Star_Bright Posted October 10, 2010 Share Posted October 10, 2010 Star Bright........good list, it was sad but funny. Your commentary is what makes it funny. Thanks BB. It's because I find the excuses and the fact that I bought into them so sad that I have to find something funny about them to not get depressed! Link to post Share on other sites
Fieldsofgold Posted October 10, 2010 Share Posted October 10, 2010 Wow!!!!! Ok so I can actually see so clearly that each OW thinks that she can get her MM to leave to be with her because yeah sure most don't, but HE is different because YOU & HIM have this special connection and he really is only truly happy when with you. B****cks!!!!!! It seems to me (I have woken up big time this weekend) that MM go for another woman because it is an ego stroke and at the end of the day the worst scenario for them would be if their wife found out and left them . . . but wait . . . that wouldn't be so bad because they would have OW waiting in the wings practically begging to be with them anyway!! The OW seems to fall for MM as has other issues going on - maybe insecure or perhaps thinks she wants some excitement but then gets in too deep and starts wanting the impossible - him to leave his cushy set up and be with her. It's all about the OW ego really as it's all about getting MM off the wife . . . because that proves that you are wonderful . . . and if he doesn't leave it just makes the sordid affair seem just that . . . sordid. If MM leaves then it wasn't sordid and you weren't being used . . . right??!! I reckon the only victim here is the wife and yet really she is the luckiest (if it never comes out) as she doesn't have sleepless nights and feel rejected each time MM goes back to the wife. There is no way I am going down this road . . . came close though . . . thanks guys for sharing your experiences otherwise I may have ended up posting on here in a few months saying how upset and p***ed off I am with MM I'm glad our experiences have helped you! Here's another one I was told: You don't understand - there are certain obligations and responsibilities in a relationship that just don't exist when one is only dating. You and I have never gotten past just dating. (This from the man who spent nearly every afternoon/evening with me. Told me he loved me, wanted to marry me, wanted to spend as much of the rest of his life with me as possible. Then used the above as his excuse when I found out about the W and the OW.) Link to post Share on other sites
Fieldsofgold Posted October 10, 2010 Share Posted October 10, 2010 I think you've posted it on a wrong thread... If you post again can you stay on topic, thank you. Don't you think that's a little harsh? It IS related to the topic in that the MM textbook has helped her reach a decision that she feels is right for her. I know the thread was started in good-natured fun, but I, for one, am glad someone found this helpful, as well. I'm glad our humor was also supportive to a would-be OW. And I appreciate her letting us know she found it helpful. Link to post Share on other sites
mustmoveon Posted October 18, 2010 Share Posted October 18, 2010 Mine is the best - "I believe we were tragically parted in a former life and the gods have brought up back together." What makes it even funnier is that he's a mathematician and not given to "past life" beliefs. Link to post Share on other sites
mustmoveon Posted October 18, 2010 Share Posted October 18, 2010 Thanks BB. It's because I find the excuses and the fact that I bought into them so sad that I have to find something funny about them to not get depressed! "Promise me you'll never leave me..." ("But you're married.") "Promise me you'll marry me...." ("But you're married.") "I've never been in love before." ("Well, you must have had some feelings for the woman you married & had 2 kids with.") BLECH! Link to post Share on other sites
Fieldsofgold Posted October 18, 2010 Share Posted October 18, 2010 I think you're right. This may be the best one yet! Pretty darn creative for a mathematician! Mine is the best - "I believe we were tragically parted in a former life and the gods have brought us back together." What makes it even funnier is that he's a mathematician and not given to "past life" beliefs. These are pretty ripe, too! "Promise me you'll never leave me..." ("But you're married.") "Promise me you'll marry me...." ("But you're married.") "I've never been in love before." ("Well, you must have had some feelings for the woman you married & had 2 kids with.") BLECH! Link to post Share on other sites
seren Posted October 18, 2010 Share Posted October 18, 2010 I have a friend who had been seeing a MM for 16 years!! Some of the lines she has been told are: I can't leave my wife as she is chronically ill She needs a kidney ! Wife has mental health problems - no wonder he is a dickhead I cannot leave because my daughter is having a bad time at school I cannot see you to support you (her grandson died) because I have a meeting I cannot attend your Dad's funeral because I have to take my wife shopping - WTF I have told my brother about you - he didn't have a brother! When I retire we will move to Scotland and live in a remote cottage - he retired, stayed where he was, because - his wife was still waiting for a kidney!! Then he couldn't leave because his daughter was pregnant and he was a Grandad. Finally, she woke up and realised that he was a liar and she had wasted all that time waiting for him. So very sad. All the time she knew I didn't approve of A's, but she kept making excuses for him - because she loved him. Not a malicious bone in her body, she just loved, and that is what he took advantage of. As for his wife -fit as a butcher's dog, they went on a cruise when he retired. perhaps to search for the elusive kidney. My friend has got engaged to someone else - single guy and is happy, but sad at the wasted time. BS knows nothing. Link to post Share on other sites
