Feeling worthless and incapable of being in a relationship

[Funf]

I'm giving up. I met someone who I thought would be different than the rest and was actually mature and loved me, but nope, I was wrong. Again. I'm so sick of this bullsh*t. I wish my ex of 3.5 years wasn't such an assh*le so I wouldn't have even been in this predicament in the first place. We broke up earlier this year and I met a new guy a few months ago. We clicked perfectly and he was 100x better than my ex. He was basically everything I was looking for. But then yesterday he dropped the bomb on me saying that he never really liked me. WTF. Now I really regret having sex with him and spending so much time with him. Now I'm at home and missing work because I'm such a wreck. I feel so worthless and incapable of being in a relationship.

 

I hate this! I'm so sick of being let down. I can't take it anymore. I wish a car could just hit me. I'm destined to be single forever and have heartbreak after heartbreak.

 

Any advice?

[Funf]

Days like these make me want to go back to my abusive ex just so I can at least experience and appreciate the good days with him...

[health]

You gotta be more more careful when choosing guys.

Make sure they can take coare of themselves, have no addicions, have integrity, into self improvement. Look for good character traits.

 

You gotta learn and grow. You could be picking these guys for a reason.

[Funf]

You gotta be more more careful when choosing guys.

Make sure they can take coare of themselves, have no addicions, have integrity, into self improvement. Look for good character traits.

 

You gotta learn and grow. You could be picking these guys for a reason.

He was able to take care of himself, had no addictions, had integrity, and into self improvement. He was so wonderful and I couldn't ask for more. This is why this hurts so much and I'm beginning to wonder if it's me.

 

I'm a medical student but it's hard to focus when all I want to do is lay on the couch and cry. Actually, that's what I'm doing right now.

[lofi_tokyo]

I'm giving up. I met someone who I thought would be different than the rest and was actually mature and loved me, but nope, I was wrong. Again. I'm so sick of this bullsh*t. I wish my ex of 3.5 years wasn't such an assh*le so I wouldn't have even been in this predicament in the first place. We broke up earlier this year and I met a new guy a few months ago. We clicked perfectly and he was 100x better than my ex. He was basically everything I was looking for. But then yesterday he dropped the bomb on me saying that he never really liked me. WTF. Now I really regret having sex with him and spending so much time with him. Now I'm at home and missing work because I'm such a wreck. I feel so worthless and incapable of being in a relationship.

 

I hate this! I'm so sick of being let down. I can't take it anymore. I wish a car could just hit me. I'm destined to be single forever and have heartbreak after heartbreak.

 

Any advice?

 

Wow welcome to my life. Seriously.

 

I had one ****ty ex who treated me SO BADLY. We dated for three years and he left me for someone else. Until he left me though - I clung like hell to him. I idolized him. I invested everything in him.

 

Then bang, new relationship comes along. I'm totally over my ex that hurt me, but the fear he has instill in be - both a distrust in others, along with this feeling that I'm horribly inadequate and that I can't tell if a relationship is good anymore. This fear thats stuck in me is ruining my current relationship.

 

I'm putting this new guy on a pedistol and its making him really uncomfortable. I keep getting upset when he doesn't fulfill the ideals I project on to him.

 

Now he's blaming himself and saying he's failing me. He can't change who he is and he thinks we're doomed to fail since I'm setting this ideal constantly.

 

I think I doom relationships to fail - because of my hurt in the past.

 

Maybe you're doing something similar? This recent ex - the guy who said he had no feelings - we're you putting him no a pillar like I do to everyone I date? I think that's could be the potential issue. The problem for me is - I recognise this, but I can't stop myself. BLAH!

 

So I want to say learn from your mistakes - but I guess I SHOULD say learn from the bad experiences, and make postive change happen.

[jeff2321]

It's all ****ed... the entire releationship and dating process is ****ed.

 

Biologically speaking we are supposed to be together to just produce an offspring and the rest is just random garbage... or so it seems.

 

I can tell you OP I'm in the same place you are in right now and it's a WEEKEND (HELL) so I'm sitting here depressed off my ass watching the minutes go by.

