Looking for a change

[calico57]

Hey everyone, I stumbled on this forum after looking how to stop being jealous and angry, and from what I've seen its a great place and happy I found it.

 

With that being said here's my story. It's a bit long so I apologize in advance.

 

I've been dating my girlfriend for just about 7 months now, and to be fair I'm pretty sure she's the one. But before this happens I know I need to change. For the last couple of months my jealousy has just gotten ridiculous. I've found myself getting frustrated whenever she picks up her phone to text someone, or even check a message. I guess I'm afraid that it's another guy flirting with her. I know there's no basis behind this theory of mine, I've even talked to her about my previous relationship(and being lied to, etc.) And she told me about her past and assured me that she's never cheated and doesnt have it in her to do anything like that. I believe her, but there's always some nagging feeling in my mind whenever I hear about her talking to another guy at work.

Another problem I've had is that I found out one of her former "partners" was a good friend of mine. It was while I had lost contact with him, but after she told me, I not only got enraged, I now don't trust him. He knows she and I are together, and he'd never ruin our friendship. But again, the nagging feeling of "he doesnt care and is going to flirt regardless." comes into play.

I want to change, like you have no idea. I'd love to go to a therapist and talk about it, she's even said she'd go with me. But I'm struggling with money and this seems like it isn't an option.

 

Thanks everyone for reading this, have a great day.

[cyberfriendxx]

Hey everyone, I stumbled on this forum after looking how to stop being jealous and angry, and from what I've seen its a great place and happy I found it.

 

With that being said here's my story. It's a bit long so I apologize in advance.

 

I've been dating my girlfriend for just about 7 months now, and to be fair I'm pretty sure she's the one. But before this happens I know I need to change. For the last couple of months my jealousy has just gotten ridiculous. I've found myself getting frustrated whenever she picks up her phone to text someone, or even check a message. I guess I'm afraid that it's another guy flirting with her. I know there's no basis behind this theory of mine, I've even talked to her about my previous relationship(and being lied to, etc.) And she told me about her past and assured me that she's never cheated and doesnt have it in her to do anything like that. I believe her, but there's always some nagging feeling in my mind whenever I hear about her talking to another guy at work.

Another problem I've had is that I found out one of her former "partners" was a good friend of mine. It was while I had lost contact with him, but after she told me, I not only got enraged, I now don't trust him. He knows she and I are together, and he'd never ruin our friendship. But again, the nagging feeling of "he doesnt care and is going to flirt regardless." comes into play.

I want to change, like you have no idea. I'd love to go to a therapist and talk about it, she's even said she'd go with me. But I'm struggling with money and this seems like it isn't an option.

 

Thanks everyone for reading this, have a great day.

 

Hi

You need to look into what the reasons are behind all your jealousy issues. There must be some history or experiences behind it. Therapy or counselling would probably be a great idea to help find the reasons why you feel like this - then you can make a start on changing. Good luck