bentnotbroken Posted October 13, 2010 Share Posted October 13, 2010 I'm sorry. My intention is not to re-hash previous conversations (I am new here, lol). I have a thought process like everyone else, and I am curious about the concepts being presented here. Sorry if I annoyed you. Can't annoy me, don't know you. *shrug* Made a comment on a statement I saw...nothing more, nothing less. Link to post Share on other sites
on a learning curve Posted October 13, 2010 Share Posted October 13, 2010 Can't annoy me, don't know you. *shrug* Made a comment on a statement I saw...nothing more, nothing less. I questioned what may be right or wrong, and that is what annoyed you. Again, not meant to inflame, I do appreciate JJ's comment - that is all. Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted October 13, 2010 Share Posted October 13, 2010 I questioned what may be right or wrong, and that is what annoyed you. Again, not meant to inflame, I do appreciate JJ's comment - that is all. Once again, not annoyed. You stated what you needed to and I responded. If you have a problem with telling when I am annoyed and when I am not...read some of my old posts. Link to post Share on other sites
on a learning curve Posted October 13, 2010 Share Posted October 13, 2010 Once again, not annoyed. You stated what you needed to and I responded. If you have a problem with telling when I am annoyed and when I am not...read some of my old posts. I have no problem with you, BnB. I commented on a post that resonated with me. We all have our thoughts -just getting mine out. Link to post Share on other sites
pureinheart Posted October 13, 2010 Share Posted October 13, 2010 I have only read until here, and I think JJ brings an important point. This is a forum for OM/OW to discuss their relationships. It really isn't fair, or right, to come here with the implicit purpose of disrespecting the feelings of women and men in unsanctioned relationships. It's what it's meant for:)...BTW, welcome to LS Link to post Share on other sites
on a learning curve Posted October 13, 2010 Share Posted October 13, 2010 It's what it's meant for:)...BTW, welcome to LS Thank you! I thought so. Link to post Share on other sites
desertIslandCactus Posted October 13, 2010 Share Posted October 13, 2010 Can't annoy me, don't know you. *shrug* Made a comment on a statement I saw...nothing more, nothing less. .............. Link to post Share on other sites
on a learning curve Posted October 13, 2010 Share Posted October 13, 2010 .............. I don't know what this means, but it is either disrespectful to me, or to BnB. I'm guessing to me... Link to post Share on other sites
herenow Posted October 13, 2010 Share Posted October 13, 2010 I don't know what this means, but it is either disrespectful to me, or to BnB. I'm guessing to me... You know there is a lot of good stuff that happens on this forum. Lots of good stuff in this thread. Maybe you would get more from LS if you didn't just focus on the negative. Just a thought. Take it or leave it. Link to post Share on other sites
on a learning curve Posted October 13, 2010 Share Posted October 13, 2010 You know there is a lot of good stuff that happens on this forum. Lots of good stuff in this thread. Maybe you would get more from LS if you didn't just focus on the negative. Just a thought. Take it or leave it. Good point. I am trying to stay positive. Thank you for the reminder. Link to post Share on other sites
pureinheart Posted October 13, 2010 Share Posted October 13, 2010 Thank you! I thought so. Hey you hang in there ...k... there are some nice supportive people on this forum, it won't take long to figure out who to stay away from:) ((((hugs)))) Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted October 13, 2010 Share Posted October 13, 2010 I have no problem with you, BnB. I commented on a post that resonated with me. We all have our thoughts -just getting mine out. That's what the boards are for. Link to post Share on other sites
anne1707 Posted October 13, 2010 Share Posted October 13, 2010 Should I take that as you not having read even one book on the subject then? That's quite an assumption (and wrong too) I personally hate the fighting that sometimes goes here on LS between the BS and OW/OM. Everybody can bring something to the discussions and advice given here, including those who have never actually been in an affair. To tell posters otherwise and to keep away from certain forums is rude, disrespectful and arrogant. Link to post Share on other sites
donnamaybe Posted October 13, 2010 Share Posted October 13, 2010 I don't like the report (alert), it's obviously used too often .. And it doesn't keep things on an evenness because those who have their finger on the 'alert' will lay and wait to report one poster - but overlook another..You got THAT right. But... SOMETIMES that MO backfires on them. Link to post Share on other sites
greengoddess Posted October 13, 2010 Share Posted October 13, 2010 You got THAT right. But... SOMETIMES that MO backfires on them. :laugh: There seems to be a lot of new people lately too. Link to post Share on other sites
jthorne Posted October 13, 2010 Share Posted October 13, 2010 I don't know what this means, but it is either disrespectful to me, or to BnB. I'm guessing to me...It wasn't meant to be disrespectful to anyone. It was a playful joke. No harm meant. Link to post Share on other sites