 

I'm completely going avoid women and talking about my breakup to everyone from now on... because all it does is push people away. Women just simply leave me at some point anyway because they have 'options' and better guys to date.

 

So **** ALL OF IT!

 

JEff

[ShannonMI]

Wow welcome to my life. Seriously.

 

I had one ****ty ex who treated me SO BADLY. We dated for three years and he left me for someone else. Until he left me though - I clung like hell to him. I idolized him. I invested everything in him.

 

Then bang, new relationship comes along. I'm totally over my ex that hurt me, but the fear he has instill in be - both a distrust in others, along with this feeling that I'm horribly inadequate and that I can't tell if a relationship is good anymore. This fear thats stuck in me is ruining my current relationship.

 

I'm putting this new guy on a pedistol and its making him really uncomfortable. I keep getting upset when he doesn't fulfill the ideals I project on to him.

 

Now he's blaming himself and saying he's failing me. He can't change who he is and he thinks we're doomed to fail since I'm setting this ideal constantly.

 

I think I doom relationships to fail - because of my hurt in the past.

 

Maybe you're doing something similar? This recent ex - the guy who said he had no feelings - we're you putting him no a pillar like I do to everyone I date? I think that's could be the potential issue. The problem for me is - I recognise this, but I can't stop myself. BLAH!

 

So I want to say learn from your mistakes - but I guess I SHOULD say learn from the bad experiences, and make postive change happen.

 

I can relate to the OP and Tokyo completely. I feel totally inadaquete as well now when it comes to relationships. I was asked out on a date a few days ago. I accepted and gave the guy my number. Now he won't leave me alone. I'm so not ready for this and I keep thinking "why the f*ck does this guy like me so much??" I feel like I'm not worthy and that he may like me now, but in time he'll just dump me like my ex did. My background: Dated my ex for 8 years, he dropped a bomb on me at the end of May saying we weren't right for each other anymore and that he had changed. Came out of nowhere because I thought everything was great with us. Come to find out he cheated on me a week before he even mentioned a breakup and is currently dating the girl he cheated with.

 

I don't want to give my heart to this new guy or anyone for that matter. I'm so damaged. I know it takes time to get over a breakup and the betrayal I experienced, but I just don't know anymore.

[ShannonMI]

It's all ****ed... the entire releationship and dating process is ****ed.

 

Biologically speaking we are supposed to be together to just produce an offspring and the rest is just random garbage... or so it seems.

 

I can tell you OP I'm in the same place you are in right now and it's a WEEKEND (HELL) so I'm sitting here depressed off my ass watching the minutes go by.

 

I'm completely going avoid women and talking about my breakup to everyone from now on... because all it does is push people away. Women just simply leave me at some point anyway because they have 'options' and better guys to date.

 

So **** ALL OF IT!

 

JEff

 

This is how I feel too. F*ck the whole "dating/love/relationship" sh*t. I'm so over it and I don't think I want to give myself to anyone for a long, long time if ever again. It's not worth the pain of being let down yet again and going through all the bullsh*t and effort.

[Billie The Puppet]

I feel like everyone in this thread, plus adding that my grandmother died as some already know and news that my ex did leave me for another guy. It all hurts so much. Yet again it's a weekend. I'm bored out my mind yet have no ambition for anything. I'll be seeing family in a setting that is already sad enough but won't have the comfort of the one who was going to be my fiancé by her own words with me.

 

I can see how we all see ourselves as damaged goods not capable of a relationship but is it more so that we want what we used to have and by that I mean before we knew it was going to end or was ending, before when our ex's wanted us, when the relationship was going so smooth. Are we afraid to start something new because it won't be what the last one was? Basically afraid of change.

 

On top of this I am missing my ex's Family too almost more so than her at the moment but that may be due to her having a new BF.

 

I for one want to enter another relationship but not for the sake of entering one but I want someone to share life with.

 

I am afraid to start such a relationship though, like it will be uncomfortable where as the previous one was comfortable to me.

 

However how long are we going to reject trying or reject those interested in us because we are becoming hermits, I don't want the feeling of being alone any more.

