Torn between two sisters

[shayan]

So my sisters have always had a bad relationship and recently they got into a major dilemma last year and have not been speaking since. They both are getting close to marriage, however, I feel that the younger one is very jealous and hurt by my older sister. Because of this my younger sisters life and relationship with her husband is suffering. I am the man, and I have tried reconciling things between the two, however, they both demonize eachother so much. I don't like the direction things are heading in, and I wonder if their is a way to help?

 

I generally don't try to control things, or change people and their relations. However, I feel obliged because they are my family.

[september66]

Hello shayan, I have 2 sisters (I'm the middle sister) and I have tried playing peace keeper many times over the years and it never works. They either want me to choose sides or say bad things about the other which I don't want to hear. I have learned to stay out of it and let them deal with their own problems. Sisters can love each other one minute and hate either other the next.

 

You can offer your advice gently but be warned, you might get caught in the crossfire if its a bloody battle

 

This is just my opinion of course, maybe someone else will have better advice for you.

 

Good Luck!

[BellaBellaBella]

You say this is causing the younger sister's relationship with her husband to suffer, why?

 

I don't speak to my sister and I go out of my way to avoid her. I don't need to demonize her, she has proved herself over and over to the family.

She is the younger and she has made her choice for herself and her family.

 

I finally realized I could have a separate relationship with my family then her. Things have improved so much since then for my husband and children. We enjoy our time with our family without someone acting out all the time. I know it hurts our Mother and Father, however I have explained I am not asking them to chose, I am asking them to respect my postition in a no win situation. Funny enough I was then told they have been expecting this for years.

 

I do love my sister. I don't like her. I am done putting up with her dramatics and everything needing to be about her. I am done with her cutting remarks and everything in my life needing to be about her. Including where we go on vacation and who we see when we go.

 

I hope you can support your sisters in an impartial manner. I have asked my family for radio silence as far as events go in my life. I do pray daily for some kind of miracle to take place. I don't see it happening.