moimeme Posted March 2, 2004 Share Posted March 2, 2004 Oh yeah, because it is SO hard for a filthy stinking rich woman who can afford all the personal trainers, gym equipment, and personal chefs she wants while not taking care of any kids to lose weight. Give me a break! Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted March 2, 2004 Share Posted March 2, 2004 Yeah Merry.....I thought about that too! ..........and this is a woman with the IQ of a bale of hay!!!! ...............DAMMIT! Why can't I run into a 93 year old horny BILLIONAIRE?????? Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted March 2, 2004 Share Posted March 2, 2004 Got a clue for you, hon - he'll not be found in a sailor uniform on a base if he's 93. Now, you live in Florida - the retirement home of all sorts of folks. If you'd hie yourself off to the lawn bowling clubs instead of the bars on base, you may get your wish! Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted March 2, 2004 Share Posted March 2, 2004 I'm trying to picture some Old Geezer in a CrackerJack suit....TFF!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
dangel Posted March 2, 2004 Share Posted March 2, 2004 This is interesting to me because it mirrors my own situation whereby my wife was slim (105 pounds) when we met. She put on 30 pounds once we moved in together and it frankly ticked me off. She was so unhappy when trying to diet. At the same time I found myself becoming more attracted to her fuller figure, and told her not to worry about losing the weight. So she started to eat as she pleased. When we got married 3 years later she weighed 175 and now after 2 years of marriage she's over 220 pounds. I think her appetite has grown as her weight has increased. We're still very happy together and I'm still attracted to her, but I mention this because I wonder if typically most women would eat as much as they desire if there's no pressure from a BF/spouse to keep the weight under control? Here's our site for people with similar issues: http://fatgirlfriends.vze.com Link to post Share on other sites
cdn Posted March 2, 2004 Share Posted March 2, 2004 I don't buy it that it's just too difficult to remain slim. Yes, children take their toll and life gets busy. But the decision to eat high-fat/high-sugar/low-nutrition foods is just that: a decision. Same as a decision to smoke or drink or seek out extra-marital sex. It's not a Herculean effort. I've done; Arabess has done it; Lost for Words has done it; Costume Smile has done it... those are just a few LSers I can think of (apologies to any I've left out). And I would bet that we haven't done it in order to keep or attract a man, but for ourselves. What Jester said is true: a certain amount of weight "creep" is to be expected with age. But it is unfair of a spouse, for no reason beyond self-indulgence, to just go to pot. Link to post Share on other sites
jester Posted March 2, 2004 Share Posted March 2, 2004 Perhaps pigging out into a VO spouse is a form of infidelity: I'll call it the "New Infidelity." A betrayal of your spouse's trust/expectations that you will remain faithfull to the marital physical form:Cheating by eating. The VO spouse is betraying the innocent (or weight normal) spouse with a combination of poor diet and lack of exercise.Instead of taking a lover, he or she embraces gluttony and sloth--sometimes openly, sometimes secretly. This New Infidelity involves the stomach, not the heart or sex organs. There's a germ of an article, in these posts. Link to post Share on other sites
quickmorph Posted March 2, 2004 Share Posted March 2, 2004 You can't blame all this weight gain on changing metabolisms. Even our children are fat these days. I've heard some experts speculating that the current generation to be the first in decades to have a shorter life expectancy than their parents...purely because of obesity. Along with a sendentary lifestyle I blame the amounts of food we eat. People think they're getting a good deal at TGIFs or Chilis when they'r handed a plate with a mountain of food. That's not a good deal, you're getting screwed! And when was the last time you were able to buy a 12 oz Coke...no, now if we're not getting super-sized we're not happy. Sloth and gluttony will do it every time. People eat rich, fattening food all over the world without blowing up like blimps. They just don't eat so damn much! Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted March 2, 2004 Share Posted March 2, 2004 You can't blame all this weight gain on changing metabolisms Um. I didn't. Reread my first lline. It's not a Herculean effort. I've done; Arabess has done it; Lost for Words has done it; Costume Smile has done it.. And so have I. Again, REREAD MY FIRST LINE. Food, BTW, is every bit a mood-enhancer as drugs can be. People also seek to self-medicate with food. All I'm saying is that isn't that easy for some people to drop the weight. Actually, the trick is to avoid gaining it in the first place because it's a b*tch to take off once it's on. If people would push their panic buttons at the first three pounds and take measures to get rid of it right away, it would be much easier for them. Waiting until you're more than 10 lbs overweight guarantees it'll be a battle. I just gained a couple back and I'll be cutting down for the rest of the week. Link to post Share on other sites
dangel Posted March 5, 2004 Share Posted March 5, 2004 Originally posted by jester I'm not talking about the normal incidents of aging. That is to be expected. I'm referring to a spouse who, by sheer inertia and overeating, blows-out her figure-- the voluntarily obese (VO) spouse. Does this qualify? Before After Link to post Share on other sites