Edited October 16, 2010 by Billie The Puppet

[ShannonMI]

I feel like everyone in this thread, plus adding that my grandmother died as some already know and news that my ex did leave me for another guy. It all hurts so much. Yet again it's a weekend. I'm bored out my mind yet have no ambition for anything. I'll be seeing family in a setting that is already sad enough but won't have the comfort of the one who was going to be my fiancé by her own words with me.

 

I can see how we all see ourselves as damaged goods not capable of a relationship but is it more so that we want what we used to have and by that I mean before we knew it was going to end or was ending, before when our ex's wanted us, when the relationship was going so smooth. Are we afraid to start something new because it won't be what the last one was? Basically afraid of change.

 

On top of this I am missing my ex's Family too almost more so than her at the moment but that may be due to her having a new BF.

 

I for one want to enter another relationship but not for the sake of entering one but I want someone to share life with.

 

I am afraid to start such a relationship though, like it will be uncomfortable where as the previous one was comfortable to me.

 

However how long are we going to reject trying or reject those interested in us because we are becoming hermits, I don't want the feeling of being alone any more.

Hey Billie. Yeah, I don't want to become a hermit either, but at the same time I don't want to give myself to anyone. I don't want to put myself out there to get sh*t on. I'm very vulnerable. I have too much emotional baggage right now. Plus I suffer from depression and what guy is gonna wanna deal with that sh*t? My ex was very understanding about it. I've had it for years and while I've only had a few bad episodes, I'm on meds for it. I don't know how a new guy would feel about that. I realize anyone worth anything would be understanding of my issues, but still.

[Billie The Puppet]

Hey Billie. Yeah, I don't want to become a hermit either, but at the same time I don't want to give myself to anyone. I don't want to put myself out there to get sh*t on. I'm very vulnerable. I have too much emotional baggage right now. Plus I suffer from depression and what guy is gonna wanna deal with that sh*t? My ex was very understanding about it. I've had it for years and while I've only had a few bad episodes, I'm on meds for it. I don't know how a new guy would feel about that. I realize anyone worth anything would be understanding of my issues, but still.

 

This is going to come off awfully awkward as it's speaking to you whom I only know through text but there are guys out there that will put up with that sh*t as you put it. Your ex was one of them but I am going to be a little harsh here and say if he really was he would not have done what he did to you and that is cheat.

 

Now for the awkward part but the guy you describe is me (well partially as I know your other traits you look for) and I am being 100% honest here, but I come with my own problems too. Those problems I have cause me to be unattractive to women and since I am honest I'll say it has to do with my self-confidence. (All areas) I am co-dependent in a relationship and love to do things as long as both the partner and I are up to it, I hate controlling all the plans etc. When "space time" comes as you shouldn't be together 24/7 since I am introverted I tend to just keep to my self and online because I am socially awkward unless my partner is there with me. I seem to be the person everyone likes and will have as a friend but no one cares to make plans with me, I have to do the decision making and it's where I find myself socially awkward because I am shy.

 

My ex was like you and suffers from depression but needs to find something to keep busy to get her mind off of depression which may explain our break up too (Plus what I described to you above) because we were becoming routine etc she however was not on meds.

 

I miss her family and her because we as a group did stuff and I felt involved and loved every part of it. We vacationed with her sister and her sisters fiance at least 2x a year.

 

Basically there is that guy out there that you need but you won't allow yourself to find him, or he find you if you keep thinking of this emotional baggage. Perhaps the time will heal saying will eventually come true but until that day we will be hermits. - Perhaps LS actually burdens us, keeping the baggage alive.

 

Now I am carrying the same emotional baggage with me and am trying to mask it. I made a move when I ran into a friend from my past at her work by chance, She asked me if I was free tonight but I am not because of my grandmother situation. I asked for a rain check, however at the same time I am trying not to get my hopes up.

 

I don't think I'll ever not want what I lost/had until I have it with some one else.

