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How do you deal with watching an ex fall in love with someone else?


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I know this is going to sounds crazy but after I saw the most recent pictures of this girl, I am not jealous anymore. She is FAT. She has gained heaps of weight since her older pictures.

 

I really think that I am hotter than her - therefore I am over it. He has also changed for the worse since the last time I saw him.

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(She also looks like she is going to jump and tear his eyes off or something. A little scary, see how long this lasts).

 

(Not to say the slutty type pose which is meh).

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I swear FaceBook and other social networking is a product of the devil! I had a prior relationship that was 2+ yrs end several years ago and he wasn't on FB or MySpace or anything so it was out of sight, out of mind and I moved on fairly fast. My most current relationship that ended two months ago that was only 10 months long has been harder to move past for a couple reasons but the biggest one I swear is I'm still temped to look at his FB. We aren't friends on there but I still see his profile picture, and basic info. He also still has a MySpace that he only uses to play some games on and I can only see the basic stuff but he still has "in a relationship" on there and that's from me. He always told me when he considered us completely over he'd change it. Since I don't want to be back together this just seems to pull me down to a weird place.

 

I just wish none of that stuff existed because I definitely don't have the power to not lurk :(

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my ex is also dating a girl who looks like a nutcase, even from a distance. I thought it'd be a big deal if I saw him with someone new, but I don't even feel a twinge of jealousy. They can enjoy each other.

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By the way, OG, if you really want to get over this guy the easiest way is to get into someone new, both figuratively and literally. Even if it doesn't work out with that new person, it will break the old person's spell over you. I don't think I totally got over my ex until I started seeing somebody I really liked -- although I was about 90% of the way there -- and even though things didn't work out with him, the feelings for my ex haven't returned.

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I also have a really addictive curiousity to watch what is happening.

 

Why do you do this to yourself??

 

Are there any tips to minimize this heartbreak?

 

First, stop being melodramatic. :) You had 5 dates, you found him dull and boring, and bad in bed. You had nothing in common. You dumped him.

 

You were not heartbroken then, nor are you now. :)

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I know this is going to sounds crazy but after I saw the most recent pictures of this girl, I am not jealous anymore. She is FAT. She has gained heaps of weight since her older pictures.

 

I really think that I am hotter than her - therefore I am over it. He has also changed for the worse since the last time I saw him.

 

Woah. Wow.

 

:( This attitude just makes me so sad for you. :(

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I know this is going to sounds crazy but after I saw the most recent pictures of this girl, I am not jealous anymore. She is FAT. She has gained heaps of weight since her older pictures.

 

I really think that I am hotter than her - therefore I am over it. He has also changed for the worse since the last time I saw him.

 

Well ... evidently she offers a lot of something besides "hotness" that the guy in question (is he actually an "ex"? Didn't you just go out with him a few times?) values, and he offers the same to her.

 

Have you shared the FB page with Ariadne now, after all the soap opera you two have been through around this fella? What is up with that?

 

Anyway, happy that the weight and hotness issues are enough to stop your pain. On the other hand, you might want to take a look at your perception of a "relationship." It's not all about the level of interest a guy has in you, and what you look like. Just saying.

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Well ... evidently she offers a lot of something besides "hotness" that the guy in question (is he actually an "ex"? Didn't you just go out with him a few times?) values, and he offers the same to her.

 

Have you shared the FB page with Ariadne now, after all the soap opera you two have been through around this fella? What is up with that?

 

Anyway, happy that the weight and hotness issues are enough to stop your pain. On the other hand, you might want to take a look at your perception of a "relationship." It's not all about the level of interest a guy has in you, and what you look like. Just saying.

 

 

No of course not. I haven't spoken to Ariadne outside of the forums. Do you really think I would share this girl's FB page with her after what she has done to me? Woah. You must really think that I am crazy :(

 

Ariadne is up to her old tricks. She knows the guy's name (through stalking him through my FB back in the day when I still had her on my friends list). He has some public info and it says on there that he is in a realtionship with _. So she looked the girl up too and saw her profile picture. That would be my guess anyway.

 

This sort of thing REALLY creeps me out. I wish that she would stop checking up on me but unfortunately there is nothing I can do about it.

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By the way, OG, if you really want to get over this guy the easiest way is to get into someone new, both figuratively and literally. Even if it doesn't work out with that new person, it will break the old person's spell over you. I don't think I totally got over my ex until I started seeing somebody I really liked -- although I was about 90% of the way there -- and even though things didn't work out with him, the feelings for my ex haven't returned.

 

This is so true. I just can't seem to get interested in anyone. I have even re-instated my dating profile today. I figure you have to be in it to win it.

 

My 4 year infatuation with my boss has ended the moment I started having feelings for that politician guy. Now that that's over too I found that my feelings for the boss haven't returned in the slightest.

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