING WAIT ON YOUR EX!!!! Just saying take the steps to move forward in a healthy way!! If you feel like you have to change then change but make sure it is for the best... Thank you guys. Honestly, Its moments that im weak, and last night when i typed it was a weak moment. Right now I feel fine and think I was ridiculous last night. I have deleted him and added him many times, it is almost annoying. If I delete him- itll have to be for good. Yes, there is some healing, but majority is healed I think. Link to post Share on other sites
Banega100 Posted November 8, 2010 Share Posted November 8, 2010 FFS! I saw my ex around today and looked in her direction. She caught me. ****sake. Feel weak. I get so nervous and awkward when i see her too. So ****. Link to post Share on other sites
Author livelife Posted November 9, 2010 Author Share Posted November 9, 2010 FFS! I saw my ex around today and looked in her direction. She caught me. ****sake. Feel weak. I get so nervous and awkward when i see her too. So ****. How long have you guys been broken up for? Link to post Share on other sites
Banega100 Posted November 9, 2010 Share Posted November 9, 2010 3 months or so. This should be done and dusted by now. I'm not looking anywhere near her again. COME ON! Link to post Share on other sites
Trovador Posted November 14, 2010 Share Posted November 14, 2010 Currently, my ex and I are friends or trying to be (despite deep inside I don't want to, but being coworkers and all...), it seems she is in love like the early days but that's not enough to salvage our relationship... she must work a lot on herself (me too btw but I don't want to get back together) and that's not happening, despite she is almost the girl I fell in love with (and in some respects, a better girl) the traits that caused the break up are still there... My point? If we want another chance with them, we must work on our defects first and change for good... even if our exes wanted us again what would be offering them? The same **** we made us known for? And it's sort of pathetic when you try so hard to hide those defects of yours, when you shouldn't be hiding them, they shouldn't be there at all... And what about new hobbies, new knowledge, new interests, even new looks? But let's do it for ourselves, because that's the key to feelings of wellbeing... and when you feel good about yourself, people tend to notice it... Good luck and I hope I didn't sound like a preacher pric*... ha ha! Link to post Share on other sites
Trovador Posted November 16, 2010 Share Posted November 16, 2010 Hey LL, how are you doing? Hope you are enjoying life more now... I am fine, mostly because my ex is not the axis of my life anymore... even now, when she seems more into me than when we were an item... and maybe it's because of that... maybe if I showed her I want her she would pull away... and perhaps I will do that, just to be apart from her... funny, isn't it? I'd love to hear from you guys... Link to post Share on other sites
Author livelife Posted November 18, 2010 Author Share Posted November 18, 2010 Hey LL, how are you doing? Hope you are enjoying life more now... I am fine, mostly because my ex is not the axis of my life anymore... even now, when she seems more into me than when we were an item... and maybe it's because of that... maybe if I showed her I want her she would pull away... and perhaps I will do that, just to be apart from her... funny, isn't it? I'd love to hear from you guys... Hey Trovador!! I'm doing good. honestly, i've been worried to come back here. I thought for a moment that coming on here made me think of my ex more, which it does, but its a huge help!! I've felt like i'm over him ever since i last posted here. thats the only update for now! How long have you and your ex been broken up again? Link to post Share on other sites
Author livelife Posted November 21, 2010 Author Share Posted November 21, 2010 Looks like i'm going single again!! I know i've been single, but not talking to anyone. All the guys I try to talk to turn out to be douche bags =/ Link to post Share on other sites
Author livelife Posted November 21, 2010 Author Share Posted November 21, 2010 Looks like i'm going single again!! I know i've been single, but not talking to anyone. All the guys I try to talk to turn out to be douche bags =/ Link to post Share on other sites
Trovador Posted November 22, 2010 Share Posted November 22, 2010 Don't worry about those guys, soon you will find someone worthy... good thing about break ups is that (hopefully) you learnt something valuable and you will put in practice in your next relationship... I'm on NC again, trying to be friends and LC hasn't accomplished anything because, while the break up wised me a little, she is still the same old person with her old (and bothersome) habits... Do you think that wishing the ex to be really happy with someone else is a signal that you are almost over them? Link to post Share on other sites
Author livelife Posted November 23, 2010 Author Share Posted November 23, 2010 Don't worry about those guys, soon you will find someone worthy... good thing about break ups is that (hopefully) you learnt something valuable and you will put in practice in your next relationship... I'm on NC again, trying to be friends and LC hasn't accomplished anything because, while the break up wised me a little, she is still the same old person with her old (and bothersome) habits... Do you think that wishing the ex to be really happy with someone else is a signal that you are almost over them? Do you really mean it? If part of you knows that you don't mean it then obviously not. But I believe that for someone to say that it does mean almost over them! woo!! So I have a question. yet another awful story about my ex. I had a party at my house last night. he heard about it, texted ME and asked me if I was having it. I didnt reply...until I was drunk. HE was the one who started being rude, HE gave my phone to some girls he was with...( his gf harrassed me on his phone over the summer) so yet again, girls bitching me out from his phone. It is the the 8th time it has happened, no exaggeration. Of course I was drunk so I got mad and yes I said some things back, but I don't feel bad about it. He was very rude giving the phone to those girls and they started the rude comments, so I dont think I am at fault at all. I want to get his number blocked from my phone. I do not want to recieve any more texts from him or calls. I want to block him from online ( facebook) but am not sure if that is the right thing/ mature thing to do. Is that considered Immature? It is the last straw with him. His friend even texted me during that and was liek, I saw what you just said to him... your my hero !! hahaha. His friend agreed that he was rude. Thoughts? Link to post Share on other sites
Trovador Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 I really am not a good judge of people seeing how I let my ex to harm me, but I think that guy is a jerk and is still treating you like a toy... you should cut him off totally, because he knows you always take the bait and he ends having a good laugh at you... don't be afraid to cut all the ties with him... Sometimes is the time to leave the krap behind and start over... Link to post Share on other sites
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