[Sonolumino]

Funf, I'm sorry that you're hurting and you've been through an abusive ex. I'm a guy and let me just tell you I've always believed if a man ever puts his hand on a woman like that, he deserves to get his ass beaten half to death. Perhaps you tried to move on too soon? Nobody's ever really "ready" to put themselves out there like that, it is a big risk, but I think you might be picking the wrong type of guy. You say he was "100x" better than my ex, how did you know? Your rosy colored glasses probably obscured who he really was for a little while. In short, people normally see what they want to see in many things, including relationships. I think you should re-evaluate what you look for in men, and it will be a slow process. Keep going on dates to keep your mind occupied, but I'd shy away from relationships for a while.

 

As for me, I'm done with the whole relationship thing. From now on it's just dates/random sex.

[ShannonMI]

I know there are guys out there that will put up with my issues. I just don't feel like putting the effort in to find that particular guy. I'm sure that will change in time, but right now that's how I feel. I know everyone has their own issues and I shouldn't be so hard on myself. It's not like I am a drug addict or an alcoholic or something. I just suffer from clinical depression. It's not the worst thing ever. Also, I have MAJOR trust issues now. I thought my ex was 'the one' and didn't think he would do what he did. I trusted him with my life and look what he did to me. He was the last person in this world that I thought would betray me. And to such an extent. So for me to let down my guard again is going to be extremely difficult. It's going to take a lot. The guy that is interested in me is very nice, but I don't know if I feel a spark with him. I know I should just give him a chance, but I really don't think I'm ready. Plus he's a little over zealous. He acts like a love sick puppy and that is a turn off at this point for me. My ex was that way in the beginning and I remember feeling a bit smothered, but I fell in love with him anyways. And we all know how that turned out. He f*cked me over royally after 8 years together. Now I just have this really cynical view on men and their intentions and feelings. Yes, in the beginning they are going to be all lovey dovey and head over heels, but then they are going to grow tired of you and look for someone else. Like a young college girl who is a wh*re (so I've been told by numerous people) I just don't want to give myself to anyone and experience this pain again.

 

Like you Billie, I'm an introvert and a bit of a loner. This guy owns a bar, is super social has a ton of friends etc. etc. Are we a good match? Probably not! Should I waste my time? Probably not! This dating sh*t is for the birds, I swear:rolleyes:

 

This is going to come off awfully awkward as it's speaking to you whom I only know through text but there are guys out there that will put up with that sh*t as you put it. Your ex was one of them but I am going to be a little harsh here and say if he really was he would not have done what he did to you and that is cheat.

 

Now for the awkward part but the guy you describe is me (well partially as I know your other traits you look for) and I am being 100% honest here, but I come with my own problems too. Those problems I have cause me to be unattractive to women and since I am honest I'll say it has to do with my self-confidence. (All areas) I am co-dependent in a relationship and love to do things as long as both the partner and I are up to it, I hate controlling all the plans etc. When "space time" comes as you shouldn't be together 24/7 since I am introverted I tend to just keep to my self and online because I am socially awkward unless my partner is there with me. I seem to be the person everyone likes and will have as a friend but no one cares to make plans with me, I have to do the decision making and it's where I find myself socially awkward because I am shy.

 

My ex was like you and suffers from depression but needs to find something to keep busy to get her mind off of depression which may explain our break up too (Plus what I described to you above) because we were becoming routine etc she however was not on meds.

 

I miss her family and her because we as a group did stuff and I felt involved and loved every part of it. We vacationed with her sister and her sisters fiance at least 2x a year.

 

Basically there is that guy out there that you need but you won't allow yourself to find him, or he find you if you keep thinking of this emotional baggage. Perhaps the time will heal saying will eventually come true but until that day we will be hermits. - Perhaps LS actually burdens us, keeping the baggage alive.

 

Now I am carrying the same emotional baggage with me and am trying to mask it. I made a move when I ran into a friend from my past at her work by chance, She asked me if I was free tonight but I am not because of my grandmother situation. I asked for a rain check, however at the same time I am trying not to get my hopes up.

 

I don't think I'll ever not want what I lost/had until I have it with some one else.

[ShannonMI]

No one may necessarily want to deal with it, but plenty of people will/would be understanding about it, particularly anyone who has ever dealt with it themselves.

