odisea Posted February 29, 2004 Share Posted February 29, 2004 Last week I was on here talking about how I am confused about my ex and not knowing where his head is at...he broke up with me a month ago and told me he needed some space and time to sort himself out, but that he still wants me. Well...I think today I am starting to realize that it is over between us :~( We were supposed to go see a movie tonight but he hasn't called me back..it starts in an hour. I have a deep feeling in my gut that he doesn't plan on seeing me tonight. I felt it the minute we hung up earlier. I also have read comments by some people on here that if someone wants 'space' to think, that they must not really want to be together in the first place. Either you want to be near someone, or you dont. The last month I let myself believe him and make excuses but tonight as an example..he doesnt want to see me. When you have feelings for someone, you want them near, and you look forward to seeing them. I dunno..I'm sorry if I sound negative, but I'm just so so sad. This is the first time I've ever had such a hard time losing someone..I cant seem to pick myself up from it for some reason, in fact I feel worse and worse..and the weird thing is, we were only together for 4 months :~( Link to post Share on other sites
sensitiveguy Posted February 29, 2004 Share Posted February 29, 2004 odisea - You sound like a sweet person. I understand your sadness. Don't think because of a 4 month relationship your feeling don't matter or are "wrong". Sometimes people think quanitity (length of relationship) implies quality (feelings/connection) this is not always the case. For the issue you wrote about - if this guy does not have a good reason for canceling the date then you have to walk away. Anyone that plays games with other people's hearts is a sh*tbag to me. Sorry to be so blunt but you deserve better! And you'll find better - you sound way too sweet not to. Link to post Share on other sites
lovehurts Posted March 1, 2004 Share Posted March 1, 2004 Trust me!! I know what you are feeling!!! Its not easy and so confusing, you want to give them the world and you have so much to offer and they dont want any of it. It is true, you deserve better. He isnt deserving of your affections sweetheart. A friend said some thing to me yesterday that has stuck with me - "You are a beautifully person, you deserve to be treated beautifully" ... with this in mind - disappear from him. Link to post Share on other sites
lovehurts Posted March 1, 2004 Share Posted March 1, 2004 You are a beautiful person, you deserve to be treated beautifully... Link to post Share on other sites
caretoomuch Posted March 1, 2004 Share Posted March 1, 2004 Take five, As on many of these threads you must have a look at the actions of the ex. Asking for space can be a valid request by another person. What u need to look at is this other person genuinely wanting space to think and resolve some issues or are they just too scared to say it is over. Only u will know this by his actions. However if they are genuine then I think you should respect their request. From personal experience i was asked to give space and i didnt and that just pushed her further away - i think now that she was genuinely sorting some personal issues out and needed that time and if i had given it i may of stood a better chance of regaining her. People can need space and this request can be taken as a sign of their love for you - they have doubts but would rather make sure than just walk away. Be in their shoes for a minute - wouldnt you want to be sure before committing to or ending a relationship you valued. so dont over react too quickly. stop the bus and take a breath and look into the others actions and you will know. the waiting can be painful and only you can set a time frame on how long - just please dont sit there staring at the phone - get busy, social and have happy times. Link to post Share on other sites
sinkerswim Posted March 1, 2004 Share Posted March 1, 2004 Just because someone asks for space doesnt always mean its over. Space can mean a few things. My boyfriend needs space right now because he is trying to figure out stuff in his head. We are together 8 years and he knows that. He knows better than to just say he needs space rather than break up. I believe He would tell me if he wants us to break up. I think he is taking this time to think things through so he DOESNT make the wrong decision. Could be the same thing with your boyfriend. - Link to post Share on other sites
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