jthorne Posted October 13, 2010 Share Posted October 13, 2010 :laugh: There seems to be a lot of new people lately too.We should throw a welcome party! Link to post Share on other sites
greengoddess Posted October 13, 2010 Share Posted October 13, 2010 It wasn't meant to be disrespectful to anyone. It was a playful joke. No harm meant. Yes it really makes you wonder why a new poster would think you were being disrespectful to them just because you chuckled at something. and back to the topic. I think all sides of the affair need to be heard from. I often think some of the ow want to bury their head in the sand and pretend the wife does not exist and do not like the reality of a wife or even a real woman who is not a bs chiming in. Reality is the most helpful for all parties. Link to post Share on other sites
jthorne Posted October 13, 2010 Share Posted October 13, 2010 (edited) Yes it really makes you wonder why a new poster would think you were being disrespectful to them just because you chuckled at something. and back to the topic. I think all sides of the affair need to be heard from. I often think some of the ow want to bury their head in the sand and pretend the wife does not exist and do not like the reality of a wife or even a real woman who is not a bs chiming in. Reality is the most helpful for all parties.I agree. It wasn't until I came here that it really hit home exactly what kind of pain I could have caused. It was an embarrassing and shameful wakeup call. Obviously, it's not that way for those that might feel entitled to a MM, but they may have a different affairyland version of reality than do others. Nevertheless, your point is well taken. Edited October 13, 2010 by jthorne Link to post Share on other sites
on a learning curve Posted October 13, 2010 Share Posted October 13, 2010 It wasn't meant to be disrespectful to anyone. It was a playful joke. No harm meant. Sorry for assuming the worst. I was in an overly-sensitive mood, last night. Thank you for your comment. Link to post Share on other sites
jennie-jennie Posted October 13, 2010 Share Posted October 13, 2010 It wasn't meant to be disrespectful to anyone. It was a playful joke. No harm meant. Yes it really makes you wonder why a new poster would think you were being disrespectful to them just because you chuckled at something. Why does that make you wonder? I didn't understand it was a joke either. I too thought it was aimed at the new poster. Link to post Share on other sites
jennie-jennie Posted October 13, 2010 Share Posted October 13, 2010 and back to the topic. I think all sides of the affair need to be heard from. I often think some of the ow want to bury their head in the sand and pretend the wife does not exist and do not like the reality of a wife or even a real woman who is not a bs chiming in. Reality is the most helpful for all parties. I agree that all parties should be heard from. But I see no reason to hide own's status. Why is it found offensive that others tell your status if you don't offer that information? If others find that information relevant it must be up to them to offer it in my opinion. Regarding those who have never been in an affair, their input is welcome too. It would be nice however if they showed some humility in realizing that if you have never been in a position you are missing vital information and not likely to know as much about it as those who have personal experience. Link to post Share on other sites
jennie-jennie Posted October 13, 2010 Share Posted October 13, 2010 I agree. It wasn't until I came here that it really hit home exactly what kind of pain I could have caused. It was an embarrassing and shameful wakeup call. Obviously, it's not that way for those that might feel entitled to a MM, but they may have a different affairyland version of reality than do others. Nevertheless, your point is well taken. Oh, I know of the pain having been a BS myself for many years. I remember not wanting to continue living. So no wakeup call needed for me. Link to post Share on other sites
desertIslandCactus Posted October 13, 2010 Share Posted October 13, 2010 We should throw a welcome party! welcome back party ? Link to post Share on other sites
donnamaybe Posted October 13, 2010 Share Posted October 13, 2010 Regarding those who have never been in an affair, their input is welcome too. It would be nice however if they showed some humility in realizing that if you have never been in a position you are missing vital information and not likely to know as much about it as those who have personal experience.By "show some humility" I assume that means if an AP disagrees with what we say we should bow down to their superior knowledge. I'm sorry, but it just doesn't work that way. We are all entitled to our opinions, and they tend to vary. And one doesn't have to be in an A to see some things very clearly. Remember that phrase "can't see the forest for the trees?" I firmly believe it applies in A's quite often. Also, we are all adults here. I understand that children don't realize what "hot" means when we tell them not to touch the stove, and sometimes they just have to learn that for themselves the hard way. But most of us have lived long lives and seen much. Just because we haven't been personally entrenched in an A doesn't mean we haven't learned from the examples of others who have. Link to post Share on other sites
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