 

My ex suffered from depression, as well as a whole host of other medical issues -- but none of that stopped her from accomplishing her goals in life. That was something I found very admirable about her. It is possible that someone will/would see the same in you.

Thank you for this. I certainly don't let my depression stop me from living. It's not like I wallow away and am a miserable person to be around. I manage my depression with meds and I've been good for a long time. Now I am struggling with it again because of this breakup. It's understandable, I know.

[ShannonMI]

If I were in your position, Shan, I would just establish a friendship with the new guy. If he owns a bar and is an extrovert, he could help you get out of the house on occasion so you don't die from ammonia fumes eminating from liter for seventeen cats. That's a terrible way to die!

Hahahahahaha that made me crack up! No worries, I won't die from inhaling cat piss fumes. I don't particularly like cats. I'm a dog person. Although right now, I do think my dog Miloh, is the love of my life. So maybe I SHOULD be concerned:rolleyes:

[Billie The Puppet]

What you just wrote about being the "one" and all right down to the last part applies for my story too just reverse the gender roles. I have read philosophy on women stating the same thing they are all lovely dovey at the start and then get bored and look for another man. (This is my case to a T). My mother has told me to get the book Men are from Mars women are from Venus it apparently explains a lot.

 

I think men and women are the same. I just think it switches from the person who was clingy at the beginning to the opposite that's when it ends.

 

I have finally been erased completely from her profile photo's on FB (I know I shouldn't be looking but it was already validated earlier when I found out she has a new boyfriend whom she was talking to when I was with her)

 

I can't 100% sure say she cheated on me before we ended, but it doesn't make a difference we are over.

 

So you being an introvert how do you spend your days? Especially being lonely but not ready to date.

 

I'm having a tough time filling the weekends I just have no ambition to do anything and I hate seeing couples now it just hurts. I get through the weekdays semi okay because of work and then a routine of TV watching etc. I have the odd time where I have plans with friends. It just seems like I gave my ex all of me and thats why I miss her so much I miss that routine I had.

 

I do have winter plans to ski and or snowboard and come spring I really want to try skydiving (however it would be nice to share these experiences with someone)

[ShannonMI]

What you just wrote about being the "one" and all right down to the last part applies for my story too just reverse the gender roles. I have read philosophy on women stating the same thing they are all lovely dovey at the start and then get bored and look for another man. (This is my case to a T). My mother has told me to get the book Men are from Mars women are from Venus it apparently explains a lot.

 

I think men and women are the same. I just think it switches from the person who was clingy at the beginning to the opposite that's when it ends.

 

I have finally been erased completely from her profile photo's on FB (I know I shouldn't be looking but it was already validated earlier when I found out she has a new boyfriend whom she was talking to when I was with her)

 

I can't 100% sure say she cheated on me before we ended, but it doesn't make a difference we are over.

 

So you being an introvert how do you spend your days? Especially being lonely but not ready to date.

 

I'm having a tough time filling the weekends I just have no ambition to do anything and I hate seeing couples now it just hurts. I get through the weekdays semi okay because of work and then a routine of TV watching etc. I have the odd time where I have plans with friends. It just seems like I gave my ex all of me and thats why I miss her so much I miss that routine I had.

 

I do have winter plans to ski and or snowboard and come spring I really want to try skydiving (however it would be nice to share these experiences with someone)

I spend time with my dog. I read. I watch TV. I have Sunday dinner with a close girlfriend of mine. I used to spend Sundays with my ex and we would have Sunday dinner at his parents. As you said, I miss my ex's family very much. I'm still in contact with my ex's mother through email. I love her to death and I always will. She tells me the same thing. She tells me she loves me and misses me. Makes me wonder if she's met the new girl in my ex's life. I should probably stop being in contact with her, but I find it very difficult considering she was like a second mother to me for 8 years of my life. I was very close to her. Her son is a piece of sh*t, but she isn't. Ugh!! It sucks a**!

