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jerbear

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Way to encourage the OP to actually come back and read her threads guys. :p

Ok... I think the OP is cute.

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welikeincrowds

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If she chooses not the see the guy again... she pays her half and walks away.

 

This is the way its done.

 

You're right about this. It's respectful that the date doesn't accept a gesture to pay if she doesn't see any potential for a second date.

 

That's different from saying she HAS to go on a second date if he pays and she accepts, which I'm sure you can see is a pretty ludicrous thing to say, because it's the year 2010, and she's not a concierge service. In most cases it would probably be ****ty of her to take advantage, but that's a different discussion.

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welikeincrowds

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Way to encourage the OP to actually come back and read her threads guys. :p

 

It's SACWA. She never comes back to her threads anyway. :bunny:

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Star Gazer

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If she chooses not the see the guy again... she pays her half and walks away.

 

This is the way its done.

 

Oh! Yes! For point of clarification... I WILL pay my share if I'm certain during the date that I don't want a second. That's my clue to him that I'm not interested, and I don't think it's fair to have him pay for the entire bill when I'm certain it's for naught.

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Citizen Erased

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It's SACWA. She never comes back to her threads anyway. :bunny:

 

I'm aware who it is. I don't blame her for not returning to her threads with some of the crap they get overtaken with.

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skydiveaddict

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I'm aware who it is. I don't blame her for not returning to her threads with some of the crap they get overtaken with.

 

 

IDK, I thought it was a good thread, lots of lively discussion

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Untouchable_Fire

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You're right about this. It's respectful that the date doesn't accept a gesture to pay if she doesn't see any potential for a second date.

That's different from saying she HAS to go on a second date if he pays and she accepts, which I'm sure you can see is a pretty ludicrous thing to say, because it's the year 2010, and she's not a concierge service. In most cases it would probably be ****ty of her to take advantage, but that's a different discussion.

 

It's about integrity... and I think we can all agree that even most of the guys who are deadset on going dutch would happily pay for someone that wants to see them again.

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jerbear

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maybe he was trying to show off his math skills

 

:lmao::lmao: but he didn't use calculus in his flash app that he go working on his iPhone!

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gypsy_nicky

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Bet you wouldn't say that to Hokie's face

 

I would. Hokie your a doormat. There. Wasn't so hard. I thought you were a sky diver, why hide behind other men. Quit the taunts man.

 

The point of this thread really is not about the equality of the sexes based on traditional or modern ideas in dating.

 

The main thing about paying for the date (especially if its the 1st one) is that, culturally, not just in the west, it demonstrates that the man is willing enough to invest his time emotionally into a woman he is seeing. This is mainly what it shows because hey, your also very much invested in your own income or money because this is the very source that defines us people today and gives us our independence and livelihood.

 

If a girl holds liberal views then that would be fine because she understands were the man is coming from by halfing the bill. But even then spending for someone in the right way shows you care about them. I would be flattered too if a woman bought me or took me out on a date. Shows she cares.

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eerie_reverie

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I never cease to be amazed by the cheapness of some people as it relates to this topic. Is buying lunch for a woman you're interested in gonna make you broke? If so, you shouldn't be dating. If not, what's the point of taking this moment to make this particular point about equality?

 

The way I see it, a relationship is supposed to be give and take, a system of debits and credits. By paying, a man demonstrates faith that the day will come when she will pay him back - whether by cooking him dinner or bearing his children or whatever.

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Untouchable_Fire

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I'm aware who it is. I don't blame her for not returning to her threads with some of the crap they get overtaken with.

 

She doesn't come back because there is often criticism.

 

And point of fact... I think she may read these and just doesn't post replies.

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elaina

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Opening and holding a door is common courtest, regardless of gender.

 

I suppose since you're not female, you have no idea how romantic and sweet and charming it can be for a man to hold the door open for you. :love:

 

Sigh. Sometimes it seems like some men these days have no concept of romance and treating women special just because they (the men) are gentlemen.

 

Oceangirl, yeah I think a man who doesn't pay on the first date could be stingy or poor.

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USMCHokie

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I would. Hokie your a doormat. There. Wasn't so hard.

 

Hmmm, I always sensed an air of resentment towards me from you...but it's ok.

 

And it's you're, not your.

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I would. Hokie your a doormat. There. Wasn't so hard. I thought you were a sky diver, why hide behind other men. Quit the taunts man.

 

 

 

I said say it to his face. Now how easy is it? Who said I'm hiding behind other men? How many tours overseas have you done tough guy? And what has skydiving got to do with any of this?

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Jannah

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That you lack it. Your posts show it.

 

His posts certainly do not....His advice has always been nothing but supportive towards other members.

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elaina

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I'm not wrong. It's common courtesy. Does that mean a woman should let the door slam in the guy's face?

 

No. I hold the door open for guys if they are coming and I'm at the door. However, I can tell a gentleman because gentlemen say thank you, take charge of the door lol, and let me go in. :bunny: I really like that. :) It's a simple gesture, but there's something really special about it to me and many women. It translates "they care." It doesn't matter the guy's age or if we know each other. It's just a very cool thing a gentleman does.

 

Even teenage guys who do that are very impressive, cause they don't have to, but their effort is very admirable, I think. And of course, seeing a man open the door and be extra caring to an elderly lady is AWESOME! My friends and I talk about it, if we see a guy do that, that's noteworthy! (and should be commonplace, though right?)

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Untouchable_Fire

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No. I hold the door open for guys if they are coming and I'm at the door. However, I can tell a gentleman because gentlemen say thank you, take charge of the door lol, and let me go in. :bunny: I really like that. :)

 

Seriously... I find so many guys that just do that stuff for 1 month to impress.

 

I think it means 10 times more when a guy holds the door for an elderly woman.

 

If a guy holds the door for you... he is probably just taking the opportunity to stare at your butt. If he holds the door for your grandma, he is showing kindness and respect.

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gypsy_nicky

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Hmmm, I always sensed an air of resentment towards me from you...but it's ok.

 

And it's you're, not your.

 

maybe because we see things differently. But I hold no resentment towards you. Also, grammatical errors are the norm, everyone makes them. Doesn't take away so much from what your trying to communicate.

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USMCHokie

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maybe because we see things differently. But I hold no resentment towards you. Also, grammatical errors are the norm, everyone makes them. Doesn't take away so much from what your trying to communicate.

 

Fair enough; we'll leave it at that. And my pointing out of your grammatical error was simply a passive aggressive way of jabbing back at you. :p:laugh:

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gypsy_nicky

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I said say it to his face. Now how easy is it? Who said I'm hiding behind other men? How many tours overseas have you done tough guy? And what has skydiving got to do with any of this?

 

you didn't have to say things like that. That's taunting. Maybe the poster was directing his comments at the other poster indirectly, relating to her choice of men or how she chooses her men, not the present one. You just had to speak up and start pointing.

 

I don't know what tours your talking about, but I'm not trying to be a tough guy. Because skydivers are supposedly daredevils, extremists. Why start taunts indirectly related to you.

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elaina

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Nothing better than an old-fashioned gentleman!! If only the "equality boys" (yes, boys) knew just how hot and bothered and RAWR! we quality ladies get over a wee bit of chivalry... ;)

 

So true!!! :love:

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