em-b's bloke Posted October 12, 2010 Share Posted October 12, 2010 Hi everybody, I'm new here so go easy on me! Here's my situation. I recently split up with my wife of 7 years and the divorce is going through, we're waiting for a court date as we speak. After some ping-ponging back and forth I decided enough was enough, she couldn't make her mind up as to whether she wanted to be with me anymore or not so I made the decision for her and stuck with it. Just for a bit of fun and with no intention of finding a relationship, I went on a free dating site and met a wonderful woman (me 41 she 34) and we hit it off immediately. We've been together for 4 months and she asked me to move in a month ago and are even planning to be married next year. She's totally gorgeous and I love her to bits; I can honestly say that for the first time in my life I'm with someone whose feelings/needs I'm always totally happy to put before my own, which is something I've never experienced before. The only problem is that I'm quite jealous of her past? Recently I went for hypnotherapy over this and it helped a great deal, definitely took the edge off, but I'm still getting these negative feelings. What is weird is that it seems to be the more casual encounters that bother me more than her LTR's. I'm living with her and her kids in her ex-marital home that she shared with her ex-husband for 3 years, sleeping in the same bed etc etc but that doesn't bother me in the slightest, it's the odd one-night stand (she told me she has never slept around and I believe her so there aren't many lol!) and her last relationship which was more of a dating relationship that lasted six months (he asked her to marry him but she refused the offer) that seem to upset me. I just don't understand it; surely I should feel more threatened with the LTR's rather than casual encounters that meant nothing to her? I will say though that I have never really done one night stands, if ever I wanted to sleep with someone I have generally wanted to have a relationship with them. Maybe that's the reason? I'm very confused lol!!:confused: Link to post Share on other sites
guinnessdraft Posted October 12, 2010 Share Posted October 12, 2010 Hi everybody, I'm new here so go easy on me! I will say though that I have never really done one night stands, if ever I wanted to sleep with someone I have generally wanted to have a relationship with them. Maybe that's the reason? I'm very confused lol!!:confused: Yes, that's the reason. You're jealous of her ability to have a one night stand. Stop comparing penis size with your SO--if you know what I mean. You got her, mission accomplished for now. Link to post Share on other sites
someotherguy Posted October 12, 2010 Share Posted October 12, 2010 Congratulations! You've won the heart of a gorgeous woman! The fact is, any woman who doesn't look like she was hit in the face repeatedly with a shovel will have more sexual options than any man, period. Let that sink in for a minute. Savor the flavor. Then go back and read the first line of this reply again. You won, hombre, so suck it up and let that stuff go. She loves you, and only time will take away the jealousy, but I promise you, it will fade in time. Don't let your insecurities destroy your relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
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