tobydog Posted October 6, 2010 Share Posted October 6, 2010 I have posted before but would like some more advice. Married 14 years with 4 year old son. He has never gone out or even had many friends. A few weeks ago he started a part time job as he runs a business from home and thinking about it it got too big and he moaned non stop about it. So he met some new mates at this cafe, No woman as his mother also works there. He came in late and we had a fight. I lashed out at him. I drink 2 nights a week and we row, his father was a violent drunk, I am not and have a prof job. He has filed for divorce after saying he has had enough but has walked away from everything, the business, his son and house. We think he is having a breakdown as only weeks ago we bought a new sofa and were planning to go to NYC at Christmas. he did love me, we have a strong bond and I can't believe this has happened. He is looking for a flat and not taken anything. I am doing NC, he rings his son occasionally but won't talk to me as is too angry. I have quit the drink and am getting prof help. Could he come around and calm down and forgive me, give me one last chance if he sees me proving it? Does it happen. he was in no way a battered husband, was rather controlling himself. I have not shown him much respect the past few months, preferring to play golf all summer away from the chaos of the house. He pops in to do a bit of the business but says it is difficult with me there. I am in bed sleeping all day so don't even see him. He will not be able to afford a flat and the business outgoings at all. he does not want the house, just the business but that is going down the pan. What can I do? Please help, I am very ill and can hardly function. Have got anti depres and they seem to kicking in a bit. Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
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