[Billie The Puppet]

I only have 2.75 years of history behind me, but have become attached to her family. I want to remain in contact and they say they miss me etc and they have met the new guy but have to give him respect because he is the guy that now makes her happy which I understand. I won't ever know if my ex physically cheated on me but I know she was developing feelings for her new guy while I was with her.

 

I am hanging out at least one more time with my friend and his fiancé whom is my ex's sister (They miss me) and my ex's father has told me not to be a stranger but I don't know how not to be now as I feel it would be awkward to contact him. He even said to stop by to hang out.

 

I wish I had a time machine.

 

Down weekend for me .

[ShannonMI]

I only have 2.75 years of history behind me, but have become attached to her family. I want to remain in contact and they say they miss me etc and they have met the new guy but have to give him respect because he is the guy that now makes her happy which I understand. I won't ever know if my ex physically cheated on me but I know she was developing feelings for her new guy while I was with her.

 

I am hanging out at least one more time with my friend and his fiancé whom is my ex's sister (They miss me) and my ex's father has told me not to be a stranger but I don't know how not to be now as I feel it would be awkward to contact him. He even said to stop by to hang out.

 

I wish I had a time machine.

 

Down weekend for me .

 

Yep, my ex's mom wanted to have coffee with me, but I told her I didn't think that was a good idea right now. I told her I would probably burst into tears if I saw her. She said she understood, and that she would probably do the same thing. So we just email back and forth. We don't talk about my ex at all. I tell her I'm doing well and I'm a lot stronger then I ever thought I could be (which BTW is true and I'm pretty proud of myself for my strength considering what has happened to me and what I'm going through) We also talk about my dad who was diagnosed with Mantle Cell Lymphoma (cancer:() a few months after my ex and I broke up. She's very kind and supportive. My ex tried reaching out to me a few weeks ago with a lame a** text about being my friend and I think it's because he knows about my dad. I'm sure his mother has given him updates as well. I didn't respond because I don't want his f*cking friendship. I hope he feel like utter sh*t for what he did to me and what I'm going through with my family. He's such a pr*ck.

[Billie The Puppet]

Sorry to hear about your father's illness, My father is getting up there in age and has developed prostate problems that could become cancerous. I wish there was an instant solution to our emotional baggage / pain. I mean I feel strong like you on a lot of days and remind myself though I loved her and thought she was the "one" she is now the " minus one " and perhaps one day I will find the " plus one ". I just wish there was a magic solution where we could snap our fingers and have the perfect significant other in front of us.

 

However if we are still coming to LS and in the break up, second chances and coping boards our ex's are still in our thoughts and for some of us hearts. I think my ex will always be in both but for who she was when we were together. (Be it hatred thoughts, good thoughts, or lost memories) The way I look at it now is she loved me for the greater part of the relationship, the flame just went out.

 

So how are we supposed to move on if they are in our heart and minds.

 

While I type this I am listening to Linkin Park and it just seems that I can apply lyrics from any of their songs to me and my ex, or me in my current state.

[ShannonMI]

Sorry to hear about your father's illness, My father is getting up there in age and has developed prostate problems that could become cancerous. I wish there was an instant solution to our emotional baggage / pain. I mean I feel strong like you on a lot of days and remind myself though I loved her and thought she was the "one" she is now the " minus one " and perhaps one day I will find the " plus one ". I just wish there was a magic solution where we could snap our fingers and have the perfect significant other in front of us.

 

However if we are still coming to LS and in the break up, second chances and coping boards our ex's are still in our thoughts and for some of us hearts. I think my ex will always be in both but for who she was when we were together. (Be it hatred thoughts, good thoughts, or lost memories) The way I look at it now is she loved me for the greater part of the relationship, the flame just went out.

 

So how are we supposed to move on if they are in our heart and minds.

 

While I type this I am listening to Linkin Park and it just seems that I can apply lyrics from any of their songs to me and my ex, or me in my current state.