Fieldsofgold Posted October 18, 2010 Share Posted October 18, 2010 I have a friend who had been seeing a MM for 16 years!! Some of the lines she has been told are: I can't leave my wife as she is chronically ill She needs a kidney ! Wife has mental health problems - no wonder he is a dickhead I cannot leave because my daughter is having a bad time at school I cannot see you to support you (her grandson died) because I have a meeting I cannot attend your Dad's funeral because I have to take my wife shopping - WTF I have told my brother about you - he didn't have a brother! When I retire we will move to Scotland and live in a remote cottage - he retired, stayed where he was, because - his wife was still waiting for a kidney!! Then he couldn't leave because his daughter was pregnant and he was a Grandad. Finally, she woke up and realised that he was a liar and she had wasted all that time waiting for him. So very sad. All the time she knew I didn't approve of A's, but she kept making excuses for him - because she loved him. Not a malicious bone in her body, she just loved, and that is what he took advantage of. As for his wife -fit as a butcher's dog, they went on a cruise when he retired. perhaps to search for the elusive kidney. My friend has got engaged to someone else - single guy and is happy, but sad at the wasted time. BS knows nothing. That is so sad. 16 years. She went through the death of her grandson and her father, alone, because he had more pressing things, like a meeting, and shopping. There ought to be a law against it. I'm glad she found someone else. Link to post Share on other sites
Mimolicious Posted October 18, 2010 Share Posted October 18, 2010 Just remembered one my friend heard from her MM. "It doesn't matter we're not always together and I spend most of the time with my family - the most important thing is our feelings, that we think about each other, you and me. This is what really counts." I gotta say that I have also heard this one. My friend was given this line by her MM. He said that they didn't have to be in the presence of each other to feel the love. Uuhm... Ok. Then in the presence of who???????! One that takes the cake was John Edwards. My wife has cancer, she will die soon then you and I can be happy together. (FACKED UP!) Link to post Share on other sites
seren Posted October 19, 2010 Share Posted October 19, 2010 The not leaving because the BS has a terminal or chronic illness seems to be the one most used after the a has been ongoing for some time and the OM/OW are looking for more. Perhaps the WS thinks they won't pressure too much because the BS is sick. When I spoke to OW she said that my H said he was fed up of me being ill (I had the big C). When I tackled H he said yes he had said that, but not that he was fed up of ME being ill, more fed up of seeing me ill and hurt. Further convos with OW confirmed that this is what had been said, but on D Day when we spoke she wanted to share the pain. My friend of the 16 yr affair was told When we are apart look at the stars, find the plough and know that I am also looking at it and thinking of you. Almost reached for my bucket at that point. One night she rang him, asked if he looked at their star, he asked WTF she was talking about - he had forgotten, she hadn't and religously looked and said goodnight to it, thinking the MM was doing the same. Bloody man! Link to post Share on other sites
BB07 Posted October 19, 2010 Share Posted October 19, 2010 The not leaving because the BS has a terminal or chronic illness seems to be the one most used after the a has been ongoing for some time and the OM/OW are looking for more. Perhaps the WS thinks they won't pressure too much because the BS is sick. When I spoke to OW she said that my H said he was fed up of me being ill (I had the big C). When I tackled H he said yes he had said that, but not that he was fed up of ME being ill, more fed up of seeing me ill and hurt. Further convos with OW confirmed that this is what had been said, but on D Day when we spoke she wanted to share the pain. My friend of the 16 yr affair was told When we are apart look at the stars, find the plough and know that I am also looking at it and thinking of you. Almost reached for my bucket at that point. One night she rang him, asked if he looked at their star, he asked WTF she was talking about - he had forgotten, she hadn't and religously looked and said goodnight to it, thinking the MM was doing the same. Bloody man! I almost had to go get MY bucket when I read that one Seren. How can we as women be that gullible? Yep I've had my moments. I'm glad your friend quit wasting her time and found someone good for her. Link to post Share on other sites
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