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I was wondering if any of you had experience or knew someone who was into open relationships. I've been with my new girlfriend for 5 months now and well the idea of her sleeping or doing things with other men turns me on.

 

I was thinking of first sharing her with one of my buddies. She is totally unaware of this fantasy of mine. How do I bring it up to her? Will she be spooked-out or thrilled by this too? In the end her decision it what matters but it would be cool if she agree with me on this.

 

What would any of you ladies think or tell me if you were her and I would have told you that.

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Feelin Frisky

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I'm not a lady but I do have opinions. You would not be unique in feeling this impulse. But going through with it is another thing than a brief fantasy. Are you OK with the risks--the risk of your jealousy? the risk of losing her? the risk of opening up a pandora's box which you can't close back up? the risk of sharing germs you wouldn't other have to face?

 

Have you thought about marrying her and having kids? Do you want your kids mother to be a pass-around girl? Have you considered that you can't control the outcomes? What is it stops seeming exciting? What do you do next? Take these as rhetorical questions if you wish. They reflect my opinion.

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loverules777

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i understandr how u feel. I also share mine as well. i didnt like to as much in the begining, but like to alot more now. She is alot younger than me.. i love the feeling of her really being satisfied, and i have a hard time doing it. i dont want to loose her so i think its important for her to see men that can make her happy in bed. I have a few issues,like it getting hard and cumming really quick.. so i really cant see trying to make her stop, not that she would anyway. Anyways.. so that is my story..

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LucreziaBorgia

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Regardless of what you tell her, chances are she is going to take that to mean that she is not special enough to you for monogamy and she may well end up breaking things off with you when she finds one of those guys who wants her all to himself and doesn't want to share.

 

You should bring it up though - stuff like that shouldn't be allowed to fester particularly if it is going to end up disrupting your relationship anyway. Either she is a monogamy minded person or she isn't - this is the sort of thing you want to resolve sooner rather than later even if it means breaking up as a result.

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Ivan

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I'm not a lady but I do have opinions. You would not be unique in feeling this impulse. But going through with it is another thing than a brief fantasy. Are you OK with the risks--the risk of your jealousy? the risk of losing her? the risk of opening up a pandora's box which you can't close back up? the risk of sharing germs you wouldn't other have to face?
I'm fully aware of every possible risks there is to this. After all everything in life has risks, this includes being in a relationship. Regarding the germs, it would be with known men and protection would be used all the time.

Have you thought about marrying her and having kids? Do you want your kids mother to be a pass-around girl?
I have thought about it sometime in the future, not yet as it's too early. There was a time I was once engaged (she's now my ex) but broke it off. If kids were involve then the doors would have to be lock all the times if it happens.

Have you considered that you can't control the outcomes? What is it stops seeming exciting? What do you do next? Take these as rhetorical questions if you wish. They reflect my opinion.
You'll never know until you try. This is my first time trying this so I'll see how it goes but first I'll have to talk with her sometime today.
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some fantasies you should keep to your self my man, she aint going for that
I know but it's been a while since those fantasies started appearing all of the sudden.

Ironically with my other ex's (including an ex fiancee), if caught cheating I would have knock the hell out of the dude. Now I'm the complete opposite, it turns me on.

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Girl friend: oh what can I do for you Ivan? tell me what I can do to please you.

 

Ivan: f__k Harry. :D

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Have you ever considered joining a swingers club or something like that? Perhaps you should do a google search for some swingers in your area where you live. Or maybe you should buy a book like If 3. It's a book or questions. But the third volume asks questions that are only love and sexually related. Here's one of the questions: If you had to watch your lover or spouse have sex with someone else, but could determine who it could be, who would you choose?

 

There's also another book like that called Book of Questions by Gregory Stock. He has different kinds of versions of the book. One of them has questions only about love and sex. Perhaps you should buy those books and introduce them to your girlfriend as a way of leading her into your fantasy that you would like to live out.

 

I'm not saying that it's proven to work out in your favor, but I think it's worth a shot. If anything, she'll at least know that you have these fantasies and maybe she'll come around.

 

I know that books like that would turn me on because it's a way of having open discussions with your lover.

 

 

Yvette from Sweden

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