I know what you mean. How will anyone replace our exes and how much they meant to us? I don't know. It all takes time, I suppose. I also sort of believe that there is a higher power that is steering us down a certain path. Looking out for us in a way. I've never been particularly religious, actually I'm not religious at all, but lately I just feel like someone or something is watching over me. Weather it be "God" or a "guardian angel" (as you can see, not sure I really believe in all that) or a deceased relative (both my grandparents, who I was very close with as a child, died not too long ago). I keep getting signs that there is something or someone there. I know I probably sound like a fruitcake, but that's honestly how I feel.

[Billie The Puppet]

I know what you mean. How will anyone replace our exes and how much they meant to us? I don't know. It all takes time, I suppose. I also sort of believe that there is a higher power that is steering us down a certain path. Looking out for us in a way. I've never been particularly religious, actually I'm not religious at all, but lately I just feel like someone or something is watching over me. Weather it be "God" or a "guardian angel" (as you can see, not sure I really believe in all that) or a deceased relative (both my grandparents, who I was very close with as a child, died not too long ago). I keep getting signs that there is something or someone there. I know I probably sound like a fruitcake, but that's honestly how I feel.

 

That's the weird thing. I'm agnostic so I don't believe in god, yet I have prayed promised etc when the BU was fresh for a sign things will get better etc. I have even looked up to relatives that have passed but this is all going against my beliefs.Since it happened my mind became uncontrollable. So it is like when she left to find herself (with another man) I lost myself. So I only believed in god when I needed one. Now the brain argues perhaps this is punishment for not believing in god, but then again if there is a god not believing in one god would not punish for that. I feel like my life may be steered a certain way too by some sort of energy. However I can argue that as well because why would energy be positive for some and totally negative for others (Killers, Pedo's, Terrorists, Less fortunate etc) so then I counter argue myself with we control our own destiny which is true in all aspect of life except relationships because we can not control the other half.

 

Now I sound like the fruitcake, wow we seemed to have highjacked the OP thread which is my trademark. Ha Ha we should almost open our own thread since we have crossed paths in multiple threads or a chat link. I have also done this with AJAX.

[Funf]

No, no! You guys are fine in this thread. Oddly enough, my dad too has cancer. I, too, hope that there is a higher power/energy guiding me down a path to something better and that I can gain meaning from my last relationship. I'm also on meds for depression and trying to figure out how to occupy my weekends as an introvert.

 

I'm living through your posts (and it makes me feel better knowing that there are others out there with similar issues) so please post away!

[Billie The Puppet]

Wow maybe we should all work on becoming extroverts perhaps future relationships will prevail if we over come this. I blame that because I am shy.

 

So so far we are all ex's to someone we love(d) and not dating a new, all introverts, and all have fathers who have cancer (bar mine as it has not developed yet but could) also all feel there is some sort of energy or power guiding us that we can't explain. Also all depressed (Only me is because of what I lost I never was so depressed I needed meds before I got some since the BU though) So much in common.

 

I've been living through threads on here too it's now wonder I became an established member so fast. I'm unsure it's healthy but seeing as I am an introvert spare time draws me here.

 

I've tried to be positive with every post but when I see others just starting to go through what I went through when the break up is fresh I have to be harsh and negative sometimes.

 

Too bad we all can't meet up due to everyones locations but we could make e-plans sometimes when we find ourselves bored. All rent the same movie and open up a chat and talk about it etc.

 

I mean it's at least we have each other type thing especially when the holiday season approaches.

 

As for you Funf that's sad someone would go the length to say they never really liked you, It's BS to be honest if someone doesn't like someone they don't get with them unless its one of those fraternity house pranks to deliberately hurt someone etc. Now he may have changed his feelings at one point but he had to have likes you in the first place.

Edited October 16, 2010 by Billie The Puppet

[ShannonMI]

No, no! You guys are fine in this thread. Oddly enough, my dad too has cancer. I, too, hope that there is a higher power/energy guiding me down a path to something better and that I can gain meaning from my last relationship. I'm also on meds for depression and trying to figure out how to occupy my weekends as an introvert.

 

I'm living through your posts (and it makes me feel better knowing that there are others out there with similar issues) so please post away!

I'm sorry to hear about your dad. What kind of cancer does he have? It's so funny how all of us are so similar to each other. It's kind of eerie isn't it?