yongyong Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 So if the girl doesn't want to talk to you after having sex, guys call it buyer's remorse. I understand if that happened with a girl I met at the club that night. I'd known this girl for couple weeks. To make it short, we had sex on the first day we kissed. We were having conversation pretty long late at night. I had to kiss her (and wanted) because she was licking her lips alot. (you are a wuss if you don't pull the trigger after seeing that sign) it was very lovely. I wasn't sure if I could kiss her (after kissing her already) and she assured that it was ok. anyways, after couple minutes we were making out. and as a healthy straight male, I wanted to push as far as I could go. we had a good sex and she talked about she had a thought for me. now I regret going so fast because she disappeared after saying it went too fast. I HONESTLY had interest in her more than just physical relationship (like holding hands n walk around the park, watching movies, making dinner together etc) Is it because she felt slutty about herself? Is it because she thought I didn't respect her? From the experience, I didn't tell her 'sorry but I really had feelings for you', instead I just told her 'well fine.......good luck'
harmfulsweetz Posted October 15, 2010 Posted October 15, 2010 It's tough to really say because I'm not her, etc but it seems she may feel it went too fast for her, maybe she wanted a reaction from you? Some reassurance? Saying 'well fine...good luck' isn't the way to have gone about it. It's not hard to imagine what she would have thought then,especially after she'd voiced her concern. Could you try to phone her up and have a chat with her?
reservoirdog1 Posted October 15, 2010 Posted October 15, 2010 I couldn't totally tell from what you wrote if this is even an option at this stage. But anyway... If you'd like to see her again, call her and ask her out on a proper date. On that date, avoid pushing things in a sexual direction without very clear signals of interest from her. If that proper date doesn't involve sex, that's okay. That'll communicate that you're interested in her for things like holding hands and walking around the park, watching movies, making dinner together, etc. I.e. more than just sex. A lot of women, especially if they like the guy, get hung up over the question of whether or not they "gave it up too quickly". If she likes you, there's little doubt she's feeling like that. She needs some validation and some reassurance that you see her as more than just an orifice. It can work... I met a woman at a party nearly two years ago. Had sex that night. Ended up in a relationship for a year. Odds are probably against it working in those circumstances, but it can happen.
denise_xo Posted October 15, 2010 Posted October 15, 2010 It seems she may feel it went too fast for her, maybe she wanted a reaction from you? Some reassurance? Saying 'well fine...good luck' isn't the way to have gone about it. It's not hard to imagine what she would have thought then,especially after she'd voiced her concern. Agree. I wouldn't really think that a man was interested in making dinner together or holding hands in the park if he said 'fine' and wished me good luck So maybe just contact her and be straight, and tell her that you're sorry things went a bit fast but you had a good time and want to hang out with her and suggest some day time activity, and see how that goes.
Crazy4what Posted October 16, 2010 Posted October 16, 2010 Call her, sometimes it takes more than 3 calls. NOT consecutively! or either just text. Its all about mind games. If your getting some and having fun with her why not sacrifice some of your Pride! If she likes you anyways she'll respond either way. at least she will see your interests.
Nikki Sahagin Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 Well believe it or not, girls can get bored if they get it too soon as well. I think I think more like 'a man' in that I love the chase and a challenge and then I tend to get a bit bored and complacent. Maybe this girl wanted sex and got it and felt a bit bored afterwards, although its quite possible she may have felt guilty or weird and so scampered out of there, its worth asking.
shayan Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 and next time take it slower, generally women feel exploited and asscociate those feelings with you if things go too fast. Just be like you know I know I'm feeling it with you but we just met let's take it slow. Girls die for that
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