Skittles Posted March 5, 2004 Share Posted March 5, 2004 This New Infidelity involves the stomach, not the heart or sex organs. .........what a concept....... ........Feeding the wrong hole. ........Late at night spouse sneaks out to an all night diner to gorge himself...or worse still...tiptoes downstairs to the fridge...betrayal right under ones' own roof. Wife finds a crushed McDonald's french fries box in his glove compartment..She holds it up to his face and glares at him. "Honey" he says, blushing, "I don't know how that got there"! Link to post Share on other sites
jester Posted March 5, 2004 Share Posted March 5, 2004 Wife finds a crushed McDonald's french fries box in his glove compartment..She holds it up to his face and glares at him. "Honey" he says, blushing, "I don't know how that got there"! Right you are , Skittles. I call it Mac-ultry! It's wrecked many a marriage. By the way, thanks for weighing in. Link to post Share on other sites
dangel Posted November 13, 2004 Share Posted November 13, 2004 Hmm.. these links might work better Before: http://pic5.picturetrail.com/VOL95/2105949/4090267/66598837.jpg After: http://pic5.picturetrail.com/VOL95/2105949/4090267/50699522.jpg Voluntarily Obese Spouse? Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted December 5, 2006 Share Posted December 5, 2006 A wise man once told me that when you first see a woman---thats the thinnest she will ever be. and if you want to see what she will look like in 25 years, look at her mother. whats the deal with women after they marry that they fatten up?? i have 2 female cousins that looked really good --after marriage they had a kid ( i KNOW the kid argument - tell that to all the supermodels that have them and then go back to work) and totally blimped. both of their husbands left, one went with an aerobics instructor. no guy wants to marry a girl and then wake up with this triple sized bon-bon eating behemeth laying beside him. i know that love is unconditional, but isnt it a sign of disrespect toward the spouse if she gains weight like that??? i mean big, elephant type weight, not due to a gland problem or anything, just due to eating 2 buckets of chicken and doing nothing but watching oprah. this also applies to the guys too, ladies, to be fair. you dont want ot be seen with a beer -gutted slob. this can be overcome with discipline and respect for one's spouse. any thoughts???? ( i can hear all the "he's so shallow " argument from women now- probably fat ones!!!) i'm talking about 25 -40 year old women, obese, and not a natural mid age spread---voluntary obesity. once you trap a guy into marriage and get that 50% community property locked up, to heck with the commitment stuff??? work out at the gym because you are hunting with the pack, and once you have your prey, he is to just take me as i am, not this fallacy i have been hooking him with. is that it?? and how do you breach the subject with your wife, who you can be "so honest with" without a bull whip and elephant tranquilizer to protect yourself from her rage???? It doesn't matter if you fat or thin men CHEAT it's a fact! Do you not think that the majority of the drama we read in magazines is about the men who are cheating on there celebrity wife/so =/ So your wrong! xoxo Link to post Share on other sites
dangel Posted December 6, 2006 Share Posted December 6, 2006 I love this place! slimjim, you make a good point: when does a spouse's weight/appearance balloon to such an extent that he/she is in breach of an implied marital agreement to maintain one's appearance/weight within reasonable limits, thus excusing the innocent spouse's non-performance under the marriage contract. Appearance matters. A spouse who lets himself or herself come to resemble a whale is skating on very thin marital ice. One can call this fatty aversion superficial, petty, shallow, selfish, sexist, etc. It doesn't matter. What matters is that revulsion at your spouse's appearance does not make for either a long or happy marriage. You can't legislate physical attraction. Nor can it be commanded or counseled. Pity the marriage burdened by one spouse's obesity. Does this "ballooning" qualify in your opinion? Link to post Share on other sites
Walk Posted December 6, 2006 Share Posted December 6, 2006 Too ironic. My bf wants me to gain weight. Says I'm too thin. I'm tubby now. These threads make me angry. I blieve that women need to recieve something of equal effort from the man if she is goign to bust ass to stay in shape for him. It takes a heck of a lot of work, time, effort to look good. What does the man give? His word to stay faithful? He already gave that for her word on being faithful. THat'd be like trying to pay the electric with money you promised to the mortgage company. It's already been given for something else. So what are men going to give for a woman's effort to stay good looking???? It's a bargain, not a dictatorship. You want a hot wife, then you better give something of equal value. I aint giving shyt away for free anymore. You want it your way, then offer me something *I* want in return. You get, I get, we're all happy. If you don't want to give anything in return for me busting my butt to look good for you... then screw you. I'm not going to fork over my bank account for nothign. Why would I invest months full of hard work and effort to get nothing in return? In essence what I'm saying... if I wanted my man to be as romantic as he was when we first met, then I have to bust my butt to ensure that he's seriously sexed up in the way he wants it. You want your woman to look like she did when you first met, then what are you going to do for her??? Nothing is free. Link to post Share on other sites
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