Who else has has someone buy them gifts after being cheated on?

[That_girl]

My recent ex just bought me something really expensive that he knows I wanted.....right after telling me that he cheated on me while I thought I could pregnant with his child. WTF. He says he has no expectations from it, just wanted to do something to make me happy cause he knows how awful I must be feeling.

 

I kinda think that this is bull****. And I told him I can't accept it, but some friends are telling me that I'm being too harsh. I'm too angry to accept/use any of gifts right now.

 

I told him to return it, and he has not responded. I'm thinking he's offended....but how the **** could he be when he's the one who caused all of the pain to begin with??

[PegNosePete]

Yep its bull****.

 

There is no such thing as "too harsh", I guess your friends who are telling you this have never been cheated on?

 

Stuff how he feels. Who cares if he is offended. It's not your problem any more. If you want the gift, keep it. If it will always make you think of him then get rid of it. If he won't accept it back then trash it or sell it.

[painfullyobvious]

Giving gifts during or after being caught in an affair is common among wondering partners. I agree with PNP in that a gift that you keep during this time period will onloy remind you of your current situation years down the road

[Kinder-Horror]

I have. I did the same thing (told him I couldn't accept it, he insisted I keep it) with the ring he bought me (Tiffany ring, not a wedding right or anything) and all my friends said I was being crazy and I should keep it because I deserve it.

 

I just didn't want to wear that kind of energy. Every time I looked at it, I'd think infidelity, not love

[Woman In Blue]

Dang. If he admits to a second incident of cheating that you didn't know about, would he buy you a car?

 

All kidding aside, I see where keeping his 'hush' gift would make you feel like you've 'accepted' his bad behavior and perhaps even condone it.

 

However, he's an EX. I say take the gift and tell him you and your new true love will get many hours of enjoyment from it. Hee hee.

[Seamless74]

I got a good one for you ladies... its great that they buy you gifts after being caught but outside of holidays or birthdays anytime your man buys you a really nice gift out of the blue... Dont be suprised if its his subsconcious screaming guilt for something else hes done... think about that one..

[FryFish]

Take it and give it to a family member... I hate cheaters...